How To Deal With Difficult People Without Going Insane

More than 300 comments!

Many of them emotional. Pained. Smudged with tears.

Okay, that’s not true. Blog comments on the web don’t get wet. But I imagined that if they were written on paper, they’d look like used tissue paper after my wife watches a Bea Alonzo-John Lloyd telenovela. (You can read the flood of comments in my previous post, Do You Have A Difficult Person In Your Life?)

It seems like everyone on the planet has a difficult person to strangle, er, I mean to grapple with. But many answered my question, “What special gifts do Difficult People give you?”

I loved your answers! I sifted through all your comments (Yes, I read every single one of them) and found 4 fantastic gifts that difficult people give to us. I just compiled your comments–so a big thanks for being my wonderful research team!

I could list down a hundred gifts, but keeping the list short will make it easier to appreciate.

Are you ready?

Here are the big 4 gifts you receive from difficult people. (Note: Check out especially Gift #2, because that’s what many people don’t do…)

Gift #1:

Difficult people can teach you how to love,

preparing you for Heaven!


§ You learn to become more patient, more understanding, more persevering.

§ You have pity for them because you realize that “Hurt people hurt people”

§ You learn to see the good qualities even among difficult people.

§ You learn how to be compassionate as God is compassionate.

§ You learn how to forgive, to remove bitterness from your heart.

Gift #2:

Difficult people can teach you to protect yourself

and learn to say “No” to abuse.


§ You learn to love yourself, respect yourself, by no longer allowing abuse.

§ You learn to be courageous and stand up against bullies.

§ You learn to give tough love–refusing his abuse again. It may be the most loving thing you can do for a difficult person.

§ You wizen up, learn tact, and learn how to distance yourself from harmful people.

Gift #3:

Difficult people can help you

get to know your weaknesses.


§ Difficult people remind you that you too could be difficult to others.

§ Difficult people teach you many important lessons in life. By seeing the tragic results of their actions, you’re inspired to do the very opposite of what they do.

Gift #4:

Difficult people can bring you closer to God.


§ Difficult people force you to pray a lot. (“Lord, help! I can’t take it anymore!”)

§ Difficult people force you to trust in God. (“Lord, I give up! I’ve done everything but she’s still a monster…”)

§ Praying for difficult people may not change them, but YOU will.

§ “Your cross (difficult person) is your key to heaven…” St. Poveda

§ You realize that YOU are God’s difficult person–yet you’re still loved by God!

Friend, God allows difficult people into your life to give you these 4 gifts.

Don’t miss receiving them!

In my next blog, I’ll share more personally about a few difficult people in my life, and how I dealt with them.

May your dreams come true,

Bo Sanchez

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