Do You Have Patterns Of Success?
It’s easy to be a good boy or good girl once in awhile.
It’s easy to love your spouse once in awhile. (Even a drunk wife-beating husband who maintains 3 girlfriends can love his wife once in a while.)
It’s easy to eat your veggies once in awhile.
It’s easy to stop smoking once in awhile.
It’s easy to come to a prayer meeting like the Feast once in awhile.
But if you want massive changes in your life, you’ve got to do it all the time. The Bible says, And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. (Galatians 6:9)
Success, after all, is all about patterns.
Create Patterns Of Success
Do you have to succeed in your life?
If you want success, you need to create Patterns of Success. Habits. Rituals. Almost non-thinking, second nature, repeated behavior.
If you want to be happier in your life, you’ve got to create Patterns of Happiness.
If you want to be healthy in your body, you’ve got to create Patterns of Health.
If you want more love in your relationships, you’ve got to create Patterns of Love.
Here’s a fact: According to research, 90% of our behaviors are patterns. Habits. Rituals. Ninety percent!
You Can’t Help But Win
Here’s the good news. If you create Patterns of Success, it’ll be very difficult not to succeed. You can’t help but win. Even if you tried losing, it won’t be easy.
Example? I was reading about Larry Bird.
Larry Bird is in the Guinness Book of World Records as one of the best shooters in basketball history.
One day, Larry was doing a television commercial.
The director told him, “Larry, here’s what I want you to do. I want you to take a shot and miss.”
Larry said, “Sure!”
“Lights, Camera, Action!” the production assistant shouts.
Larry takes the ball, throws it into the air, and it goes straight into the ring. “Oops,” Larry says, “Sorry!”
“It’s okay,” the Director says, “Miss the shot this time, Larry. Take 2!”
“Lights, Camera, Action!” the man with the clapper hollers again.
Larry grabs the ball, looks up, and shoots… and the ball goes in again. “Oh no,” he says, “I really am very sorry.
“Take three!” the Director shouts again.
Guess what. On the third try, Larry drills it in again.
This is astounding: It took Larry 15 takes before he finally missed a shot.
Why? Because for the past 30 years, Larry had a Pattern of shooting that ball in. His conscious mind was telling him, “Miss the shot!” But his subconscious mind was telling his entire body, “Shoot it in!” And most of the time, the subconscious mind wins.
I read something amazing. For years, after each team practice, Larry Bird would stay behind. When all the players were gone, he’d shut off the lights in the court. And in semi-darkness, he’d shoot for thirty more minutes.
Let me repeat: When you have a Pattern of Success, it’ll be very difficult not to succeed in life.
Focus On Your Magic 20%
And the great thing about success is that it doesn’t involve a humongous list of habits.
Remember the Pareto Principle? 20% of causes produce 80% of the results.
So here’s how to change your life: Focus on the Magic 20% of habits that produce 80% of the results you desire.
I’ve found this true in my life. If you want to be successful in any area of your life, it really boils down to three or four habits only in each of area.
Let me give you three examples from my life…
Marriage Success
To make my wife happy, I’ve found out that it comes down to 3 habits only. How did I discover these 3 habits? I deciphered her love language. (Note: What I am about to explain is my wife’s love language. Your spouse may have a totally different love language—and so you’ll have a different list of 3 habits than mine.)
When I wrote my goal “to be a great husband,” it was such a daunting dream. It seemed gigantic. But today, I realized that if I just focus on doing three simple habits, I’d be very close to becoming a great husband.
First, I should date her weekly. If I miss a date with her (let’s say Pope Benedict called me up on our date night for a Conference Call to consult whether to canonize someone), I should replace that date within that same week.
Second, I should text her when I’m away from home. She says that she wants to feel that I still think of her, that we’re still connected even if we’re physically apart.
Third, I should complement her once a day. I need to tell her, “You’re wonderful,” or “I love your dress,” or “You look stunning today.”
I’ve discovered that if I just do these three rituals everyday, I’ll make my wife very happy. Mababaw ang kaligayahan ng Misis ko. (My wife is easy to please.)
To make her happy, I don’t have to give her elaborate or expensive gifts. In fact, I never do. Because gifts aren’t her love language. (Now you know why I’m rich.) For my Anniversary, Birthday, and Christmas gifts, she’d rather receive love letters from me. So that’s what I give her. Even if I write the same thing over and over again (I’m tempted to photocopy them), she still cries when she reads them.
And I really believe that most of us are the same—we just need three or four rituals to make us happy.
Even our kids…
Parenting Success
On my list of dreams, I wrote down, “To be a great father”.
Again, this is such a gigantic dream, it’s intimidating.
But I realized that all it takes are three or four habits.
For example, to succeed as a father to my youngest son Francis, I’ve whittled it down to three habits. If I do these three habits, I would succeed in building a strong bond with him. (Note: I have another list of habits for my eldest son Benedict.)
Let me go over them one by one.
First, I should tell bedtime stories to Francis every night. And recently, I don’t read books to him anymore. I just make up an original story from my head. And he loves it. Because he can change the story midstream. I’m hallucinating that by spending time with my son before bedtime, there’s this possibility that I can shape his last thoughts and dreams. Who knows? Perhaps the wisdom and values I give him lingers in his thoughts longer.
Second, I should take a walk with him around our village every morning. While walking, we talk about anything he wants to talk about. So we talk about dinosaurs, dolphins, dinosaurs, killer whales, dinosaurs, aliens, and uh, did I mention dinosaurs? But during these walks, I’m able to impart again my love for him.
Third, I should play with him during the day. It doesn’t have to be long. Just a few minutes where I sit on the floor and we play with his toys together.
If I do these three rituals every day, without a doubt, I would be able to create a very strong father-son bond that will last a lifetime.
Financial Success
Do you want to be rich?
I built my wealth by focusing on 3 habits only. Not 185 habits. Yes, building wealth is simple. (Not easy. But simple.) That’s why a lot of people can’t get it. They’re looking for complicated ways of getting wealthy.
First, I should develop my core gift and give it to the world. I need to learn to monetize this core gift. And I believe that money will flow to me like the waves of the sea, because that’s just how God designed this cosmos. Give and you shall receive. Plant and you shall harvest.
Second, I should invest a portion of my income into the Stock Market every month—buying great companies. Not trading but investing. This simple ritual will make me very wealthy over time.
Third, I should tithe. Unless I tithe, I will lose my hunger for growing my wealth. Tithing is my fire. My fuel. My inspiration. If I don’t tithe, I lose my purpose to build my wealth.
These are the three rituals that make me rich.
It’s these tiny habits that will change your life.
Let me tell you how small things can cause big changes.
What Are Your Broken Windows?
I got fascinated when Michael Levine talked about the “Broken Windows” Theory.
He said criminologists first observed the “Broken Windows” Theory in 1982. They discovered that something as small as a broken window in a building could start the deterioration of its entire neighborhood. How, you ask?
Simple. First, a broken window sends a wrong signal to those who live there and to those who pass by. People would think that no one cares. Soon, other windows will be broken. Soon, trespassers will live in the building. Soon, the building becomes a haven for drug addiction. And soon, real estate prices of the entire neighborhood plummets.
All because of one broken window.
Friend, you may have “Broken Windows” in your life. You may have small habits that send the wrong signals to you and to others. That you’re not an honest person. That you’re not a loving person. That you’re not a disciplined person. Because of these seemingly insignificant habits, your life is in chaos now.
What are your “Broken Windows”? What seemingly insignificant bad habits can you fix now—which will make a huge difference in your life?
Cleaning The Graffiti
Here’s the good news.
The opposite is true: They’ve discovered that if you fix one seemingly insignificant problem, you help solve the bigger problem.
In New York, the head of its subway system decided to do two seemingly small things: Clean the graffiti in the subways and arrest “turnstile jumpers”. (Everyday, there were 170,000 people who didn’t pay their subway tickets.)
Some people criticized the authorities for picking on “minor crimes”. But they pressed on.
What happened? Over the years, they saw murder, assaults, robberies, and other violent crimes go down dramatically.
And it all started by cleaning the graffiti on subways.
Let me ask again: What graffiti can you remove from your life? What small and seemingly insignificant bad habits can you change right now that will solve your biggest problems?
Perhaps it’s coming to the Feast (our spiritual gathering) without fail. Imagine how that will dramatically change your life this year.
Or perhaps it’s waking up one hour earlier. Think how that will massively transform every day of your life.
Or perhaps complementing your spouse at least once a day. Imagine how that will bless your marriage!
Or perhaps it’s reading a bedtime story to your child everyday.
Or perhaps it’s investing 20% of your income for your future.
Or perhaps giving up white lies. (White lies are broken windows. By telling white lies, you send a wrong message to yourself. That you are duplicitous. That you’re not trustworthy.)
If you fix these “Broken Windows” in your life, you’ll change the direction of your entire life—and the life of your family.
Jesus said, If you are faithful in little things, you will be faithful in large ones. But if you are dishonest in little things, you won’t be honest with greater responsibilities. (Luke 16:10)
Conclusion:
Accept “Slip Ups” As Part Of The Journey
Warning.
Most likely, you’ll slip up.
In your journey towards changing your life, you’ll inadvertently fall a few times.
Hear me out: Don’t be too hard on yourself.
I was studying a scientific research done between two kinds of dieters. The first group of dieters, when they “slip up”, beat themselves for failing. The second group of dieters, when they “slip up”, forgive themselves and simply start over.
Research says that the second group of dieters were more successful in loosing weight than the first group of dieters.
Why? Because when the first dieter eats a cake, the dieter gets so angry with herself, she gets so depressed, she ends up eating the entire cake.
Sounds familiar?
Friend, when you fail, smile and stand up again.
Don’t eat the entire cake.
Are you falling into old patterns?
Don’t give up. Just move on. Forgive yourself. Start over.
Remember: God doesn’t give up on you.
The Bible said, He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion… (Philippians 1:6)
God has a habit of finishing what He started. And from what I know, He never breaks this habit.
He started a great work in you.
Your life may be a mess right now.
That’s okay.
He’s not yet through with you.
He’ll finish His beautiful work in you.
May your dreams come true,
Bo Sanchez
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Dear Brother Bo,
What a beautiful article to start my week. There is always a positive feeling in me whenever I read your articles. You are indeed a blessing.
I have come across with this patterns of success but you have explained it better. Thank you Brother Bo. May GOD continue to bless you, your family, your ministry and everyone that surrounds you!
Joy Payumo
This is very enlightening and very timely. Thank you for this article. God bless you, Bo!
Thanks Bro. Bo, this is really very inspiring!! =))
I’ve copied all your articles on my phone and been waiting for another one every day . hehe. Thank you. May more of your dreams come true too. Emma Bonto
Thanks for the very inspiring soulfood blog post bro. bo, It really helps make a difference in my life. Thank you for letting us know and remember what are the important things in life that we should not neglect. Hope I can manage to have that change in my life as well. Thank you for sharing such a wonderful message.
Bo! Bo! Bo! Bo! Bo! Bo! Bo! Bo! Bo! Bo!
‘love this article.. thank you so much!
May God grant you hundred more years and I hope God will clone you!
.. thank you bro. bo.. i always make it a habit to read your blog every monday morning to start a great week ahead!
Inspiring advice to achieve financial success…
Bro. Bo,
Thankyou very much on this another inspiring message/article. its great help for me specially now that im facing new challenge. God bless you..
Thanks Bro. Bo for this inspiring post.. it made me think… Cheers
good am bro. bo.
a very timely message to start the week… success is always a part of every endeavour we have in life…thanks
Brother Bo,
Thank you so much for a very wonderful article. It’s a great jumpstart for the week. But the last 4 lines plus your salutation was what brought me to tears. I know God is working overtime to make my life the best one for me.. and this is the same for all of us.
God Bless!
Tan
for me again?
thanks, bro bo, for being the deliverer of God’s love letters to me every week…very much grateful
He truly knows what i need to hear/read/know…such unbreakable habit!
may i continue to persevere in spite of my “slip ups”
have a grace-filled week everyone
I was blessed by this talk. Thanks you very much. I’m still holding on to my resolutions.
Hi Bro. Bo,
God answered my prayers by directing me to you. May you be blessed more…
I like the “Broken Windows” topic! thank you! =>
Habits…even if others still see the broken window, and still box me in, I will still trust God…hindi naman siguro masamang ilayo na lang ang sarili sa mga taong hindi ka mapatawad sa mga kamaliang nagawa mo sa buhay.
Hi Bro. Bo,
Good Morning!
Thank you for this article, indeed it such very helpful.
More Power and God Bless.
You’re right Bro. Bo, God has great plan for me…
Am starting to be back on my feet again…..
Thank you for your wonderful articles… It truly inspire me : )
I love the broken window theory.
the little things you do reflects your life.
thanks Bro Bo.
thank you Bro. Bo for imparting a great lesson in life.
Catch me i’m falling into bad habits… masyado na maraming broken windows in my life. this article is a wake up call for me.. thank you so much brother Bo.. God has truly blessed you!
Thank you so much Bro. Bo. Another inspiring message…May God bless you and your family…
very inspiring and very encouraging. Thank you Bro. Bo. This will help me fulfill my dreams to my family and to our life to prosper. Thank you for being an instrument to help people like me to be closer to God and to my family. God bless you and your family.
tremendous and powerful phrase philippians 1: 6
Thanks bro. Bo….another lessons learned….God Bless you!!!
thank you bro.Bo, you really have made great changes in my life with your soulfood inspirations…May God continue using you to open everyone’s heart…
Bo you are such a blessing! Your articles have always inspired me to do better and become a better person.
thanks do much for this article… its so much inspiring..love to read first day of the week…thank you for being a blessing…Godspeed
Being consistent is a challenge. I often relapse to my old ways. But you are correct bro. Bo, all I have to do is to start again. More blessings…
Thanks to you Bro. Bo. Another very inspiring article. God Bless you!
kuya bo.. thanks!
great help for us..very very much:)
Bro. Bo,
Many many thanks to you for this another very inspiring article.
GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS!!!
Thank you….
Thank you Bro. Bo. God bless…………..
Dear Bro. Bo,
This is so beautiful…Wonderful & inspiring…GOD has blessed us with you…Thank you so much!
GOD bless you&your family,
Hutch ;-D
Dear Bro. Bo.
it’s sor inspiring . God Bless
marlyn
Love this very inspiring and beautiful article, Bro. Bo. It lists all that is important and what should take precedence in our life.
Thank you for continuing to inspire us.
Godbless you and your family,
Mikki
Brother Bo,
May God continue to touch your heart and mind so that you’ll be able to write wonderful and inspiring articles like the one above so people like me who are following you may be guided and be bless every time we read the articles you published here on your site.
Thank you so much Bo!
P.S. I always be grateful and thankful that GOD never gives up on me and to all of us, thank you for reminding this to me again brother Bo.
Your articles are always a blessing to me… this is very timely as I am struggling right now with shifting paradigms and changing habits. Everyday, I have to talk to myself, convince and even beg myself to “do it now.”
Procrastination is my Graffiti.
Thank you God for Bro. Bo’s big love and heart. Thank you for the blessings!
What can I say? Another great article to inspire me. It seems like you are talking to me directly. Thank you very much, I can totally relate to everything you wrote. I guess it’s really time to fix my “broken windows”. God bless you brother and please keep up the good work.
Always inspiring Bro . Bo. God bless
Very True and Very Inspiring!!!
Thanks, Bro. Bo!!! You are a true Blessing to this world, May you always be!!!
God Bless You More!!!
thank you brother bo..
Another great piece! Big Tnx Bro. Bo.. I went to National Bookstore yesterday, and I found your books in a separate shelves. I browse thru them and after a mini- mi-ni-moe, i decided to buy 4O Stories of PASSION and My Maid Invest in Stock Market plus a pocket size KJV Bible. How’s that for a start? I’m very positive I could change my life and my love ones for the better. Oh before that, I pass on a BDO branch in SM, and hesitantly i go there, pick up a deposit slip and donate a measely P500 pesos to Shepherd’s Voice Radio and TV. I think i’m really starting to change! In JESUS name I will! GODBLESS us all.. ”,)
Thank you for the inspiring message, has totally changed my mind set and perception of avenues to success!
Thank you!
Thanks Bo for the nice message again.
NOw i’m finding the broken windows of my life. I was blessed with this blog. Thank you so much.
Very inspiring! thank you Bro Bo!
God bless us!
Feel blessed everyday. Thank you Bro. Bo. Now, set to have patterns in my life. Positivity for us!
Great ideas & wonderful insights - explained in a very simple way!
Please don’t get tired sharing your thoughts with us Bro. Bo.
You may not know most of us, but you have given us so much.
So much hope.
So much inspiring thoughts.
So much beautiful words to live by.
May God bless you & your family.
Bro. Bo,
You are truely God’s messenger!!!!
Your wisdom is truely amazing!!!
ALL GLORY & PRAISE TO OUR LORD, JESUS CHRIST!!! AMEN!!!!!!
Thank you very much, Bro Bo.
You’re God given instrument to me for all my life ’s purposes.
thank you bro bo cause everytime i read your inspirational messages i am always motivated to be good. i know i am not good enough but there was inside me that makes me interested in everything about God. thank you
your messages lifts me up all the time! simple yet profound. truly a source of inspiration.
thank you for sharing your gift and your passion to the world! i thank God for people like you!
Thanks Bro. Bo! Inspiring as ever. God Bless =)
Dear Brother Bo,
You hit the highest calling and have been ysed by God to expose the Christ in you in all your talks. I praise God for you. May you continue to impart with all God’s power true fullness of Christ.
Thank you.
Bro. Bo.. Thanks for such an inspiring article! i’ve actually been thinking about this success thing coz i think my career is not advancing as what i expect it to be.. but i know i have to be patient to attain a greater success in life. thanks so much!
I’m starting now to make this as a habit reading your Blogs Bro Bo. Thanks this!!!
Dear Bo,
What a wonderful topic and very inspiring. I would certainly follow the habit. Again, you change our ways of thinking with our everyday lives. God Bless you and your family.
Thank you once again for another wonderful and inspiring messages, brother Bo.. Truly , God does not give up on me .. Thank you bro Bo…
youre my idol!! great article … i keep on reading this … God Bless Us All !!
very very true noh? (Antonio, 2009)
This line is jumping up and down calling me:
“Are you falling into old patterns?
Don’t give up. Just move on. Forgive yourself. Start over.”
Thanks Ninong. I needed that.
God bless always.
Very Inspiring! Praise God!
Indeed, the wisdom that God has given you inspired us to be following Jesus each and everyday of our life. Thank you Bo for sharing with us His Blessings! Amen.
Bo, it seems you’re right here beside me talking to me right now. These words are all for me. Thank you very much! May you continue to enlighten such persons like me. God bless you…
Thanks Bro. Bo for very inspiring messages. I read your emails always but fail to make comments everytime. Now, i just want you to know how much you inspire me to do good and to shage God’s word with others.
Keep up the good work! May God bless you always!
It seems that you are talking right through me face to face with these messages, I am guilty. Thank you so much for waking me up today.
More power and God bless!
awesome Bro. Bo!
very thankful to receive an enlightenment always… God bless you and your family all the time..
thanks…..
I thank God so much once again & to you brother Bo for another inspiring, heart touching & wonderful article. Just like others, I believe God is also working on me to wake me up on my weak points, “my Broken Windows” esp. this Lenten Season..I feel sorry to God & ask His forgiveness but i have to forgive myself first, then try to change & move on, by God’s grace… I’m so happy that God doesn’t really give up on us..on me…& He’ll finish His beautiful work in me too..!
May the Lord’s blessings be always with you, your family, your ministry & to anyone you meet!!!
Another amazing article bro bo. What i learned from this is to focus on what matters most in our lives, in other words, these are the A tasks! Thank you!
What a nice article Brod. Bo! I’ve been reading your soulfood just recently and it only let me think and evaluate myself..Thanks for the motivation..God bless you
Dear Brother,
Praise the Lord!
Really Lord spoke to me through your message, ” Pattern of Success”. Thank you for your encouraging words. May Lord bless you more and more……………….
Thank you…
You are indeed a very good writer Bro Bo Sanchez.
Once again, you rocked my world!
“.. He’s not yet through with you.
He’ll finish His beautiful work in you.
May your dreams come true,
Bo Sanchez”
God uses you. (so very timely for me) You inspire! That’s why I am a big fan of yours.
God Bless you always.
very inspiring story. i can really relate well. it made me feel sad but at the same time happy coz i can still change if not all some of my bad habits. tnk u Bro. Bo. You’re really the best. Thanks for your love and concern for us. God bless u always and us!
Thanks Bo for the continuous stream of God-inspired articles! I look forward to them each week. (I hope you do not mind my placing a link to your site on my finance blog. I contacted your office beforehand but never received a reply.)
I am a stock investor here in the USA. One day, I plan on retiring to Asia. Can a foreigner trade stocks on the Philippine exchanges?
God bless you on this journey called “life”,
Robert
USA
Hi Bro Bo,
Thank you again for this wonderful and inspiring article..
You’re a blessing to each one of us..
May God continue to bless you and your family!
Thet26
hi Bro. Bo,
Thank you. Its as if you heard the cries of my Faithful heart.
Please help me pray to receive my blessing for employment anytime Now, a healthy work environment that can give me a very good compensation to help me provide for my parents and siblings.
My success is giving my family a comfortable Life. And be an Inspiration to my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ. I believe He is not yet done with me.
thank you and God bless you and your family more.
Mary☺.
Bro.Bo…again thank you so much! it’s already my habit to read your messages everymonday, it really gives me strength for my whole week job…
May God continue to bless you & family…
Hi Bo,
Good evening!
For 3 years now I continously reading your article, and every time I read it always inspired me to move.
I am connected in a community that gives free financial education thus our vision is 1st World Philippines.
Bo thank you very much and I hope bumalik yung boplanet.
thank you God bless
Nice article Bro. Bo, thank you very much for sharing with us your God given talent, how to inspire people and bring us closer to our God.
I think you made a slip for using complementing instead of complimenting. Loosing instead of losing.
But I love the message in this article. Refreshing.
Great article Bro. Bo! Very inspiring. Tnx a lot. You’re God’s instrument for making Filipinos better persons… God bless You, your family, your ministries and the people you enlighten and serve. Praise God!
Great Article Bro Bo. So much inspiration indeed, with our own family and securing our future with success in financial need (money comes to me easily and more frequently, it flows like a river)..God Bless Us All.
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Thanks Bro. Bo, readying your blogs make me centered everyday and put my life in proper perspective. May you continue to be a blessing to everyone!
bro. bo
thank you for this inspiring articles that keep us BLESSED..its a great motivation for all of us..i simply evaluate myself in all aspects..
may GOD continue to bless and keep you safe..
Since I am on leave this week, I am having a soulfood marathon to help me get through the ups and downs of life. Thanks fo this superbly inspiring article bro!!
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