It’s a fact. Many times—at work and in relationships—you will be rejected. You’ll go through all sorts of crazy things— discouragement, worry, depression, anxiety, and pain. You will lose your joy in life.
Now, here’s my big question: how do you deal with rejection? I know some people who accept rejection and then make it their identity.
But hey, there’s a better way.
Here’s how: Love that person who rejected you but reject the rejection.
I’ll give you three steps to reject the rejection.
1. Clarify your ‘who.’
Many women write to me to say that their boyfriends dumped them. But even before they were dumped, their boyfriends were already in another relationship.
Ouch!
I always tell these women, “Wait a minute. You have to reject that rejection. You have to clarify your ‘who’—who you are, what your identity is—to yourself. That you’re the beloved of God, you’re worthy, you’re the daughter of the King. You are good and you are made in His image and likeness. You’re a wonderful person.”
The problem with rejection is that we’re prone to internalize it. We take the rejection of others and attach it to our identity. By the way, if you go through a heartbreak, please, go through a season of grief and mourn your loss. Yes, it’s OK not to be OK. Go before God and cry to Him and give Him all your tears. That’s fine.
But at a certain point, you have to stand up after that period of grief. You have to clarify that you are not the rejected one; you are a child of God.
You have a beautiful future ahead of you.
You have to remind yourself of who you are, of your divine identity—that God made you and that you are beautiful in His eyes.
2. Clarify your ‘how.’
Life is a process. If you’re a salesperson, you won’t land your first sale on your first try. If your boyfriend rejected you, that is also a process—whether you like it or not. But it’s not your destination.
Your heartbreak, your rejections are painful.
But you have to remind yourself:
This is a stopover.
And you’re now nearer to your destination.
Every time you get rejected, you’re closer to your goal in life.
3. Clarify your ‘why.’
When you get rejected, it’s so easy to give up and say it’s over. But ask yourself: What’s my ‘why’? What’s my mission? What’s my purpose?
Where am I going? Why am I in this world?
The answers? To love, to serve, to care, to be a blessing to the world.
Don’t let this heartbreak define you. You are not just those rejections—you’re bigger than that.
You have a destiny to fulfill.
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