Quit Often To Succeed In Life
One day, Max, a criminal in death row was about to be executed.
The warden was extra kind that day, so he asked him, “Max, for your last three meals, you can ask for anything you want. What do you want for breakfast?”
Max said, “Pancit (Local noodles). For long life.”
The warden smiled and said, “I don’t think it will work. But here’s the pancit anyway.” Max ate with gusto.
After a few hours, the warden asked, “What’s your second meal?”
“Spaghetti. Also for long life,” Max said.
The warden laughed as he shook his head, “Max, this won’t give you long life, but anyway, here it is…” He gave him spaghetti and Max devoured it.
After a few hours, the warden asked, “What’s your third meal? Sotanghon?” (Another local noodle dish.)
“No,” Max laughed, “noodle dishes have not been working for me.”
“So what will your last meal be?”
Max said, “I want a bowl of fresh strawberries.”
The warden said, “But it’s not the season of strawberries. That’s about ten months away!”
Max said, “Oh, it’s okay. I can wait.”
Max had a simple purpose: To extend his life.
If you noticed, his first two strategies didn’t work. So he shifted strategy.
Friends, you need to be an expert in using this powerful tool of success.
Are You A Quitter?
I know it sounds shocking.
But I’m serious.
Unless you learn how to quit, you won’t reach your dreams.
I don’t say that because I read it in a book. I say that from personal experience. I’m successful now because I know when to quit, how to quit, where to quit, and what to quit.
By the way, do you have problems?
Today, I’m going to teach you how to solve your problems by quitting.
Let me give you a hint: Most of the time, the best way to solve your problems is not by solving your problems. The best way to solve your problems is by making them irrelevant.
And the way to do that is to quit.
I hope I’ve confused you by now.
Let me now tell you my first story: A love story. A tragic love story.
But I’m going to ask a favor. Notice whenever I use these three words in my story: Purpose, Path, and Problem.
Let me define them for you:
o Purpose is the final destination
o Path is the road going there.
o Problem is the barrier on that road.
Ready?
My love story is about Jenny, a beautiful single woman with many dreams.
Like many single women, her big purpose is to have a happy marriage.
Which includes a lovely wedding, romantic dates each week, cuddling in bed every Saturday morning, and hugs under a starlit sky.
One day, Jimboy walks into her world and offers a path to her purpose.
He has good looks. Dresses smart. Speaks well. Has what Filipinos call “arrive”.
She meets him, likes him, and walks home with her feet on the clouds.
She also has many profound signs from Heaven that they’re meant for each other: They’re fans of the same artista.
She’s excited. She believes she has found the man of her dreams.
Unfortunately, the dream turns out to be a nightmare.
The Problem of Jimboy
She discovers that Jimboy is an irresponsible bum.
He always doesn’t have money. His wallet is thick, but it’s filled with old receipts, discount cards, and an expired driver’s license that he can’t renew because he has no money.
He hasn’t held a steady job for the past five years. When Jenny asks him why, he says he’s a free spirit. But since his spirit is still trapped in a physical body that gets hungry three times a day, Jimboy has to borrow money from Jenny.
Jenny also discovers that Jimboy has mixed blood. He’s 25% Filipino, 25% Chinese, and 50% Alcohol. When she asks why he drinks so much, he says, “When I drink, I fall asleep. When I fall asleep, I don’t sin. When I don’t sin, I go to Heaven. So I drink to go to Heaven.”
Finally, she also discovers that Jimboy flirts with anything that moves with a skirt. She finds he has other girlfriends. “In case of emergencies,” he laughs.
Let’s review the three elements of our story.
Her Purpose is a happy marriage.
Her Path is Jimboy.
Her Problem is his character flaws: being a bum, an alcoholic, and a playboy.
What should Jenny do?
Wouldn’t it be so much simpler if she just quit this path and take another?
But from my experience, many women don’t. They just keep on trying to solve their problem—in this case—Jimboy’s character flaws.
I see two reasons why people don’t quit…
1. When You Confuse Purpose And Path
Jenny must see boyfriend Jimboy as a path.
Just a path, not the purpose.
Because if she’s confused between purpose and path, she’ll be attached to Jimboy. If Jenny confuses Jimboy to be her purpose, then she’ll try to solve the problem of his character flaws head on—by trying to change him.
That may include emotional manipulation, sexual blackmail, dragging him to prayer meetings, forcing him to counseling, and driving out demons via exorcism.
Or she may just marry him and hope that marriage will change him.
Which is a huge mistake. Here’s the truth: Marriage doesn’t change anyone, it simply magnifies what’s already there.
But okay, I admit. There are rare exceptions. A few guys do change after their wedding day.
But that’s like playing Russian Roulette. With a gun that can hold 100 bullets—and 99 are loaded. Do you really want to take that risk?
2. When You Become Unclear With Your Purpose
Emotionally, the Jennys of the world are discombobulated.
They will keep their Jimboys because marriage is no longer their purpose.
For example, if Jenny has a strained relationship with her parents, and her parents told her that Jimboy wasn’t good for her, Jenny will keep him as her act of rebellion. In this case, her purpose isn’t marriage anymore. It’s to get back at Mama and Papa and declare her total independence.
Another example.
If Jenny has a broken self-image and believes—in her subconscious—that she deserves a jerk, then she’ll keep him too. Again, the purpose is no longer to get married. The purpose is to inflict self-punishment for being such a terrible person. Even if Jimboy leaves her, Jenny will continue to search for other Jerks. She will be a Jerk-magnet for the rest of her life.
When the purpose is messed up, our lives are messed up as well.
Sadly, I see this tragedy again and again.
Oh, if only we learn to quit!
But our problem is that we think there’s only one path.
So when a problem blocks our way, we try to solve it head on.
Not understanding that sometimes, the best way to solve a problem is to make it irrelevant. For example, Jenny can make Jimboy’s character flaws irrelevant by simply dumping him—and choosing someone with better husband-potential.
Life will be much simpler. And happier!
Tell Yourself: There’s More Than One Path
People don’t know how to quit.
I’ve met otherwise wonderful people who’ve been stuck in dead-end relationships for years—because they don’t know how to quit.
I’ve met great employees who—for the past 10 years—have been stuck in a job they don’t like, working for a boss they don’t like, and receiving a pay they don’t like—because they don’t know how to quit. (I’m not saying you quit tomorrow. Apply at another job first before you quit.)
I’ve met entrepreneurs who’ve been stuck in a business that doesn’t earn much or that isn’t in line with their passion—because they don’t know how to quit.
I’ve met people who—for the past 10 years—have been stuck in abusive religious groups that kill their spirit—because they don’t know how to quit.
A friend of mine showed me this principle at work…
There’s Got To Be Another Way
A couple of years ago, my friend said he was taking up nursing to go abroad to earn for his family. Though he and his wife owned a school, they still couldn’t make ends meet. Because the school had very few students and many parents weren’t paying or were delayed in paying their tuition fees.
So the guy went abroad to work.
But after a year, I met him again. He told me something beautiful. A line I want you to say often. He said, “Bo, there’s got to be another way!”
“What happened?” I asked.
“My kids need me. And I was so lonely out there. I don’t want to go abroad again!” he said.
My friend and his wife decided to work on their little school. They did massive marketing and doubled their enrollees. They also did the unthinkable: They raised their tuition fees. (In the past, their tuition fees were very low.)
Today, this couple is happy to report that the school is doing so much better. And wonder of wonders, the parents now pay regularly. Why? Because they were able to reach parents of a higher economic bracket who don’t have problems paying tuition fees.
Filipinos think that there’s only one path to financial abundance: Go abroad. Be an Overseas Filipino Worker.
But the problem to that path is huge—leaving your children.
Hey, don’t solve that problem. Make that problem irrelevant by choosing another path. Yes, there are other paths to financial abundance!
You can be wealthy here in this country!
One last story…
Choose Another Problem—
A Problem You Can Handle
Four years ago, I wanted to build the first Catholic homeschool provider in the Philippines. At that time, all homeschool providers in the country were non-Catholic.
For those who don’t know what homeschooling is, let me give you a simple definition. Homeschooling is when parents teach their own kids at home and try their best not to kill them before the day is over.
Just kidding. I believe in homeschooling so much because kids learn with fun. When done correctly, homeschooled kids can have a broader intelligence than kids from regular schools. And ironically, they can have greater social skills too. Today, two million kids in the US are being homeschooled because it’s a fantastic alternative.
I love homeschooling. But my problem was that the Department of Education didn’t love homeschooling. (Yet!)
They had this iron-clad condition: If I wanted a license for homeschooling, I needed to build a physical school—complete with a few concrete building, an army of teachers, yellow school buses, a nice tall flagpole, and a security guard named Mang Jun—before they gave me a go signal to open my homeschool center.
That was the giant problem in my path.
Now I could have bulldozed my way through that big problem by simply building a physical school. I knew I could do it. I’ve built stuff before.
But my goodness! First, I’d need millions. Second, I’d probably become bald from stress—and I don’t like to be bald because my head is shaped funny. But more importantly, why build a traditional school if my heart was in homeschooling?
I took one step backward and prayed.
That’s when I found another path with a much smaller problem: I could partner with an already existing school and work out a joint-venture agreement with them.
That’s when I remembered my dear friend and fellow-Preacher Alvin Barcelona and his wife Tess. They owned a wonderful, multi-awarded school called PowerKids. The only problem was whether we could work together on the project.
We solved that small problem over a nice dinner of boneless Bangus and Quezo ice cream in my home. That night, we signed the papers, and Kaboom—we launched the www.CatholicFilipinoAcademy.com the next day.
Today, PowerKids CFA serve almost 150 kids and their very brave parents.
Here’s the key to great success: Be unflinching with your purpose, be flexible with your path.
Never give up on the dreams that God has placed in your heart.
But you can experiment in various ways in fulfilling them—until you find the right one.
Just like Peter…
Fill Your Nets!
One day, Jesus asked Peter to fish. Peter said they’ve been fishing all day and have caught nothing. But Peter said that he’d still do it.
But Jesus said something curious.
He just didn’t tell them, “Lower your nets one more time.”
He said, “Lower your nets in the deeper water. And lower your nets on the other side of the boat”
In other words, quit the old way of doing things and take another path.
Result? Peter’s nets were so full of fish they almost broke. That’s abundance.
Friend, do you want your nets to be full? Do you want abundance too?
Don’t quit your purpose. Still lower your nets.
But quit where you lower your nets.
Quit when you lower your nets.
Quit how you lower your nets.
Find another path.
Are you going through some problems now?
Ask yourself:
1. What is really my end purpose?
2. Is there another path to this purpose whose problems I can handle?
And take new paths.
And may your nets almost break with your abundant harvest.
Next Week:
I’ll tell you one more reason to quit:
Even when a path seems to be working!
May your dreams come true,
Bo Sanchez
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Filed under: homeschool, happiness, Relationships, Dreams, Purpose, Blogs by bosanchez
this is so wonderful! you surely hit me with your articles! thank you so much bro. bo.
God bless you always. ‘Till next week.
Fantastic thoughts, Bo! We do need to know when take another path. And to balance, determination to reach our goals.
take another path!!! we always forgot that there are so many options and choice that God has given us.. We just need to use it wisely ♥♥♥.. I♥BO so much
Great Blog, Brother Bo.
Truthfully, I am a busy person but when your email gets into my inbox, I never fail to read them. Very enlightening. Very helpful, indeed!
Amazing! The wisdom that you continue to share to us is a blessing from God. Praise God and thank you Bo for this wonderful outreach! More Power!
Its the nicest article i have read lately. It will surely bless a lot of people. I thank the Lord for letting me know the existence of a Bo Sachez in this planet hehe. God bless,
Thank you bro. Bo, God Bless you and your family.
That’s something new to ponder on Bo.
It’s the “old path” that we must quit and not the purpose.
Great job! Keep on inspiring people.
Hi Bro Bo,
thank you for this wonderful and very enlightening article — on what I believe when you said this,
…. Filipinos think that there’s only one path to financial abundance: Go abroad. Be an Overseas Filipino Worker….
I don’t want to leave my children here and allow other people to discipline and mold them the way I know God entrusted to every fathers’ out there… there might be other way rather than leaving and working abroad… God bless you more Bro Bo!
Hi Bro Bo,
thanks for this article. just what i needed these days. I’ve got a purpose I held onto since I was 9 years old, and decided to be an OFW to achieve it. However, things aren’t going well. The company I’m working for is somewhat in its “final days”. For two weeks now, I ‘ve been thinking of quitting and look for another “path”. My purpose is still in my heart. I guess I just have to look for another path to be in it.
again, thanks for the inspiring words.
Hi bro Bo,
i just want to say that you inspired me with your article today. Thank you and God bless.
Thanks. Learned a lot once again.
Will surely bless others.
Thanks for a very fruitful messages. its truly help
Hi Bro. Bo,
Thank you once again for the very inspiring article.
I was struck and learned that somehow the path to reach your dreams (even you believe that it’s the only path), could still be diverted to a way that lead you to succeed it with much abundance and happiness.
Thank you for reminding us of never to give up on our dreams which God has instilled in our hearts.
May God bless you more and your family.
Words of wisdom I should say… Thanks bro. Bo!
I’m still a bit cofused… but I know what you said makes sense. Just that - maybe you’re right. People just don’t know how to quit. I don’t know how to quit.
I’ll definitely try to reflect more about my life that way. It will be hard but like you said, there’s no point in using the same path when there are alternatives which you can also use.
Thanks Bro. Bro!
Its so mind provoking, this article really struck me. I feel like I need to absorb everything it said here…
i hope I’ll be wiser in knowing WHEN to quit. I have quite a hard time discerning. Thank you so much for this one!!
Hope you’ll come up with more readings similar to this..
its a very inspiring message…thanks bro bo…its enlightening…
Bro Bo, Thanks for this wonderful story
keep it up, more power
kipsafe
hope for more inspiring stories,
iloveyou heheheh
Thx, Bro Bo…
I know now that my decission to quit was right…
Well, now I think that being a quitter does not necessarily means that I am a loser…
We need even greater courage to quit something that we really comfortable with…
Purpose, Path, and Problems…
I think I can see my own Purpose in a better light now… Thx, God… Thx, Bo… ^^
GBU alwayz…
Dear Bo,
Your article is very timely to the problem I’m facing right now. And I’ve got already the answer to my problem using the path, purpose and problem. Alleluia!
Glory to God!
You just inspire me once again Bro.Bo..Very uplifting thanks Godbless!
I have always beleived in the phrase “a quitter never wins and a winner never quits” i guess this changes everything. You just have to be mindful and be careful when situation calls that you need to quit and quitting does not mean you let your self lose on the game… it’s just bascially shifting to a different path and still with the same purpose.
Cheers!
Bro. Bo, You hit me again! Yup, when purpose, path and problem all get tangled up sometimes we lost hold of the purpose. I happened to be one of those Jenny\’s one chapter in my life. I held on with the relationship longer believing I could be a \”savior\” to my Jimboy. I was playing the martyr believing I could be a hero in the end; just like what the telenovelas are telling us - just play the martyr even if you\’re killing yourself, even if you\’re against all odds…blah,blah,blah… I found out katangahan lang pala ang magpakamartir. In a relationship when you\’re dying instead of growing that\’s a sure sign that you have to quit. I got the courage to quit after listening to God and believing that there must be another way to live my life. It\’s that purpose that never died inside of me that\’s urging me to quit because something was not right with the relationship. Until now I\’m still thankful to God for giving me the courage to quit. Right now, I\’m again caught in a situation between the choices of moving on or quitting. Moving on seems so hard because I feel suffocated but quitting seems threatening for I never know what will be in store for me. Yeah, I just need to pray and pray. By the way, I was able to download Bro. Bo\’s ebook. Thanks so much. More Power Bro. Bo!
Amen. Unless we become aware about the block in the problem & even if we became aware but failled to change the way how we will tackle we become co-dependents.
Whoah, I was surprised that you had entitled your post as something about “Quitting.” I thought that for the first time I would entirely disagree about something you teach. What a relief that it was only about BEING FLEXIBLE instead quitting per se. What a relief.
Amen Bro ! i totally agree with you. May the Lord continue to shower you with His wisdom. God bless
Kaboom! u’ve hit me once again….why is it that when u talk…u’re talking like u are pointing that topic to me????????? funny..or just a coincidence? or maybe i just really ponder much on each word u utter…i used to be an OFW (ur seawoman friend remember?) and i agree with u….abundance is not going abroad and leave ur kids….ABUNDAnCE is when u know ur nets are full and u know when to share them…Godbless!
It’s so meaningful to me
now I can reach my purpose/dream by quitting those old strategies
Thank you so much, Bo
God bless
bro bo/kerygma:
I can’t sleep…..i’ve been agonizing over what to do in my new life here in my “new ” country. I have a job, i don’t hate it - but it doesn’t pay that much. Two years ago, before I got here, napupuyat na ako sa kakaisip kung ano gagawin ko sa buhay naming mag anak…..kung makakarating ba kami dito…..kung bababa ba ang immigrant visa namin, etc , etc. Panay ang punta ko sa Sto. domingo para magdasal. Ngayon nandito na ako, napupuyat pa rin ako. Di na ba mahihinto ang mga pagpupuyat ko sa kakaisip?
Somehow, I decided to get up and go back to the computer and here I see your current article about quitting. Pinapunta talaga ako ni Lord dito para lang mabasa ito. Maraming salamat po sa inyo. Maraming salamat talaga.
Thanks bro. bo!!! Continue being an inspiration to all your readers. I wish to share this to my circle of friends.
…thank you so much sir. BO. pra sa plagi mong pg e-mail sa kin sana po magpatuloy po yon..kahit minsan lang po ako mka-online.binabasa ko naman po yong e-mail mo.hindi ko rin po yon binubura sa aking inbox…
maraming salamat talaga.. isang napakamalaki at napakagandang aral po para sa aming mga mag-aaral ang iyong palging pag-e-mail sa kin.
…..God Bless YOU always BO and to your family
bro. bo, i love this blog. the content is very apt in my life now. just in time when questioning if my decision of quitting a relationship and my desires for someone, is really right. i was like jenny, who thinks that there’s no other way.
thanks for this great article. im looking forward for the next one!
Bo,
Thank you so much! Great timing I am really confused right now and Im almost thought about quiting my job.
More Power! Godbless!
A very nice post. You really know how to change a supposedly ‘negative action’ to a positive one - like quitting. And this final message really strucked me:
Don’t quit your purpose. Still lower your nets.
But quit where you lower your nets.
Quit when you lower your nets.
Quit how you lower your nets.
Find another path.
I think, this is what my life and small biz needs.
maraming salamat po bro. bo!
bo…I was just confuse when you mention FIND PROBLEM that you CAN HANDLE…I don’t think there are “problems” which you cannot handle… otherwise, its no longer a problem. I believe its you who mentioned before that every problem has a solution…if none, then, that’s not a problem at all..
This article is very usefull to me especially this time that I undergo a lot of confusions in life..
I attend the feast every sunday at the Valle Verde County Club, thanks to a very good officemate of mine who invited me. It is very good that his talk is also published thru this website. I will be leaving the country within the month and I am happy I can read his teachings thru this website while I am away.
Thanks Bro Bo.
May God to continue to bless and inspire you!
Hi Bo,
These are wonderful insights that could really help a lot of people. Most especially women who become totally blind with the man they love. Its true that most women always thought that their “so called” Prince Charming would never be a frog in their very own eyes because they hardly even acknowledge the flaws that’s been shouting out on their faces. I do have a lot of friends like that. Although they already see the flaw in their Prince Charming but still continue to bind themselves with that man in the Sacrament of Marriage. After a few years, the marriage is broken. It’s either the guy impregnated another girl or the guy has just simply the Blinded girl because they found someone new.
On the other hand, its all true that some guys do change. Like my husband for example. I’ve been trying to convince myself before we got into marriage to leave him because of his flaws. Simple but tolerable flaws like having a negative outlook in life. Almost giving up in searching for the career his looking for. He thought that if he had a fat salary with lots of figures that would make him claim that he is successful in his career and it make him very happy. Anyway, I married him instead. Inspite of his flaws, I knew he was going to be a good father and a good partner for me. We compliment each other. And we could to learn from each other’s opinions, beliefs and even mistakes. I just accepted that is who is and I am not going to attempt to change him. But I’ll be there for him. Always uplifting him and letting him know that we love him. Since we love him, he has to learn to love himself. This has created a positive outlook for him. He was offered a job that has almost doubled his salary. But then he realized that no fat figured salary can make him happy when its a career that he doesn’t see himself for the next 5-10 yrs or so. So he left that job and was on paternity leave for 5-6 months. This meant that he had no other responsibility but to be a good father for our son. I prayed and prayed that God would give him the career that would make him happy. I supported him all the way by assuring him that he’ll get hired in a good Company because I believed in his ability to pursue greatness. Then all of a sudden a call came from a well known IT Company. After his 2 interviews, he got hired. What’s great about it, the position that was offered to him was something that he’d dreamed of.
Well the lesson that I learned from this, as a wife always be supportive of your husband. Never give up on him when you know that there’s so much greatness in him. Some men do change after marriage. They mature and somehow become responsible when the responsibility is already there for them to be fulfilled.
hi bro,
know what? i was thinking of quitting my job or filing a one year leave without pay, because i want to change my life. I want to live and work abroad together with my family. Panay na nga research ko kung paano makakaalis ng Pinas. Parang all of a sudden, I need a change of life. The problem is ayaw ng husband ko. He said, “Okey na tayo dito sa Pinas, may work ka, may work ako. Ano pa ba ang hanap mo?” But what i cannot tell him is my dream of living in another country. Bata pa ako dream ko na yung mapunta sa ibang bansa at tumira dun like in the US or in Canada. What i wanted most is yung support niya na sabihin sa akin maganda yung dream ko at tutulungan niya ako na marating to.
Tapos eto ka naman ngayon, magkakampi ba kayo? Ha ha ha Bakit parang pinagkakaisahan ninyo ako…. si husband ko, ikaw at si Lord.. Kulit ko kasi no?
Hayaan nyo, i’ll try to be obedient na. Sana na nga mabago na lang yung dream ko. Okey na ba yun sa inyo? I’m quitting now. I’m burying this dream and try to have a new one. What can you say?
Wow, this hit me on the spot. Thanks Bo!
Dear Bro. Bo,
Thank you once again for the wonderful topic.
Currently I am working in the middle east and God blessed me with a wonderful job. For four years I feel I have to change things that I used to. Some said I am lucky that I have this job.
Going to US is a long time dream of mine. My papers have been processed and while waiting, I am thrilled and don’t know if this dream is a right thing to pursue.
I don’t know what to do if the right time comes and I will choose between US and or to quit my current job…may God bless me with knowledge and wisdom and brilliant choices.
Thank you for this opportunity to speak my mind and heart. May you help me pray…
God Bless you and your family.
Cheers,
B-anne
Thanks for this Bo. It’s very timely for me. I’m actually working abroad and people in the Phils just envy me for that. And I keep telling everyone I wanted to quit and go back there. And they think it’s crazy. But it’s really what I wanted to do. Because of the conflict of what I want to do and what people think, I became confused. Now I’m willing more than ever to QUIT!
Hi Bro.Bo,
In your example with Jenny, what if Jimboy is already the husband of Jenny. Same Jimboy character in your story?? Can Jenny consider other path leading to her purpose?
Many thanks
thank you po Tito Bo for another inspiring article….Please pray for me po as I venture on a new path in medicine at UERM…
God Bless po…
Very nice, inspiring and fantastic article…
Thanks Bro. Bo…
thanks a lot brother BO for all the wonderful stories you have shared. It inspires and enlighten me so much. I am your avid reader. God bless and more people to touch once again…
dear bro bo,
thank u so much for this inspiring message…
patuloy po kayong pagpapalain dahil sa mabubuting mensahe na ibinabahagi nyo sa kapwa..
I hope I get to see the think line between knowing when to quit and when to stay. Thanks for the inspiration.
Dear Brother Bo,
I find it funny that every time I have problems, I always have time to read your articles….maybe that’s the reason why God allows us to have problems every now and then. To seek Him more, because we tend to ignore Him when we have good times in life.
I was shocked when I saw the title of your article “quit often to succeed in life”. It made me so curious and understood everything after. I really am happy that I got to read it (and did not ignore it). Before this, I was mad, furious, wanted to get even and everything negative (I was nurturing that feeling). But the story allowed me to forgive myself and the one who hurt me, and gave me a chance to recover a little faster from the recent decision from leaving my work.
As much as I want to ask and tell God that He “should” take care of us and provide all the needs of my family since He allowed this thing to happen to me (in times of need). I felt so bad because it’s as if I am demanding from Him. A serious statement came out of my mind “Ikaw ang me gusto nito Lord, so help me out!” I am so sorry for being so bad.
I do recommend your site to my friends who are still tied up and cannot “quit” in the organization where I used to work, to read your articles and daily readings. I know that they are very pleased that they get hold of your readings with enlightenment and justification on the side.
I cannot imagine how life will be for people like me who are scorched and in need of your guidance without your daily scriptures, readings, true to life stories and the likes.
Kudos to you Brother Bo!
Certainly, this is what we call an out-of-the-box wisdom.
Who would have thought that quitting can solve problems? It had to come from someone who is blessed and GOD-sent.
Shalom!
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God Bless!
What an apt message for my situation, Brother Bo. God speaks in so many ways and through different media….The stories you narrated hits me right where it hurts….coz it hurts to think that I’ve been fooling myself…Very few are willing to admit any degree of stupidity…lol…. It was a wake-up call and I am still struggling to “quit”. Prayers needed…. Thanks! Be an “angel” to more people.
hi, bro. bo
I didn’t super cry when i read the article but it hit me big time.i recently left my work. literally. ever since i got married i have undergone stressful situations.Like jenny, i had the purpose of a happy marriage but to my dismay i got to see the “real”situation of my husband’s family!
grabe! as in! there came a time when i would just cry and cry because i have been expecting my in-laws to “understand’ that we are newly weds but it didn’t turn out that way.
until now, i still shake my head because wala naman pinagbago!
as i said earlier i quit my job literally, nobody can’t understand why i did it but i thank the Lord because NOW i can understand the why of my decision.
thanks bro bo!
Bro. Bo
It’s a great article. May our God continue to provide you wisdom to share for all of us.
You are such a blessing.
Your blog moves me. I had a been many mistakes for not how to quit…. but I learned a lot from you. Thank you so much. Please keep blogging.
Hi;
I really feel blessed each time i read your blogs. I thank you for honing on this gift that God has given you. May i just share what i saw in youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6-3X5hIFXYU
Yes i think it is a reality we have to face and see what can be done.
This is a very timely article. It made me realize that I did the right thing though I felt so rotten and heartbroken when I had to “quit”. Your article just confirmed that. I am not a quitter but you’re so right! There are times when you just have to quit!
Thanks so much for such a great article. It shed some light on how I should deal with my work situation. It’s like you’re giving me a push to the right path. =)
i did quit on somebody whom i loved so much.,,
It was a hurting decision on my part but that’s the only way I can show how much i loved her…
Purpose, path and problem intermingle into one…
Thank you Bo for this piece!
wow! Its another great things that i’ve learned Bro Bo! Thanks, mabuhay ka!. God bless…
I’ve waited for this blog when I read the last one last week.I’m having a problem with my relationship..our marriage is on the rocks.Please pray for us.. .we have 4 kids. hope I’ll be enlightened on what to do and be able to overcome this biggest trial in life.Thanks!
thanks brother bo,,that was really inspiring and uplifting!! more power and may god continue to bless you for touching the lives of many people..
should i quit on my marriage if my husband is irresponsible and very selfish?
Bro. Bo,
thank you very much..Once again an inspiring article. God bless you and your family…
Bro Bo thank you again for the wonderful message, it warms my heart and it is very enlightening. I pray that the Lord will continue to use you powerfully to bless millions of people around the world.
We love you!
Your brother and fan in NZ
Joel
Brother Bo, you inspire with this article. You let me think widely and allow me to looked back what the Lord has done to me…you are accidentaly guiding me to what kind of purpose should i set to in the couple of years to come.
I always enjoy reading all your articles.
God Bless you always
Rose Ann
Hi Bro. Bo.
It is only now that i learned that quitting is good. All my life, I’ve been living with the saying that “A quitter never wins”.
Very enlightening and inspiring. May God continue to bless you and your family.
Thank you so much for this article
Thank You very much for such inspiring blogs. thank you!
Bro Bo.
Im so blessed with your article…
Can you help me, even with just a little advice, im married have two kids, but im not happy anymore!…should I quit???!
A very inspiring blog. May God be praise! Bo, you are the modern Peter. Hehehe.
Another sure hit Bro. Bo. It’s really nice to be inspired before starting the day. Thank you for this another mouth-watering article. Continue blessing other lives.
Very inspiring & enlightening story……
Thanks brother Bo….God Bless!
Hi Bo,
I went to your How to Be Truly Rich seminar last year together with my mother. It was the first time I saw you in person, held your hand, and asked for your autograph. I was thrilled.
I’ve been feeling lost all this time because I felt I have another purpose. But I cannot summon my guts to quit because of many reasons. But primarily I’m beginning to think that I never had the guts to do it because I am afraid.
I got inspired with your blog, I hope I would have the strenght to overcome this fear I am feeling and move on to where I should be moving.
Great article sir. I always been excited reading your article, I feel great and it really touch my life. May our Lord God keep you for inspiring people, like me.
I know someone who needed to read this — thanks a lot.
Thank you so much Bro. Bo! I have now a clear perception of what my purpose is, and I’m pretty sure it won’t mixed up w/ the path. More power to you! God bless!
Greetings of joy,
Thanks for that wonderful insight you have. it is true there are many paths. what we need is the courage to bring our step on the new path. thanks Bo. God’ s blessing is abundant for you.
Great material for counseling. Thanks Bo.
elo Bo,
Wonderful article! May our Lord shower you with more wisdom as you continue to to teach, preach,inspire, encourage and most of all give hope to countless people here & abroad..God bless!..cheers
Right on! Quit smart, quit to take control and it may be the most successful step. Thanks for this insight Bro Bo. Cheers!
thanks for another inspiring article. i hope i can apply this in my life.
When I read this yesterday I wanted to laugh not because it was amusing (your articles/blogs are always amusing) but it was because I feel like this is staring at me in the face. This is the closest thing I can describe my experience after reading your article.
I quit at a call center after a year of working there and being sick and I wanted a normal life, not waking up in the early morning or at night. I ended up becoming an online English teacher for Koreans in a place which is closer to my home and the hours are more stable. It was good and at that time an opportunity came offering me the same work but with it seems, a bigger pay. I hesitated at first because I felt loyal to my current company, but when things began to go wrong and I felt like this is a repeat history of my call center job (being overworked), plus I sleep so late and wake up late, I had to quit.
I’ll be resigning this afternoon. My reason was to process my visa to the US which at first was a lie then it became the truth. I took the offer to be an online teacher but this time I would be working home. I would also plan to actually get a visa as my best friend and I plan to do an out of the country trip by the end of the year. Also it was something I wanted to do before, but had set it aside.
Thank you for the article, I sent it to my best friend who is also undergoing a major change in her life.
I didn’t want to quit
Oops I forgot to add that I didn’t want to quit at first because I felt that I was running away from my duties as an employee, person and daughter. This was strong when I was in the call center industry.
This article proved me wrong.
You really have a great mind. You always have a different perspective which makes us understand hard situation in a light manner. Godbless us always! Thanks Bo!!!
For me to find this message in the world wide web, I think God used you as an instrument to clearly tell me to quit to succeed. Thanks for sharing!
Very good analogies! You must really be blessed to come up with analogies like these.
May you continue to be a blessing to others!
ping sotto
hi bro bo..
i’m goin into the wrong path right now..i know the consequences but still im into it.. i wanna quit but i just dont know how to quit..maybe i know how but im scared to do it..i just wanna hate myself right now.. so stupid.. doing the same mistake all over again.. im very weak..dont know how to fight..
confused me..
That was a great perspective in making things work! Continue to be a blessing through your powerful thoughts brother!
got hit with a part or two of your article, as if God is telling exactly what to do now with my dillemas.. tnx!
thank you Bo, it’s a very inspiring story. it makes me realized how wonderful life is. Especially I’m having a hard time with my career now. Time like this, your story can make life easier even how hard it seems. Thank you and more power
thank you for inspiring me… but i dont know how to quit… especially with my problem right now… i was strucked with jenny and jimboy… sana i can still quit pero i have kids already. i don’t want them to lose a father if i will quit this marriage life… i need your help… sab ko kasi i can suffer the emotinal pain basta for my kids pero ewan ko kung kakayanin ko pa sorry this is the only i can get in touch with you…please pray for me…
Thank you for the enlightenment. You give me an idea to be sometimes place some things aside in order to move on.
Bro Bo.. this is nice.. i mean great.. I love it! Thank you so much!
BO this is timing for meeee…thank you for sharing this.
i got into my greatest challenge because i didn’t know how to quit. like your “jenny”, i thought, problems (character flaws and its consequences) were just a test of dedication and commitment; that you don’t leave someone you love just because they’re down and difficult. i believed in love’s transforming power, in that, when you love, you never get but love in return. i believed that no bad thing ever comes from love.
but while my situation is not peculiar (just harder to handle), having a child is never a bad consequence. God has been so kind still, to have “forced” me to think and quit, and prevent a doomed marriage. He actually saved me and my son from a very miserable life.
sometimes, even when you yourself don’t have the power to stand by your decision to quit, God, in his infinite goodness, “forces” you to quit.
good thing, for the last time, i was able to figure out the signs.
your article today has been very very helpful.
thank you. may you bless more people. god bless you.
Bro Bo,
This is a great blog. You certainly enlighten a lot of people.
May God always bless you .
Thanks for sharing this one.
hello Bro. Bo
Thank you very much for another inspiring blog. It helps a lot for enligntenment.
Godbless us always…
Hi Bro. Bo!
Again and again, you bring so much gladness in my heart and in millions out there. Thank you would never be enough but just the same, I appreciate all your wisdom. I look forward to more of your posts…and I will let others know how great your site is.
God Bless!!!
hi bro. bo,
i read your article today and i dont know what to say…. you asked if i have a problem, yes i do… there is a finding in my son’s blood test….. they said he has hepatitis C. he is just 1 and a half years old and this really burdens me and my husband…. we dont know what to do and im getting so worried for us and our son. I have a purpose and that is to build a family with God as our center… now i dont really know if God is still in our center…. i dont know how will i quit this problem and create a new path so we can accomplish our goal and purpose in this life…. pls. enlighten me more… really need assistance right now…. i want to believe God is still with us…
Hi Bro Bo,
Thank you. With this, a simple or a difficult problem would really help me a lot. I realized now how to handle a problem in a more logical way. I’ll be using that strategy and will also share to our friends.
=) God bless us always.
uh oh.. this blog has struck me in a way… I am planning to go abroad and I still don’t have a job yet. I was thinking positive all the time and I believe that God will answer my prayers and He will help me find a job there, but of course, I’m still not sure of what’s gonna happen… Then I thought that if I won’t find a job, I will try and try again. Sometimes, it’s really so confusing. I don’t know how to determine if I’m doing the right thing or maybe it’s not just for me…
Lagi mo akong napapasaya Bro. Bo, di lang ako kundi napakaraming tao sa mga word of wisdom na pinapadal mo…Naway Pagpalain pa ng Diyos ang iyong mga gawain..AMEN GSM of UAE
“Be unflinching with your purpose, be flexible with your path.” — will be my guide for my goals and my sword for my problems. Love it and I will always be grateful to you. =)
Good day bro. Bo, I’ve been reading all your articles, and have been inspired by your sharings, thank you so much for them! This is one of the rare times though, that I comment. It’s an interesting topic…but the consequences are thought-provoking if one quits a for-keeps relationship bound by the Sacrament of Matrimony! So I’m very sure there are many question marks in the minds of many people regarding the situations of the following excerpts which I just copy-paste from the comments above.
They all have one thing in common: they are married! I then hope you touch on this difficult situation of husband-wife troubles, and how to possibly handle them, as we believe in our Catholic faith that “Whatever God has joined together, let no man put asunder”. This could indeed be interesting. ( I thank God no end I don’t have such problems, but I know of some who are close to me who now bravely tackle this situation, and I’m still praying for enlightenment how to advise them, for a path which is still according to God’s will, especially when asked for. You may be our “angel”!)
So below are the excerpts:
Lisa
In your example with Jenny, what if Jimboy is already the husband of Jenny. Same Jimboy character in your story?? Can Jenny consider other path leading to her purpose?
Joe:
I’m having a problem with my relationship. our marriage is on the rocks.Please pray for us.. .we have 4 kids. hope I’ll be enlightened on what to do and be able to overcome this biggest trial in life. Thanks!
Mandy:
should i quit on my marriage if my husband is irresponsible and very selfish?
Lyl:
Can you help me, even with just a little advice, im married have two kids, but im not happy anymore!…should I quit???!
Mitzi:
… but i dont know how to quit… especially with my problem right now… i was strucked with jenny and jimboy… sana i can still quit pero i have kids already. i don’t want them to lose a father if i will quit this marriage life… i need your help… sab ko kasi i can suffer the emotinal pain basta for my kids pero ewan ko kung kakayanin ko pa sorry this is the only i can get in touch with you…please pray for me…
May God’s wisdom continue to be with you as we wait for your mind’s piece on this. God bless you and family!
my daily spiritual gatorade!!! Thanks Bro. Bo
I just did quitting Brother Bo. I had been working in a company for eight years. with those years I had suffered from a lot of stress. But when I started reading your blogs, I was enlightened. I secretly applied in a bigger university with a bigger pay. And thank God, I ranked number 1. And so I quit. And I feel good again of myself. God is indeed so powerful He has used you to open my eyes and increase further my faith.
Dear Bro Bo,
Many thanks for continous sharing of your remarkable article, I’ve realized that problem is not a big issue, as long as you know how to quit.
May the Lord always give you good health and may he continue to showers you more blessings so that you will never get tired of giving out your amazing articles!
Mabuhay!!
dear bro. bro.
im glad that u come up with this kind of article in which very helpfull to me especially in this present situation in my life…this proves to me that quitting doesnt mean that ur a loser and i hope that this path that im taking right now will lead me to my real purpose thank u so much for sharing this amazing article and more power !!! God bless u and us always…Smile…
Really great article, I really love it and I want to share this to my friends…
dear bro.bo,
I was so touched with your message and that is ridiculous to have a decision when, how, and where to quit. I was relate to your story about my previous job. I was a dealer before in one of the big underwear company. It was a big decision to make when i enter in this company. My friend pushed me to be a dealer and i have no money to invest. She helped and promised me about the requirements they had and lend money first to her. At first, i was so eager to make my own business because my present job before im working with is not good company. So to make the story short i quit in my present job and try to make my own business and thats to be a dealer of underwear.
In the beginning it is very hard to make your own business.Make your own strategies, network, more friends and negotiating with others. I was build more networks and friends to get the items with me. In my first moved, i told myself that it was good because all my agents are good payor. But when my business is working so long, some are not good payor and some are delayed in payment and some are not paid and lost. I was so pressured everytime when my due dates are coming because its time to pay in the company and my cheque will be bounce if im not pay on time in the bank. Sometimes, i lend money to my family, friends and even “bumbay” to pay only my due dates.
It was so hard to me to think, and always say that “why i should enter in this company that pressured me a lot”. And my husband always scolded and angry with me about what happenned to me. Then, I paused for a while and think God what is my purpose and path in my life.
Then God answered my problem, when my co-share in my store wants to quit. I told her i can’t afford the rent in the store. So i decided, to give up the store and make a sale all the items and pay all my debt in the company. The pressure in my life much less than before. I have so much time in my family, teaching my children in their homework, cook and care for them. In short i have a quality time for my family.
After a year, God gave me another job and this is less pressure and your investment is only “laway”. It means that you only convinced a person to get their life and health insurance. After training, i got a lot of clients and get their insurances. I received my commission when they pay their due and every month i received money from them. What God is so good because after what happenned in my life He raised me again to start my life in a good path. That’s why, what Bro. Bo says that dont give up. When, how, and where to quit in your life. I know that after darkest there is a sun rise again. And that’s life, you have more faith, pray and listen to His message. He will guide and path you in the right direction. So i can say that we have different story but in the end God is always in us. To guide, path, and have a purpose in your life.
Thank you Bro. Bo to share my story, and more power and blessing to your family.
This is what I call “enlightened” writing. Thank you very much for sharing and showing me the way…just helped me see some things in my life very, very clearly. God bless you and your loved ones.
dear bro. bo,
i was strucked with jenny’s story!
ac tually, i quitted already 2 years ago….i left my jimboy inorder to take another path to gain my purpose…..
the thing is i wasn’t happy with my decision co’z after all these years jimboy still the love of my life,this is really crazy! i can’t even explain…..
now, jimboy is asking another chance! the idea of being us together again makes me happy and excited,
would it be right to accept him again with his promise to changed everything about him.
godbless and more power!
God is so great that he send us a people like you that inspired a lot in our day to day living. You made lot of people change their life. thank you very much………..
Hello Bo,
Thanks for this article…
You made me realize that quitting isn’t bad at all…
hi,
i am married but separated from spouse for 5 years. I know he is in a realtionship now. My purpose is to have a happy family with the spouse. If this is my purpose, my path(problems) he is not into me anymore. How will i change my path/course? Do I have to quit? Please help.
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thanks for the article bo! this is really nice and timely. i guess the house of representatives need to read this article. because surely, there is another path for their purpose. thanks again bo. and may your dreams come true as well!
You never fail to uplift souls bro bo! Keep it up! ♥♥♥
Dear God,
Thank You for blessing this guy Bo with wisdom to speak the right words at the right time for the right need.
And because I’ve been blessed by this guy Bo, I know You will bless him again and again and again.
“go while the going is good, knowing when to leave may be the smartest thing that anyone can learn…”
A few hours ago I was just thinking that working abroad is a path that is not leading me to my life purpose. I am making good money but missing out on a life with my children, grandchildren and my mother. At this point I still need to learn HOW to quit, but I am slowly getting there.
Thank you for this message that really hit home!
this blog really hit me…i have been a jenny for quite a period of time, but then i always pray to God when im on my trying times, i keep on asking Him what am i gonna do with the situation, what is the right thing for me to do…and He said “Let go…” it took me a while before i really gave up on my jimboy…it is when i cant bear the pain anymore thet i really quit…and now i found another man..a much much better man, and ive never been happier…thanks Bro. Bo for making me understand better the decision i made last time…for the inspirations you have given me…life is really more beautiful finding people like you…Godspeed!!!
Hi, its very timely that i am able to open your email, i am now in the middle of such problem, with my amortization with my house, schooling of my kids, food in everyday, basically because i and my husband has no work, i quit my job coz i am not happy with it, its like torture everyday going there, as if i am dying, i decided to quit coz i feel im getting paranoid as day goes by, i decided to quit not thinking what will be the consequences of my actions since for the past three months i am a sole provider of a three wonderful kids and a husband. I also decided to quit coz in everyday that my husband and i are together we fight over small stuff. We just move in at our new house last month and its like we just got married because i reliazed i never really knew my husband at all, thats why we fight even on small stuff, and i thought of why heck of giving my energy my thoughts over a job that is not worth staying for when my marriage is at mess, up to this day in the middle of a huge problem with house, kids, relatives, income, we still fight and thinking IS IT WORTH ALSO GIVING UP ON OUR MARRIAGE, IS SEPARATION A SOLUTION IN OUR FIGHTS EVERYDAY…I am so bothered and deppressed, but I do really loved my husband and our kids, i still believed in our family and we will work it out, It only takes time….i am just confused, did I made a right choice giving up my work and suffer now with regards to finances…currently we are looking for a job unfortunately we are not being accepted with companys I dont know why they said we are overqualified or maybe its our age, my husband is eyeing for home business but relatives, brothers and sister doesnt want to borrow us money even though he has the physical and equipment capability to put up a business he just need capital to sustain us his family for the next 3 months…I wanted to work and at the same time study also because I want to shift career, a career path hat i really wanted before i took up the accountancy course, in my heart i wanted education as a career because i wanted to teach but i dont know how, when, where to start… Its good that i read your message somehow it enlighten my purpose, path and problem…Il be able to adopt it now on my current situation…Please do pray for me and my family……God bless to you and everyone…
hey bro bo,tnx for the nice stories you’ve been sending lately,i like it so much and been sending them also to my friends,,may our good Lord continue to bless you with His atmost wisdom..God Bless!..