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Meet Your Five Most Commonly Neglected Needs


        Some people think loving yourself is easy. 

It’s not.  The reason why some people think it’s easy is because they confuse “selfishness” with “self-love”.

The Difference Between Selfishness And Self-Love 

“Selfishness” and “Self-Love” look alike but they’re very different from each other.  I compare them to the nuclear bomb and the nuclear plant. The nuclear bomb kills thousands but the nuclear plant helps thousands.  (Researchers say that modern nuclear plants are very safe—even from earthquakes and tsunamis.  The Fukushima nuclear plant was 40 years old.)

The difference is simple.  “Selfishness” is meeting your own needs and your own needs only. “Self-love” is meeting your needs so that you can meet the needs of others even more.

Within you is a Love Tank.  And your Love Tank has a faucet.  The only way for love to flow out of that faucet is if your Love Tank is full.  If you don’t receive love, you won’t be able to give love.  You can’t give what you don’t have.  You can’t love anyone if you don’t love yourself.  You can’t even love God if you don’t love yourself.

        Even Jesus honored his needs.  The Bible says that when crowds of people came to him for healing, he honored his need to be alone.  But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed. (Luke 5:15–16)

        I know people who don’t even know their needs anymore.  They are so overwhelmed by the needs of other people, they don’t have time to listen to their own needs.

        Why? 

Early on, they were brainwashed that their needs weren’t important.  Correction: They were brainwashed that THEY were not important.

        People with Toxic Shame feel they don’t deserve to meet their needs, whatever needs they have.

        But Jesus shows us the way…

 

The Bible Says So

Jesus commanded, Love your neighbor as you love yourself. 

        And Paul said, Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.”  (Philippians 2:4)  He assumes that you should look after your needs.

        When you ride a plane, the stewardess says, “If you have a child with you, put your oxygen mask on first before assisting and putting the oxygen mask on your child.”  This is an important lesson.  If you can’t breathe, how can you help your child?

        Today, I’d like to talk about healthy self-love. 

        How?  By honoring your needs.

 

Honor Your Needs

Love yourself by honoring your needs.

You don’t hear this preached in Church often.  Because we were taught that it is holy to neglect our needs—and prioritize the needs of others.  Where does this neglect of self come from?

        Let me review where this Toxic Shame comes from…

 

Source 1: Absentee Parenting

 When our parents don’t spend time with us, we get the clear message that we’re not very important.  And if we’re not important, our needs aren’t important too.

Major culprit?  Absentee parenting.  Because of workaholic parents, or non-involved parents, or narcissistic parents.  These kids will grow up not valuing themselves.  Desperate for love, they’ll seek this love from peers, from drugs, from achievements…

It also comes from how we relate with our emotions…

 

Source 2: Mismanaged Emotions

I see this scene often: When a child is running and stumbles—and cries with real tears because she got hurt (Note: Not just a tantrum), some misguided adults would tell her, “Stop crying!  Don’t be a cry-baby!  Stop! RIGHT NOW!”  They force the child to stop feeling.

The unspoken message is, “Your emotions aren’t important.  Shelve it.  Discard it.  Bury it.”   The deeper message was, “Your needs are not important.  Because YOU are not important.  YOU have no value.”

If you repeat this 20,000 times to a child, this self-murdering message becomes part of their psyche.

Add to that a distorted religiosity that taught you to hate yourself… and you get a deadly bomb of Toxic Shame.

 

Source 3: Distorted Religion

        When I was 13, I was a fan of St. Francis of Assisi.  Like Francis, I wanted to live a life of poverty.

        So I stopped wearing nice clothes.  I wore the crummiest attire I could find.  Old sandals.  Old jogging pants.  And old shirts with holes—the more, the better.  I never put on deodorant because I considered it vanity.  (Wherever I went, people said I had the odor of sanctity.  But one day, my girlfriend told me, “The Bible says you should use deodorant.”  I was shocked.  I asked, “Where?”  She said, “In the 10 commandments, it says, ‘Thou shall not kill…’  Because your toxic fumes are murdering me.”)

        Looking back now, I realized that I neglected my appearance partly because I hated myself.  I didn’t like myself.  I had the “I Hate Myself” spirituality.

This spirituality is more common than you think.  Some religious people think it’s the secret to sainthood.  They think that God is very pleased if you hate yourself.

        But as the years went by, I noticed I was burning out—like a burning matchstick.

I’ve noticed the same thing among many religious workers. 

I’ve met religious people, from nuns to priests to laypeople, who suffer from burnout and depression because they repress their emotions.  They see their feelings as enemies instead as friends.  And they see all their desires as evil.

        In fact, I notice that a lot of people neglect these five needs…

 

Five Needs That We Usually Neglect

We neglect many of our needs, but there are the five of the most common ones…

 

1.You Need Rest

Love yourself.  Get some rest.

Tiredness is an epidemic.  Many people are Chronically Tired. And we know why.  This epidemic is caused by one virus: The virus of Prolonged Stress

You know when you’re chronically tired?   

Here’s a sure and obvious sign that you’ve got this disease: If you wake up in the morning already tired.

That means your sleep didn’t refresh you.  That means there’s something wrong—you’re not addressing your need to rest.

Here’s my recommendation: Take mini-vacations.

Take mini-vacations within the day.  It may just be ten minutes.  It may just be thirty minutes.  But take it.

Sit down, put your hands around a cup of hot herbal tea, inhale the aroma, breathe in peace, joy, love, hope, strength, and exhale all your frustration, stress, worry, fear, anxiety…  In your mini-vacation of ten minutes, thirty minutes, one hour, pray, converse with God, meditate, think, plan, write your journal, talk to a confidant about why you do what you do.

Because I work on Sundays, I take a few hours each Monday morning to be alone.  To relax.  To read.  To reflect.  To relate.  After that, I’m ready to serve another week with joy in my heart.

Take mini-vacations during the week, the month, and the year.  You need rest.  It’s one of the most neglected needs. 

 

2.You Need Dreams

Love yourself.  Keep dreaming.

Dreams are your fuel.

In one Catholic Conference, I gave a talk entitled, How To Make Your Dreams Come True.  It was very well received.  People came up to me and said, “Bo, I’m so excited.  I’m going to dream again!”

But the next speaker was a priest.  And he attacked my message.  He said, “We have no business pursuing our dreams!  That is selfishness.  We should be only concerned about doing God’s will.”

 I call this over-spiritualizing.  If the priest allowed me to ask a question, I’d ask, “But Father, how will I know God’s Will for my life?  Yes, God’s Will is found in the Bible and our Doctrines, but I also believe that God’s Will is found in my deepest desires.  He planted dreams in my soul.  I need to listen to the dreams that burn in my heart.  Through the scalpel of prayer and discernment, I peel away my shallow desires, until I touch base with my deepest desires.  And there, I will find the will of God.”

Friend, God created you as a Dreamer.  You need to allow yourself to dream.  Your dream could be very big or very small.  It doesn’t matter. But you need to keep on dreaming, or you start dying.

My dream is big.  I want to build 1000 Feasts all around the globe, with each Feast becoming a gushing spring of God’s Love to the world.  (Note: That’s how we call our weekly prayer gatherings all over the world.)

If you notice, my dream won’t be fulfilled for a very long time.  It will take ten or twenty years, maybe more.  But that’s okay.  I’m enjoying every step of the way.

Some dreams are small in size but big in value.  I was talking to an 81 year old man.  With a twinkle in his eye, he said, “Brother Bo, please pray that God will give a longer life.  Because I want to see my granddaughter in America.”  He pulled out his wallet and showed me a lovely photo of a 5-year old girl with dimples on her smile.  He said, “I’m not in very good health, but everyday, I try to walk.  Everyday, I eat well.  So that I can see my little granddaughter before I die.”

What are your dreams?  Identify them.  Write them down.  Pray for them.  Announce them to the world. And make your dreams wake you up everyday.

 

3.You Need To Be You

Love yourself.  Be you.

You need to be yourself.  You need to be faithful to how God made you.

If you fit yourself into a cookie cutter, it will hurt—because parts of you will have to be cut away.  In the same way, when you try to fit into the expectations of others, it will be painful. 

The easiest way to live is to live authentically.

 

Be Faithful To Your Passion

Be faithful to your gifts. 

If you can speak, then speak to inspire the world.

If you can build bridges, then build bridges that will last a hundred years so that your great grand kids can stand on that bridge and say out loud, “The father of the father of my father built this bridge.”

If you can dance, then dance like your feet are on fire and the ground beneath your feet shake to the beat of your dance.

If you can paint, then paint paintings that become mirrors so people can see themselves and windows so people can see the colors of the universe.

If you can repair cars, then repair cars so babies are safe and kids can go to school and parents can work.

If you can design clothes, then design clothes that will make mothers with cellulite on their legs and stretch marks on their bellies feel like a pretty princess again.

If you can make money, then make so much money, everyone around you gets rich.

If you can write songs, then “write the songs that make the whole world sing, I write the songs of love and special things, I write the songs that make the young girl cry, I write the songs, I write the songs.”

 

Be Faithful To Your Personality

Are you more talkative than the average person?  If you are, don’t pretend to be quiet.  God made you talkative for a purpose.  If you’re talkative, then talk until everyone is sitting at your feet learning from your stories.

Are you quieter than the average person?   Don’t pretend to be more talkative.  Speak, but don’t use your words.  Use your eyes, smile, your hands, your touch, your arms, your presence, to tell them know how special they are.

Do you laugh easily?  Then laugh.  Don’t try to be prim and proper.  Don’t hide your laughter.  Laugh hard, laugh long, and laugh deep.  Whenever I speak on stage, I love it when someone in the audience laughs really loud.  Because it gives permission for everyone else to laugh loud.  And I love that because a happy person learns 1000 times more than a sad person.

So don’t hold back your laughter.  Laugh so that the sick child will find hope.  Laugh so that the frustrated friend so burdened with work will find strength.  Laugh so that the mother trying to make both ends meet can make it for another day.  Laugh so that this weary world will laugh with you.

Do you cry easily?  Do you cry at a drop of a hat?  Do you cry when it rains and do you cry when it shines?   Do you cry when the flower blooms and do you cry when the flower dies?  Don’t be ashamed to cry.   Cry with a friend who gets dumped by a jerk.  Cry with an officemate who gets scolded by a boss.  Cry with the father whose dream of going abroad was denied.  Cry with the little child who feels left out.  Cry so that grieving people around the world will never feel alone. 

 

Weirdness Can Make You Wealthy

        Be faithful to your weirdness.  Your craziness. Your idiosyncrasies.  Your peculiarities.  Your quirks.  Your birthmarks.  They have a place in God’s scheme of things.

Be forewarned: Some people will hate your weirdness.  Don’t mind them.  Because some people will adore your weirdness!  Your weirdness will gather a community of raving fans who think you’re the coolest thing next to peanut butter ice cream. 

Some of the wealthiest businesses in the world—Apple, Amazon, eBay, Google, Starbucks—are not commodities.  They’re unusual, unique, skewed, one-of-a-kind, strange…  In other words, weird.

And speaking of wealthy…

 

4.You Need Money

Love yourself.  Earn money.

I’ve met religious people who believe that to save for their future was selfishness.  It’s a double whammy: That means they were selfish and materialistic at the same time.

But you need money.  Everyone needs money.  The nuns who run orphanages need money.  The priest who rides his motorcycle to celebrate Mass in faraway barrios needs money.  The boyfriend buying a rose to ask forgiveness from his girlfriend needs money. The grandmother in her rocking chair wondering how she could buy her medicine needs money.

Don’t earn money for today only.  (Look around you.  You’re no longer living in the desert, Moses is no longer with you, and you’re not eating manna for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.)  Earn money for today and tomorrow and the day after.

Don’t earn money for yourself only.  That’s selfishness.  Earn money for yourself and the orphan that needs you and the maid that helps you and waiter that serves you and the barber that styles you and the church that blesses you.  So earn as much money as you can.

And finally, your most important need…

 

5.You Need Love

Love yourself.  Invest in relationships.

This is your greatest need. 

My recommendation?  Invest in your relationships TODAY and you’ll have big gains TOMORROW.

Invest in your spouse.  Invest in your children.  Invest in your siblings.  Invest in your friends.  Invest in your parents.

What will you invest?  Your time.  Your care.  Your service.  Your patience.  Your forgiveness.  Believe me, the returns are out of this world.  (This is literal.  I’m talking about Heaven.)

My friend Adrian Panganiban showed me a letter from a Mom and Dad, and it touched me very much.

I quote it here because I want to stress the point that at the end of your life, you’ll need love more than anything in this world. 

Here’s the letter…

 

Please Bear With Me

Dear Child,

As I get older, please be patient with me.
When I drop things or make a mess of my food, I hope you don’t shout at me or scold me.  Please bear with me.
When my eyesight dims and I stumble along my way, or when my hearing gets really bad and I can’t hear what you say, please bear with me.
When these embarrassing and difficult times come, if you could just hold my hand and tell me that you understand… I’m sorry child, I’m getting older.  Please bear with me.
When my feet get crooked and my knees get weaker, when I fumble in my steps and I walk slower, I hope you remember the time when I taught you how to walk.  Please bear with me.
When I keep repeating my stories to you, sometimes 4 or 5 times a day, just smile and pretend I said it the first time.  Because to my failing memory, it’s really the first time I’m saying it to you.  Just remember how you repeated yourself as a child.  Remember how many times you asked, “Are we there yet?” every time we took a trip.  Or how many times you asked, “Mommy, can you buy me this toy?” whenever we were in a toystore?  Please bear with me.
When I don’t smell so nice, when I smell like an old person, please be patient with me.  When you smell something not too good from me, I hope you remember that when you were small, you used to sweat and smell too.  But I loved it because it was part of your growing up.  Well, my smells are part of my growing old.  Please bear with me.
When I get cranky or get sensitive, or when I get sentimental and moody, or when I get pushy and demanding, all these are all part of getting old.  You’ll understand when you get older.  Please bear with me.
When you have time, I hope you visit me.  Talk with me for a few minutes.  I’m always all by myself and have no one to talk to.  I know you’re busy with work but your work will always be with you, even after I’m gone.  I won’t be here forever.  Please bear with me.
Even if you’re not interested in my stories, please pretend you are. Do u remember when I used to listen to your stories about your toys, your imaginary friends, and the cartoons you watched?  Those things weren’t very interesting to me, but because they were important to you, they were important to me too.  I ask you to please bear with me.
When the time comes when I get sick and bedridden, I hope you visit me.  I’m sorry if I accidentally wet the bed or make a mess.  I hope you stay with me during the last few moments of my life.  I’m not going to last much longer anyway.  Please bear with me.
I pray for you everyday.  When I finally meet God, I will continue to mention your name to Him.
I love you.
We love you.
Please bear with me.

 Eternally,
Mom and Dad 

 

 So I repeat: Invest in your relationships. 

        My fondest wish for you?

May you grow old with the people you love.

Honor your needs.

 

May your dreams come true, 

Bo Sanchez

 

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71 Responses to “Meet Your Five Most Commonly Neglected Needs”

  1. Very inspirational. I am now learning to love myself. Thank you.

  2. Thanks Bro. Bo! This is a nice article to start my week right!

  3. Inspiring article…. If you are chronically tired take a vacation and relax =) visit subic

  4. Some people do have that notion, that you’re a bad person when you spend some time and some money to look good.

  5. I love this inspiring message..may the Almighty one bless you always!

  6. Cried a bucket. Touched my heart. Every word is true. Every moment I spent reading this is very worthwhile. God bless u!

  7. Cried a bucket. Touched my heart. Every word is true. Every moment I spent reading this is very worthwhile. God bless u! Thank you!

  8. Hi Brother Bo,

    Thanks for sharing this email. So touching the letter “Please Bear With me”, it really makes me cry!

    Thanks again!

  9. WoW what a revelation I am a very talkative person and in fact I get to receive some ribbons for it during my elementary years hahaha…and because something things just do change a bit, I became and pretended to be quiet and guess what it feels a little bit bad because I know that it is not me. and Thank Bro!!! for revealing it to us that we need to be faithful in every part of our being wooohooo!!!! Thank You God…Thank You…Thank You….I Love You….I lOVE You .. IM SORRY..

  10. thank you Bro. Bo, this is a good reminder of the things we really need but took for granted, these are very practical and inspirational.

    God bless you and your family. God bless us all!

  11. Thanks Bo for this wonderful message….This is what I really need most right now….Thanks so much….And may God Bless you more thoughts that inspires many….^^

  12. Hi Bro. Bo, thanks for this wonderful article, and let me greet you a Happy Father’s Day! This is so full of wisdom. Thank you so so much. God bless you more

  13. Brother Bo,

    This article touched me once again… Every Monday i am excited to read your article… May GOD continue to bless you… May GOD continue to keep you healthy… I pray that you live long so you can bless, inspire and move more people… This piece is what the world needs… I am blessed just reading your article…

    Joy :-)

  14. Thank you brother Bo for finding the right word to express these most neglected needs.
    I agree! All thumbs up!

  15. I am inspired, thank u so much Bro Bo

  16. beautifully written… inspiring!
    thank you so much for helping me uncover who i am and must be… and for teaching me to love myself and serve God more…
    continue to be a blessing and may God bless you more!:-)

  17. Thank you very much bro. bo…Ur right, most of us do neglect these needs particularly rest, im also too preoccupied with so many things, that im also burn out. Ill take your advice, thanks a lot!

  18. Thank you so much Bo. It’s very inspiring….God bless you more!!!!

  19. Need this message now. Thanks for the reminder Bro. Bo. God bless!

  20. A very nice article! Thanks Bro. Bo! Keep inspiring people :-)

  21. I’m so blessed and inspired by this article.

    I will surely be investing in my RELATIONSHIP with my family … or else, I will be definitely writing that pathetic “Please Bear With Me” letter.

    God bless us all!

  22. Hi Bo, thanks for the inspiring message again (as usual). This lines cracks me up and put me to tears at the same time because this is me!

    “Do you cry easily? Do you cry at a drop of a hat? Do you cry when it rains and do you cry when it shines? Do you cry when the flower blooms and do you cry when the flower dies? Don’t be ashamed to cry. Cry with a friend who gets dumped by a jerk. Cry with an officemate who gets scolded by a boss. Cry with the father whose dream of going abroad was denied. Cry with the little child who feels left out. Cry so that grieving people around the world will never feel alone. ”

    I cry easily and I sometimes got ashamed because people find it weird why I cry easily whether I’m happy or sad. Now I realized that I need to embrace who I am. Thanks Bo! God bless!

  23. Happy fathers’ day ! Bro Bo. you started my week right with this Soulfood! I heard this talk during the Feast and I wetted my handkerchief with tears especially during the letter portion. Because I am sometimes guilty with my Mom when I get impatient with her kakulitan and her forgetfulness. But I truly, really love her so much! I just had to remember this –that she will not with me for a long time and thus, I need to bear with her.

  24. Thanks Bro. Bo. for your inspiring words!

  25. Maraming salamat po! This article made my day…^_^ God bless you, your loved ones and your ministry…

  26. I’ve been down for quite a while now… now I know why. Thanks this and the previous articles on “Toxic Shame”.

    Now, I’ll read them again and reflect on them…

    Now, I need not be afraid of telling myself that I need help, guidance, and strength…

    Thank you for inspiring us, as always :)

  27. May you continue to inspire more people bro! ^^

  28. these are very basic… yes.. but All true… this is just how smple life is, and yes most people do neglect… thanks Bro. Bo for sharing all these…

  29. Big Thanks for sharing this great article bro Bo. I learned a lot and i agree that we should invest in our relationship - with GOD, Family, & Friends. I think i need some rest and vacation, i feel i’m a workaholic. Yeah i need money, well so that i could invest more on your SAM stocks. :DD
    Happy FATHER’s Day bro Bo!!!
    Keep inspiring and informing us. More Power!
    GODBLESS us all.. ”,)

  30. Big Thanks for sharing this great article bro Bo. I learned a lot and i agree that we should invest in our relationship - with GOD, Family, & Friends. I think i need some rest and vacation, i feel i’m a workaholic. Yeah i need money, well so that i could invest more on your SAM stocks. :DD
    Happy FATHER’s Day bro Bo!!!
    Keep inspiring and informing us. More Power!
    GODBLESS us all.. :d

  31. Thanks Bro. Bo! You have made me understand a lot of things about myself and I’m sure as you are that there are a lot of people, like myself who gives too much but forgets- in the process, that they have to attend to their needs as well. They need to be repaired, nourished, loved. Thanks, Bro. Bo. truly inspirational!

  32. very touching, marvelous article… Bo, your writings always remind people about the most important things in life that are usually neglected. Praise God for giving the world someone like you. I am keeping my dream to be as gifted as Bo Sanchez in inspiring and helping others (maybe I should start dreaming to be better than you, hahaha, just kidding). Well, thank you for your pieces and cheers (in advance) for your future heartwarming articles… ^_^

  33. Very timely Bro. Bo…

    I was at the chapel this morning and asking God for His guidance because of my child whom I believe is too stubborn. Your words are the answers Bro. Bo!

    … I highly appreciate your every words!

  34. Thanks Bro. Bo.

    As usual this is another inspiring talk from you, thank you for sending it to my email. I love every word you put into it some of them apply to my weirdness. Now I will not worry about it anymore.

    You have a gift to inspire people, God bless you.

    Misspressy

  35. I’m a funny and talkative person yet after reading this I just wanna cry and be quiet for a moment. Exactly what I needed; hit me through my core. Thanks so much Brother Bo! You’re really one of my angels. No giving up on my dreams because God will rescue me! us! God bless always.

  36. Thanks Bro. Bo for your very inspiring article. I saved it and I intend to use it in our next household meeting. I hope you won’t mind. God bless you always!
    Emy

  37. huhuhu i’ve read this letter so many times, everywhere…. but still my tears fell down…. may God give my old buddies good health & more years to be with us…. Thanks Bo…

  38. thanks alot Bro. Bo..honestly I felt like crying n this letter because it seems like I’m not achieving what I want in life because I failed to save some for myself but sometimes you would also sound selfish to save for yourself first. Indeed, life is so complicated..will read this letter again thoroughly:) take care always Bro. Bo..thank you again

  39. thank you once again bro. bo..

  40. Thank you very much Bro. Bo! GOD bless you more!

    love&prayers,
    Hutch :-)

  41. SALAMAT PO.

  42. I have just realized I’ve failed to meet my needs for a very long time. Thank you brother Bo. I need this, thank you very much. May God bless you more.

  43. Thanks Bro Bo for an inspiring advice to start my day.

  44. your inspiring article reminds me that self love comes first and as important as loving others.many thanks and God bless you.

  45. Thanks Mam Bel Santiago for sharing this to me. And Also thanks to Bo Sanchez for this nice article. God bless you always.

  46. This article can also be entitled “Loving your Authentic Self”

  47. bro. bo, Thank you so much, your article is very inspiring,
    I can’t help to read it many times. It completes our day. More power to you and God Bless.

  48. puede ba akong sumulat sa iyo ng kapampangan? dahil mas higit ma express ang sarili ko sa wika natin! nakilala kita noon nagbigay ka ng talk sa st.joseph church in hong kong siguro mga early 90s at batang bata ka pa noon at maraming mga madre at pari ang dumalo sa talk mo.pagkatapos ng talk mo lumapit ako sa iyo at nagpakilala na ako ang daughter in law ni modesto (estong) of magalang pampanga na 2nd cousin ng tather mo.isang beses kulang nakilala ang mga parents mo nung dumalo kami sa inyong bahay na kasama ko si tata estong.sa mukha palang ng mga parents mo talagang mamabait na!kaya ako sumulat sa iyo para magpasalamat ng malaki dahil ang dami dami mong natutulugan especially ang familia ko!dahil sa talk mo sa ibc 13 nakilala ka ng anak ko si charito bantola at magbuhat noon nasabi nia na ima si bo sanchez nasa tv na at alam kasi ng mga anak ko at nasabi kuna sa kanila na matagal ka ng nagsasalita sa mga gatherings at talagang marami kang matutuan!maraming salamat at isinali ako sa Gods whisperer mo at higit akong natutuwa at nagagalak sa mga payo mo at ang lahat ng mga salita na ginagamit ay totoo lahat!pinapanalangin ka namin magpapamilya na sana lumawig pa ang programa mo.bo,ang aking asawa ay mayroon sakit na multiple sclerosis (ms) sa mga nerve ang sakit niya since 1976 at sa august 2012 37 yrs.na siyang may sakit.hindi ako nawawalan ng pagasa na gagaling siya in Jesus name at anggang ngayon tinataas ko siya sa Panginoon at hindi ako nawawala sa kanya!ang mister ko ay graduate ng electronic enginner of feati university at 31 yrs old nagkasakit. nagkarron kami ng 3 anak at lahat ng mga anak ko ay college graduate except ako sa pamilya college under graduate.ang panganay ko si kiko ay graduate ng mining engineering at nag master siya ng environmental engineering of mapua at first placer sa board 1996.my seng si charito ay tapos ng physical therapist licese at ngayon hinihintay niya ang US exam for physical therapist at ang bunso si amparo ay tapos ng bs phychology at license real estate broker. nag trabajo ako sa hong kong for 15 yrs para mapag aral ko sila lahat.during my stay sa hongkong 2 simbahasn ang aking pinupuntahan at nagsisilbi sa simbahan.one ang St Joseph church sa central hong kong at sumali ako sa Filipino Prayer Group (charismatic group) at ang ginagawa ko dito ay pagkatapos ng misa sa gabi kasama akong anglilinis ng simbahan.my 2nd church na pinagsisilbihan ay ang St.Marys Church sa Hung Hom Kowloon side at sumali ako sa Evengelization Family since 1990s at ako ang nag pasimuno sa Care for the Handicapped. 2 adult training center ang pinupuntahan namin ang Shun Lee Adult Training Center at ang Caritas Medial Center.ang mga ginagawa namin dito ay nilalaro namin ang mga mentally and physically handicapped ages 17 to 34 yrs old,pinapakain at tinuturuan sa mga assignment nilang mga laro and magbilang.pinupuri kita brother bo sa lahat lahat na ginagawa mo at sana minsan magkaroon kaming lahat dito sa pampanga na makilala ka namin kapamilya mo! talagang mabait sa akin ang Panginoon dahil niyakap ko ang krus na dala dala ko! at hindi ako pinabayaan ni Mama Mary! sa panalangin kay Mama Mary na iningi ko na ipanalangin tasyong lahat at ilapit sa puso ni Jesus. maraming salamat kung babasain mo ang sulat ko.God bless us all.

  49. Thank you Bro Bo.. another eye opener ….Salamat God bless.

  50. Brother Bo,

    very touching story. ….let us love our parents

  51. thanks Bo, such an inspiring article. It makes me teary eyed knowing that I am far away from home, far from my family too.

    God Bless, keep on writing to inspire others…

  52. Hi Bo,

    very inspirational,thank you so much!. so dapat mag deodorant na tayo ha para indi tayo makapatay nang tao hahahaha..
    laugh trip..!!!! =)

    God Bless to all =)

  53. Hi Bo,

    Thanks for the soulfood. I learned something new again. Most of all thanks to the Lord who has been giving you wisdom. =]

    Anyway, a few days after reading this, a question hit me:
    How can I love myself if the teachings say that I have to forget myself in order to be a follower of Christ?

    I already have an idea but I want to know yours. I pray that this doesn’t sound idiotic or rude. =]
    I just don’t want to be confused.

    Peace be with you! =]

  54. […] 3. Meet your 5 most commonly neglected needs. by Bo Sanchez […]

  55. “No great man ever complains of want of opportunities.”

    —Ralph Waldo Emerson:

  56. It is indeed a very inspiring message!

  57. “God made you talkative for a purpose.”
    Thank you Brother Bo, I am smiling as I’m writing this. I am very talkative and I have learned its purpose. Thank you for all your encouragements. God bless you po.

  58. The letter made me cry….it was really touching and true…. I appreciate my mom even more now after reading the letter….Thanks for sharing…it was really inspiring…

  59. Hi Kuya Bo!
    Ang ganda… ito ang isa sa paborito kong article mo :)

    at iyong sulat ng magulang sa kanyang anak.. it was my 3rd time to see kasi dati sa recollection sa Dambanang Kawayan, it was a power point presentation at tagalog po siya kaya lalo kong naramdaman ang mensahe ng sulat, grabe, tumataas ang balahibo ko while it was playing and I was teary eyed back then.. then sa fb account ko it was english version na and now, yours…

    Kuya Bo, maraming salamat!
    Pagpalain ka at ang lahat nang Poong Maykapal.
    Sana lahat ng readers ay matanggap ang kanya-kanyang biyaya sa kanila at sana maging biyaya din sila sa iba…
    Salamat!:)

  60. “What are your dreams? Identify them. Write them down. Pray for them. Announce them to the world. And make your dreams wake you up everyday.”

    I like this Bo. It’s struck my heart. I know when I was a younger… I said I want to be an Ambassador. I realized that Jesus wants me to be an Ambassador of his faith.

  61. thank you so much bro. bo. Thanks God for having BO Sanchez in the earth.

    This is very inspiring. Para sa akin at sa partner ko. This is an answered prayer para sa amin.

  62. […] week, he talked about self love http://bosanchez.ph/meet-your-five-most-commonly-neglected-needs/. He says, and I quote, “Within you is a Love Tank.  And your Love Tank has a faucet.  The […]

  63. I am so inspired. Can I print this?
    I’m facilitating a self-awareness activity for my students before we meet their clients in our Psychiatric Affiliation and this is going to be a great help…

  64. For d past decades, iv been working really hard…but i dont hav a specific dreams…so i so loved myself that i shop here and there…
    Right now i felt that god punished me, im financially drought… I need to pay a big amount of money…enOugh to start a business, enough to travel around asia, enough for housing downpaymnt…the money iv lost..i never truly enjoy…its mere miscalculations and all and i have to suffer that…
    I have to give money to my family, i have to pay my house rent, pay loans, pay insurances, enroll to study…i just dont know how to face all these for the months to come…
    Right now, im praying that i can surpass all of this…i dont know how but i give my trust in Him…please pray for me…thank u… :)
    God bless all d readers…and salamat Bo…for d uplifting story..

  65. Hi Bo! Hope ul have a feast here in Bangkok,Thailand…it is my dream to attend d feast…

  66. Dear bro Bo,
    Thank you so much! You made me laughed and you made me cry…..that’s great! Sobrang na touched po ako sa letter (Please bear with me) isang makatutuhanan pangyayari sa buhay.

    Salamat po and i have to bare this in my mind.

    God bless
    Elsie

  67. Thank you for this great article. I should place more value on myself in order to love others. I should be confident about myself and believe that I can do greater things through God who strengthens me.

  68. Truly inspiring, illustration are very well written, two thumbs up bro bo, thanks for the message, AGAIN I FELT I HAVE A BUTTERFLY IN MY STOMACH, while im reading this article…it lit my PASSION again….God bless you

  69. God is too good. He made someone as His instrument to enlighten one’s mind and inspire one’s heart.

  70. salamat bro, i will treasure this message!

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