How To Have A Relationship That Will Last
Yes, Opposites Attract—
But Will The Attraction Make A Relationship Endure To The End?
I just attended the wedding of my niece, Beng, and her new husband, PJ.
Beautiful wedding.
Beng is my lovely niece, the daughter of Pinkie and Abel–(Pinkie is my sister). I’m amazed how many common things bind them together.
· When PJ was 8-years-old, he saw Beng as a 6-year-old kid and liked her already. (My gosh, that was 19 years ago.)
· PJ is part of the choir of his church, while Beng is one of the singers of our music ministry.
· Both of them are very loving to their own parents—who nourished both of them with great amounts of love.
· Both are known by everyone as moral, upright, diligent, and wholesome. (To some people, that means “boring”. To me, that means wise.)
· Both of them love the Lord.
They say that when it comes to love, opposites attract.
I admit that it adds sizzle, no doubt.
Partners can differ on tastes—perhaps the woman loves Italian pasta but the man eats only adobo and paksiw. Partners can differ on the best way to spend their weekend—perhaps he likes mountain climbing but she likes answering sudoku at home. Partners can differ in personality—perhaps he likes to listen and she likes to talk.
All these differences are fine. They can complement each other.
But at the end of the day, it’s the COMMON things that will HELP hold a marriage together. Especially (1) common values, (2) common vision, and (3) common passions.
So I’m betting that Beng and PJ will grow old together.
If you’re married, and you want to strengthen your marriage, then CREATE common values, common vision, and common passions together. Work on them!
And if you’re not yet married, be sure to find someone who shares with you your values, vision, and passions.
That’s why it’s very important to first be clear about your dreams. And that’s why I’m excited to give you my first FREE E-book, How To Make Your Dreams Come True, Part 1: Soul Dreams. By clarifying your personal dreams, you’ll find out if the other person also has similar dreams—or dreams you can support with all your heart. (So sorry, it’s taking some time to get your first FREE E-book sent to you. I already wrote it, but I didn’t realize there are a lot of other things to do aside from writing it—like setting up all the websites, links, etc… Please bear with us as you wait for my first FREE E-book. Give us a couple more weeks to finish the infrastructure and packaging.)
Live with purpose,
Bo Sanchez
PS1. My son was ring-bearer. Just to show off his good genes (haha), here’s his photo.
PS2. I hope to see you on June 12. Learn how to gain financial freedom this year. On January 12 (8:30am to 12noon) I’m giving my powerful How To Be Truly Rich Seminar. By the way, I give this Seminar to companies at P7,000++ per person, but because I want to help more people, I give this Seminar to the public at the subsidized cost of P475 only. (Yes, that’s not a typo.) And those who attend this Seminar will be qualified to attend the Truly Rich Financial Coaching Programon January 18 and 19, 2008. Bonus: You join the Truly Rich Club. Call up Beckie at Tel. (02) 7229562 (9:00 a.m.-6:00 p.m. Tuesdays –Fridays) right away before you run out of seats (we always do). Or email her at beaconlightevents@gmail.com Don’t delay. Only those who take action succeed in life. So call up or email now!
PS3. For two “spiritually-refreshing and fun” weeks, I’ll be leading a small pilgrimage group to Eastern Europe this April. If you want to join me, please email Beckie at beaconlightevents@gmail.com for details. (Traveling is fun. But traveling and having a spiritual retreat at the same time is even better!)
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what should you do if marriage is so tough and things aren’t working well anymore.?????third party thing?
dear bo, thats true about this lasting relatuionship topic. First of all, both should be God-fearing,they should always pray and read the Bible together as a couple(even if they are quarrelling). There is no such thing as equality in marriage. The head of the family is the husband and the wife is his helpmate and at the center is Christ. Altho he is the head of the family, God did not tell the husband to order and boss his wife around, but to love her as Christ loved the Chiurch. Adjustment and humility should always be practiced by both.
husbands,grooms need to be reoriented about relationships and family life.
Thank you Bo. more power to you!
what if you have common values and common vision but have different ways of approaching them? in other words, they quarel most of the time and they don’t meet halfway. i fully agree with chit that husbands should be reoriented esp my controlling husband who i think hasn’t the slightest idea of what he does to me.
btw bro bo, thanks for your articles. it has always inspired me. i sure hope that my husband also gets to read your articles for his own enlightenment.
Bro Bo,
You are inspiring me daily by providing food for my soul. May God bless you always and all your undertakings. You’re exceptional bcoz of HIM!
hi bo,
pano kung importante sayo mo ang pamilya and this girl pero due to some problems/fight before umayaw na sa girl ang pamilya ng guy..
but you love this girl so much, you just worry na magalit at masaktan ang pamilya mo because kaya pa rin ng girl?
how could i tell to my family that i love this girl so much, that she means a lot to me and i love them also..?
thanks bo..
youre my outlet everytime problem comes along..
god bless.. hope to see you on the feast..
Hello Bro Bo!
This is a great reflection and I’m touched by it. I guess I’ll share it as well to my friends and especially in my multiply site for them to be enlightened as well.
Thank you very much and God bless!
resend:
hi bo,
importante sakin ang pamilya ko and this girl pero due to some problems/fight before umayaw/nagalit na sa girl ang pamilya ko
but i love this girl so much, im just worried na magalit at masaktan (na namn) ang pamilya ko because mahal ko pa rin ng girl hanggang ngayon,kahit dami na ngyri sa aming 2..
how could i tell sa family ko that i love this girl so much, that she means a lot to me and i also love them and dont want them to get hurt sa feelings ko and sa gusto kong gawin na balikan sya and to be with her forever?
thanks bo..
youre my outlet everytime problem comes along..
god bless.. hope to see you on the feast..
I believe that having God as the center of your relationship is the greatest common thing to have in a relationship…
Bro. bo… thanks for the inspiration and wisdom…
hi bo…thanks for the sharing…i been reading your writings for almost ten years and i always get enlightened and smiled…keep on going,,! God Bless
Wow, what an inspiring story. Gusto ko rin maging kagaya nila.
brother bo,
i am seeing this girl, though i miss her, i like her company, part of me is still unsure if i love her, or part of me is asking “am i in love with her?” should i pursue the pseudo relationship? or will it go futher and deeper?am i wrong?
Bro,
Your advice may be too late for some but definitely not for a lot of others. It’s sad that lot of people (both men and women) go into a marriage for the wrong reasons or have assumed expectations. For example, a lot of women go into a marriage thinking that they will change their husbands or they convince themselves that their husbands will change once they are married. Unfortunately, 99% of the time, men don’t change. Both men and women need to make sure they and their partners are mature enough and ready for that kind of relationship and family life before getting married, not after.
If couples want God to be the center of their lives, they need to make sure that both of them are God-loving, not God-fearing. For why should we fear God when He is all loving. If we avoid sin for fear of God’s wrath I believe we have the wrong mindset. In my mind, we should avoid sin because we love and respect God. We, as human beings, commit sin over and over but God always accepts us when we decide to go back to Him. Of course, that’s just me. Some may disagree but that’s the beauty of God’s wisdom - He gave us free will.
Keep up the good work, Bro.
hi Bo, I’ve been subscribing to your monthly newsletter and this one made a pat in shoulder. i am also getting married. I can attest that a lot of young people right now seem to be attaching the word called LOVE with either sex or feelings. I believe that love is a decision, a commitment. I am not saying that we are perfect but thanks to a seminar i attended recently, it opened my eyes when it comes to relationship & marriage. and now i look forward to the struggles, we will both make it
with all the media (tv, movies, music, magazines & all) hullabaloos, a lot of young people are getting the wrong idea on love. some may be wise, but i’d bet my only peso that a lot are getting the wrong idea.
i hope this goes around a lot of people esp. those who are thinking of plunging to married life.
btw, me and my partner are also serving at our local church thru music. what a nice similarity. =)
brother bo.
thank you for always sending me a beautiful message. it helps me a lot to enlighten my mind and heart everyday. Knowing your common values, vision and passion are the main factor to have a last relationship.
bro. bo,
i have a long distance relationship with a guy who is separated and known as a playboy, we’ve been for 10 months having yet seeing each other in person pursueing for the sake the relationship will work out. Yet In those months tru conversation phone,chatting, and text i known him as a kind, sweet loving person, happy but lately i find myself that i’ ve been too focus on him and trying to changes him because of his being playboy, i thought having me in his life he will gonna be change tru our relationships but i found out that he still doing the same thing having a 2 girlfriend at the same time that’s why i decided to brake him up although i care and love him. Did i made the right decision? how can i know myself if im matured enough in a relationship?because my relationship only last for a year, i keep on realizing myself why i always end up, what is the main problem with me?and this time if God best choose for me will come i want it to be last.
bro,
i have a special friend and we are like boyfriends and girlfriends,they keep on asking kung kami na,ang sagot namin we are getting there.we are in one community also,we have the same values and we even have our own personal prayer time at the same hour.we have this LOVE FAITH HOPE .pls pray for our relationship.thank you
Dear Bro. Bo,
Thank you for sharing your blessings. Been here in San Francisco, CA since Nov.07, but i always see to it that I read all your messages.Hope you could also send them to my daughter who is left in the Philippines,particularly in Davao. Her ad is : tnetc0383@yahoo.com.
I want her to read this particular article, so she would be guided.
Godbless!
Hello Bro. Bo,
Maybe I’m late in replying on this topic. I have been separated for almost 15 years now. Ourmarriage started of when we eloped against our parents will. I can say we had a good life. I was able to provide my family a modest lifestyle. There was not even a quarrel in our 12 year relationship that gave us 7 kids, 6 boys, 1 girl. MAYBE we didnt TALK enough about our problems with each other. MAYBE I was so engrossed with my job thinking I’m giving my family the good life. But now I know what we didnt have was a spiritual family. We didnt go to mass, we did not pray as a family. I thought I was making a great job by earning more. But bo, you are right and I wish I was much smarter then by relying on GOD. He DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE.
Keep up and more power to you. May you heal more people like me and save more families on the edge of disaster. And May God Bless you and your wonderful family
dear bo,
being married for only 7 years now, but had had the worst experience every wife can ever imagine..but it made me closer to God and sensitive to others needs.also made me stronger!I know that in Gods time everything will be alright for as long as i fully trust my life to Him.
can’t wait for your free e-book!
lots of love!
gud morning! bro.bo..thanks ..i’m so excited to read your free e-book ( free kasi….) God bless!!!
hi Bo,
thanks for your reflection it’s really nice and it help but as of the moment my boyfriend broke up with me, and i could not accept the reason/s he gave because i can’t sense the sincerity. I have so many doubts about him but any way maybe if i do have a new relationship next time i’ll take your reflection. But for now i’m still hurt.
more power
Great article. It was refreshing, specially for me who just got married last year. Reinforcing our common values, mission and maybe even sharing our interests will keep us binded, stronger when things get tough.
thanks Bo.
God bless us all!
bro bo,
thanks a lot for all your messages! i always keep checking emails, and firsthand read your messages. still waiting for your free e-book! GOD IS REALLY GOOD AND GREAT! GOD BLESS YOU, ALWAYS! MORE POWER!
Hi Bro. Bo,
I love hearing you speak of God’s words, you always touch our hearts because God is with you. Im grateful for all these (internet & all) for they give me means to hear you wherever I am unlike before I have to find schedules to hear you. I love your Preacher in Blue Jeans. Would love to attend one of your seminars also.
God Bless you & your family always. Love is God!
Bro. Bo,
Thank you for giving us again your very inspiring article. My husband was a member of INC before we were married and I’m of course a devout Catholic. So that’s already a big difference. But we were married in a Catholic rites pero hindi ko siya pinilit. My belief is that since he is already a God-loving person our difference in religion will not matter. What matters most is that we love each other (he, he para yatang lyrics ito ng song, and this song is one of our favorites). We attended mass at the Catholic church every Sunday and other days and we have a meaningful discussion of religious matters. I allow him to watch TV shows of INC but just reminded him not to watch programs were the hosts are quarreling with different religions or sects. We have other differences like food, places/events to go, etc. Bu so far we managed it. If he doesn’t lik to go but he permitted me to then I go, but most of the time I prefer not to if he cannot go with me, For food, he eats what I prepared and vice versa. That is, for a relationship to be lasting,couples should learn to give and take not just taking and taking and giving and giving. And most important thing I learned is that it is easy to make a quarel with your partner if you would like to, and it’s up to you not to permit it. What I’m saying is that, for example, I’m jealous so I just told it to my husband in a kinda flirting way and of course the reply will end up with laughing and hugging. Another is about money matters, I don’t nag him or worry if our budget seems not enough. If he told me about it then I just console him by saying my ever favorite line “Don’t worry God will provide”. And most of all GOD is foever in our life.
More Power and GOD BLESS Bro. Bo.
dear bo,
it’s always amazing to read your articles, it’s inspiring and your words are kinda nerve-cracking, narrow-to-wide-mind-opener, in a good way though…
well, with regards to relationship or to marriage perhaps, i’m following your advices…because in it, the very force or the very thing that makes a relationship work is the capacity to give of each party in it…
and i agree with you that it starts with us, MEN…
We, men, should really be the very foundation of the relationship, and eventually a FAMILY…our job as fathers, as husbands, doesn’t stop after providing the basic needs of a family, we are also responsible for inculcating the values that my family should have…
imagine when MEN never cheats on his wife, and becomes as BORING as he can be(…in your own dictionary…WISE..), imagine our world would definitely be a better place to live in…
this is a wishful thinking, i know, but there are still a few fathers, a few husbands, a few MEN, who are men enough to be responsible for their partners and their childrens…this is the very reason why my hopes for a better world is still high…
God bless us all…
I believe that relationships are big investments one should make..
Thanks for sharing this..
hello po,
thanks for the inspiring stories, although it is thru email only, but it reaaly helps me a lot….. Sir can i ask something? How can you know the will of GOD for a one person………..
very true, indeed…
i pray the Lord will bless me with a loving husband ill grow old with….
after the failed relationships in the past
thanks for the inspiration, bo. sometimes its tiring to wait, yet your writings do give a boost….
GOD BLESS US ALWAYS!
Dearest Bo,
This article is very timely. I dont know why but everytime I open a mail from you. You would just always leave a mark….I have been having difficulty with my current bf now. Actually I think both us are having a struggle. We have been together for two years now despite the distance. But distance makes me sooooooo lonely. We have totally different personality and until now I couldnt understand his reactions, actions and etc. But at the end of the day I couldnt just let go because I believe in our dreams and goals. Is it normal that doubt and fear would come along? There is fear that he might not be loyal to me. And sometimes I watch his every move and action when we are together. We get to see each other almost every month…the most is every two months….Actually he is on his way to Zamboanga again and be back last week of February. Then he sent me a message last night,,,,a beautiful and heartfelt message….and I want to believe them all. I was just wondering we both know that we are totally opposite and that we have different personality. But what keeps me going is that…..both us wants the relationship to work despite of the difference. You think thats enough for us to go on despite of ?
hi bo,
You’ve written articlaes about “How to Find your One True Love”.. It was amazing how it led me to my true love now! How about writing another one but about “How to KEEP your One True Love”? Certainly a lot of us will look forward to learning this.
Please please.. you and your wife are good examples. Finding a special someone is easy but KEEPING him by your side is much difficult.
Thanks in advance!
Hi BO!
Thanks for the very inspiring message.
More power.
macky
Does the same thing work for boyfriend-girlfriend relationships?
Well, I just have an insight I wanna share. Let me start it this way: Love God first. And love God more than you love your guy/girl. ‘Cause if you do, you’ll love your guy/girl even better….
I learned this the hard way with my boyfriend, Kris. We first got to know each other at our church community. He liked me ever since, but I never gave a damn on him before. To cut the story short, we became friends, through his persistence; I realized how handsome he is (yes, physically and internally), and we became a couple. I was so madly in love with him; I thought about him every second. I’d write him love letters and poems. I’d text him whenever I can and tell him I love him. He liked that, but somehow, it just doesn’t seem to work. I’d be on the lookout for other “yummier” guys to fulfill my need to feel loved. I guess the worst thing I did was when I “two-timed”–with him and a seminarian (Gosh, Lord, I’m really so sorry I did that.) We broke, became a couple, broke, became a couple again. Our relationship’s an on and off thing.
But then, something happened that harked me back to my senses. The two of us praying before meals… together. The two of us going to Mass… together. The two of us sharing common prayers. The two of us praying for each other. The two of us serving God’s people through the church.
Now, our relationship’s even better: Our bond’s stronger, we became more mature when it comes to our relationship, we became more beautiful than ever in the eyes of each other.
Dear bo,
I’ve been an avid fan of yours and your books and written compositions have been a daily part of my life and i’m proud to say that it has been inspiring me for years now. Thank You! Sometimes, when i feel down, i ask the holy spirit to guide me to pray and it will lead me back to reading and to prayers.
I like reading your articles. And this topic is somehow related to what i’m into ryt now. I have a long-time guy best friend. He’s a bisexual. There are still times that he still goes out with a man, still holding on to have a last relationship because he had experiences of not being loved by men nor by women. He was still on look for someone who would really love him sincerely. He sees himself that he will get married someday with a girl and will live a happy and long-lasting marriage in the future. But he couldn’t imagine himself, getting back to his old gay relationships once he gets married. He said that would be unfair to his wife. That’s why he’s still waiting for that man. Though he had girl friends and boy friends before, some things really never worked. Especially, with his past relationships, they’ve all asked him for one thing. A sexual relationship which he refused to give. He cried and questioned and even asked me when will he find the right person. Someone different.
Both of us knew each other in and out. We don’t have secrets to hide. We call each other sweet names too. We express each other’s love every now and then. We both feel secure with each other. We care for each other just like any other man and woman would do in a romantic relationship, well of course, excluding love-making. That we don’t do. And that we don’t like to do. This is one of the reasons why up to now, our relationship is strong. We respect each other. Though there have been times that we slept together, but we both make sure that nothing would happen. We both believe in God and trust in Him that He has Mr. and Ms. Right for both of us. Our friendship has been tested several times. But we passed all those trials.
We go out together and if sometimes we would have petty quarrels, we discuss and listen to each other. We both believe that our relationship were meant to last and that it is a God’s blessing for us. He told me that nobody ever compares my love for him and i felt the same way. His caring and love for me has been vivid to everyone. My friends and family thought that we are on to a serious rel now and not just the platonic one. But they are wrong. We are still who we were before and we both like the feelings.
But recently, i felt something different within me. It seemed like i’m falling for him. I’ve read ur OTL book and the ideals that i’ve been looking for a man for quite sometime now, i can now see in him. I wanted a guy who has a good family relationship, fears God and has a good spiritual life, a christian, has a good work life and responsible, loving, financially stable, with sense of humor, ambitious and highly motivated, intelligent and good-looking. He has all these. There’s only one problem, part of him is still stuck on his homosexual life. But that i am willing to accept and he knew that i don’t mind getting married to a gay as long as he will spritually manage to grow to change for the better and i believe that nothing is impossible with God. I dream to have a good family someday. i am now turning 28. Still entertaining suitors but it always end up to nothing. What will i do Bo? shall i tell this man how i feel? how would i know if i am the girl he was referring to that he would wnanna marry? I hope you can send me a reply on my mail.
May you continue to bless everyone! you just don’t know how much soul feeding you are imparting to all of us through your services.
God bless!
Thanks for the advice, pero parang bitin. I’m currently seeing a foreign guy and he’s not Christian. Anyway, I think any relationship (regardless of nationality or religion) requires give and take attitude. It’s either his way some time, or her way, some other time. If the husband/boyfriend insists his way or vice versa, for sure there will always be world war III. I’m interested to attend any of your seminars, unfortunately they are not offered here in UAE. Are they available in videos?
Many thanks again. Enjoy reading your articles.
hello Bro. Bo!
I miss so much already my second family in the community…Anyway, thank you so much for the inspiring thought…I dont know if i really found my one true love…i have a bf now and we’re more than five years already…but i dont know if he is really the one for me from God.We really love each other but he has an obligation from his family…Please help me pray…
God bless..
hello.. thanks!
it makes me reflect. God bless you!
Love makes the world go round…
Love makes one think about the best things in life…
Love adds years to one’s self…
Love hooks up a relationship in all aspect….
Love can make you smile…
Whatever it is that we do encounter…we always get the strenght in Love…
No LOVE… NO LIFE….
NO GOD…NO LOVE…
THEREFORE: NO GOD, NO LOVE…NO LIFE…
Love makes the world go round…
Love makes one think about the best things in life…
Love adds years to one’s self…
Love hooks up a relationship in all aspect….
Love can make you smile…
Whatever it is that we do encounter…we always get the strenght in Love…
No LOVE… NO LIFE….
NO GOD…NO LOVE…
THEREFORE: GOD IS LOVE AND LOVE IS GOD….
Dear Bo,
Thanks for another great article. You always inspire people to go higher in every situation and relationship they are in, in very simple ways, simple yet impactful. I really look forward to your e-zine.
I got a niece (here in Dubai) who just recently found out that her bf has a family back home. I admire her courage for breaking up with him. The guy still pursues her but we advised him to stay away otherwise we have to tell his family. Do you have a forum or a group which she can join online for advice? Salamat if you can recommend one.
I read from a coach this wish: may your best in 2007 be your worse in 2008. I wish to you and your team the same.
Sincere wishes for your success always.
Hi Bo,
Thanks for soulful message u sent , my you continue to inspire more people ..
still waiting for your free E- Book
God bless u and your family …
hi bo,
what about different religions? does it really matter? if one will convert to the other religion, does he or she become a sinner….of their own religion ofcourse. what if you all both share everything, except that?
GOD BLESS…
hello brother Bo!
this is such an inspiring story especially for us SINGLES and still looking for a future life long partner. somehow, it reminded me of the song “I Wanna Grrow Old With You”. in God’s grace, we will also be blessed with God fearing partners whom we share the same values, vision and passion. more power to you brother Bo and your family.
Dear Bo,
I was praying last night for guidance on whether or not a good guy friend of mine is the one God sent for me.
Thank God for a timely topic from your newsletter!
I can say outright that we have 2 out of the 3 you enumerated. I think 2/3 is good enough, but the remaining 1/3 sometimes make all the difference.
Wish me luck with meditating on the remaining 1/3!
God bless you and those around you, always!
I emailed almost a year ago about a single guy I was in love with but did not work out. Now, I am back in USA, and after reading your subject matter above, I have big problem. I just fallen in love with a married man and he feels the same about me and we both know it is wrong. We have not done anything to be ashame of other than talking but the more we do that, feeling are getting deeper. As you know here in the USA, divorces are rampant and I am not sure I can forgive myself in the years to come if he does divorce his wife. I just don’t know how to end our obsession to each other for now.THIS IS CONFIDENTIAL BY THE WAY AND I WOULD APPRECIATE A REPLY,PLEASE!
hi bro. bo,
so bitin. sa palagay ganito rin ang feelings ng mga apostles when Jesus was sharing. if people could only make our 24 hours all day minus night e ginawa na nila…
your topic is like a rubik’s cube for me. i like to smash it and see how they work on the inside when they are being solved but i cannot do that (di ba?)!
jay shared in this forum that marriage must not only be shared by two God-fearing people but by two God-loving couples. i just want to add what i thinl you espoused too in some of your talks. this i learned very much ahead by Fr. Guido Arguelles, SJ > he said that we must put God at the center… BE GOD-CENTERED … and God will never leave you (HOW COULD GOD EVER LEAVE YOU ???)
He is all in your life.. He is the center… I can never see and will never see >>> any marriage part ways… destroyed… broken… Enjoy your marriage… its the best legacy you can ever give your kids… MORE POWER TO YOUR GOD-CENTERED MISSION!
john nunez
brother bo.. allow me to post this on my blog.. i want to share it to my friends.. i will site you.. God bless..
Brother Bo,
My husband died when i was 26. Since i was too young when he died, left with 2 daughters, living in a foreign country, i did my best to find a husband. Unfortunately, the next one died also, being the father of my third daughter. Then all the next guys i have been with, have never been serious. Or it’s either a pshycopat, a fraud, or some fell in love with me, but never really want to marry me. There have been too many heartaches,
The funny thing is all the guys i have been with, even my late husband, God showed them to me in my dreams before i met them. I think this is strange, but my present fiance, i have never seen him in my dreams, I have been wondering lately. Just the other day, i think it’s God…revealed something to me. My fiance and i prays every night before going to bed, read a daily christian book for married couples, we have good communication, we have same goals, same vision, hopes, even like the same food, same attitudes. Everything that we do was something that has been hidden in my heart for many years that i wish i had.. I never thought i would ever have a relationship like this. My fiance loves me very much and i love him just the same.
What God revealed to me is, i have never seen my present fiance in my dreams, but i have seen him in my heart for many years. This is a wish that i kept silently in my heart, i never even asked God about it. I just wished deep inside. God who occupies our hearts, or my heart knows the kind of man i longed for, and He has now given him to me.
God is a good great God!
Thanks for sending me some emails
hi bro.bo,
thank u for being an inspiration to everybody, to me as one. everytime i read ur write ups i am always inspired. u know im very much interested w/ regards to inputs about relationships or love. i was brokenhearted ( my first love) and still keeping that loneliness & love until now. it was 5 years ago. and now im still in love w/ my ex boyfriend, he is married already today and im still single ( no bf), i tried to have one before but it did not work out too, coz i know its not my heart that decides when i entered into it. now my ex and i still have communications. he told me he is still in love w/ me. and we keep on being freinds, we seldom see each other. bro bo, i know its not good to keep this “relationship” we have today. but im hopeful someday, we’ll share this love of ours freely. im confused but still will love him for the rest of my life.
just asking for some inspring words from u..
thank u very much and keep on touching lives.
nemnem :o)
Bro. Bo:
Nice that i subscribed your free email soulfood. Bo, pano kung kasal na then na discover ko hindi pala kami compatible. Yung values, vision and passion magka iba talaga. May pag asa ba pa yun maging happy family kami. You know my patience with may husband nauubos na talaga. Kung pwede nga lang isoli matagal ko nang ginawa.
Hope you can give me advice.
Thanks
Sheila
amen to that…been married for 17 years… a lot of trials have been experieced ….and not a simple one but its a big storm that almost make my marriage and life boommmmmmmmm….but in GOD’s way mas lalong tumibay ang pagmamahalan namin…just put God on the center of y our marriage and give all the worries to HIM at bahala sya sa iyo…..God bless and thanks for all of this Bro. Bo
Dear Bro. Bo,
New Year greetings to you and your family from the U.S. Thanks for this nice article. Am married for 30 long years! ( same partner! ha ha ! ) Praise God !!! All i could say is, only God can keep a marriage intact if couple accepts Him as vital part of their relationship. No matter what storms in life they may encounter, wherever fate may lead them to, if God is within their relationship, yes, it will last as God planned it to be.
Thanks once again and looking forward to more inspiring thoughts from you. May God inspire you more…
God bless—
Starlight
Bro.Bo,
My life hasn’t been the same since my niece sent your website to me, I’ve been religiously reading all the articles that I could click on, I especially like the section Preacher in Blue Jeans.
I received your first e-mail today and I am really so happy about it.
More power to you Bo and may your ministry expand.
Sincerely,
Cora
Bro. Bo,
Thank u for being an inspiration to everybody, to me as one. Im very much interested w/ regards to inputs about relationships or love. I was brokenhearted and still keeping that loneliness & love. Our relationship ended last jan. 7, 2008 (monday). I found out that my guy is already married to his so called “ex-gf” (secret marriage). He told me it happened before his girl went abroad. And he found out that his wife seeking for legal action. We decided to end our relationship. That was too painful to me coz im 3 weeks pregnant and i dont know what to do. Bro. Bo, pls help me…………
bro bo,
thanks for the inspiring message…i really need it to renew my soul…hope to send me the e-book
Dear Bro. Bo,
Tama Bro.Bo, na dapat kahit sa mga mag asawa na , to have or create common values, common vision and common passion together coz ito ang magpapatatag sa kanilang habang buhay na pag sasama. My husband Levi and I have been married for 24yrs now at sa tulong ni LORD ay naging matatag ang aming samahan bilang mag asawa. Levi is an overseas contract worker in the middle east and everyday we see to it na may email kami sa bawat isa and we talk on everything lalo na about our family. kahit na nga miles apart kami eh we both feel na habang tumatagal ang marriage namin, our love for each other eh ,nadaragdagan pa. Naku! sounds corny ito sa iba…pero iyan ang totoo. I think important din ang palagiang communication sa mag-asawa lalo na nga, sa tulad namin na nasa ibang bansa ang husband.
Bro.Bo,marami kang tao na natutulungan at nawa lumawig pa ang iyong buhay at lagi kang kasama sa mga prayers ko. Mabuhay ka!!!
bo, i would love to attend all your seminars but i live in the US….when will you ever come here to give one or two? be sure to make it in Los Angeles ok. i have a collection of all your books and i love it all! More POWER!
hmmm, common values, vission & passion?!!
I’ll bear these three in mind bro bo!!
Thanks a lot
hello bo! your articles inpire me alot and keeps me hoping that there is always a joyous tomorrow to look up into. I am in a situation now where i see gloomy clouds and rainy yesterdays… but knowing that GOD is always there at my side. I dont worry, everything that happens, there is always a reason behind! though rainy often and there is flood each day… and only one thing i trust, im sailing with GOD during these days! GODbless US ALL! happy new yr!
Bo:
It’s true, having something in common in spite of the many differences is essential to a happy marriage. Differences teaches the other partner lessons to be learned that will help improve their outlook in life and enhance the common things that they have.
A happy and succesful marriage is God’s gift for couples who value the Sacrament of Marriage.
God bless and please continue to enlighten us, you are God’s gift to people like us.
Bo,
From the first time i saw you in one of your concerts in Davao City i been sharing your stories to my friends. During meetings i also shared some reflections taken from the Didache.
Your article on lasting relationship is very inspiring. God bless you and the Kergyma Family
i have learned a lot…although I have an unsuccessful marriage, I learned that a lasting relationship must always come with responsibility to know and understand each others differences…each of these differnces are sometimes hard to accept, but if each other listens carefully to what their hearts are saying and with the guidance of God, all things will be weightless to both hearts to easily understand…
Dear Bo,
It’s true that for a marriage to succeed, each couple must look for common values and common mission and vision for their family. In my case, I found that before any of this can be achieved, a husband and a wife must respect each other. This is a must. The trouble is that more often than not we do not extend to our spouse the same courtesies that we extend to our friends, or to other people. Mas nahihiya pa tayo sa ibang tao! There is innumerable reasons to maintain our respect to our spouses, foremost of which is that it is part of God’s plan to honor them all the days of our lives.
Dear Bro. Bo,
I’m married for almost eight years now but not blessed with children but it’s okay, i was able to accept that fact already. it is very hard to keep the marriage but i’m still holding on to it. please pray me and thank you for sending inspirational stories that keeps my FAITH TO GOD.
GOD bless you and the people you love.
a very inspiring story! It rekindle our romance of my wife. Glad to tell you all that we are celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary right now(Jan. 10) And as our gift to ourself, we will attend Bo’s seminar on Saturday.
God bless
Hi Brother Bo,
Thanks for another inspiring article!!!
I agree, couples should share common values, vission and passion. But definitely there will be differences between couples for simple reasons such as they were raised by different person in different environment.
So for those in GF/BF relationship, just make sure that your differences are reconcilable one otherwise better make a decision right away.
hi bo… slamat sa mga message nah ndating sa mail ko, laki ng naiitulong skin ng mga talk at story mo, sa life ko at sa pg preach ko sa mga teenager. by the way… 6 years kami ng gf ko, sa 6 years na un pinglaban nmin ung relasyon nmin sa pamilya ko, hanggang sa sumuko sya, sumuko ako. ngayn meron nah syang iba ako meron nah din, pero khit ganun d mawala ung pagmamahalan namin sa isat isa. cnasabi prin nya skin nah ako prin ung mahal nya, ako ganun din…. ano b dpat kong gwin? pls advise mo nman po ako… thanks po…
Thanks as always, Bro. Bo. You always make amazing sense!!!
I can truly say that you and your ministry is one of the best discoveries I made during the past year and will continue to be so for the coming years. God bless.
Phoebe
Dear Bro. Bo,
Thanks for sharing God’s love through this site.
Hope you get time to be here in Gensan again and share to us the chance to get better financially on your “How To Be Truly Rich Seminar.”
God bless your home.
Gracey
bo,
thanks for all the guidance through your published works. im gaining strength and insights from your stories and words of wisdom. they help me a lot in handling my 5-yr relationship with my boyfriend. everyday is a struggle to keep the relationship. we are are so different from each other. though in a way, we complement each other. but i always feel that i bend so much to keep what we have. how far should i go? when do i know that i should stop? i hope you could enlighten me..thank you so much
Bro. Bo,
I was really inspired in all your books especially ur OTR book, since i was brokenhearted for 3 years…and still harboring the feelings from the past ur book makes me realize what a man thinks about opposite sex,courtship and relationships (how to handle)…and now realize some of our mistakes why my relationship w/ my ex does not work….and aside from that all ur articles even in kerygma was trully inspiring…More Power and God Bless.
Now, ill wait for that book….=)
Thank you for your inspirational words. It does hit the right spot that is why I look forward to your articles everytime.
I am not a religious person but I do try to keep the word of God Alive in my life. I admit I have a big failure in one respect. God knows that, but I keep trusting him because I know that HE will deliver me someday.
Thank you Brother Bo and the Kerygma Family for helping me to keep my FAITH.
God Bless you all..
It’s really wonderful to have someone who will stand up for you and be with you till the end. But, now a days it’s really hard to find someone who will be true to you.
How will I know if a guy is really into me? kasi naman mabilis ako magtiwala, and sobrang bilis ko magmahal that’s why sometimes I end up being hurt
deAR BRO. BO,
on jan 18, me and my fiance will be tied up… after reading this article of yours, i learned more and understand that marriage is not an easy thing to do… i just want to tell the whole world that im better person now after i read all comments of those who read this article… there are many things we argued about but im taking the flight in my control and i think i have a full load of fuel that will bring us in a long journey…. and i dont feel that we will be out of fuel because GOD is always there that will arrive when i call for emergency landing…. mORE POWER AND GODBLESS US All
my case is different. i’ve never been in a relationship, the men in my life are either my brothers, cousins of a handful of my gay friends. i have crushes and admire alot but none….or none that i know of have made their presence felt.
how will i know when the person im looking if nobody has made an attempt long enough for me to find out.
but for all times sake, i do pray for those 3 everyday.
common values, common passion and common visions
your article is really inspiring although i’m not yet married…(but i want to get married n kc im old n hhehhhehe) well i hope u continue to send me and can u give me some advice on how to find my lifetime partner to be..God bless u and more power….
I’m looking forward for the release of your E-Book, i think i’m going to enjoy reading it.. your articles help me a lot and i believe many people out there feels the same… more power Mr. Bo and company.
Dear Bro. Bo,
Happy New Year!
God indeed works inways beyond our human expectations and Human understanding. He listens and speaks to us through difeerent media.
Reading this article, I believe God speaks to me through you. Yuo see, I’m now at a crossroad in my life. I have to discern whether the way of life I have now is what really wants me to have. Your article helps me a lot. It indeed is true that I have to examine whether my personal values, vision and passion are realized and find others who share the same aspirations in life.
Thank you so much.
Hi bro. Bo…thank you for that inspiring article…I strongly agree with your article…kasi I am separated our marriage didn’t last for a month… we started it in a wrong way kasi we had secret marriage and my ex-husband left me when things got crazy…anyway I am looking forward for the release of your e-book…God bless you and your family…
dear bo,
hello! what a wonderful article this is, this will really help a lot of people. i thank the Lord for having people like you in this world. i just have this one question and hope to hear from you. how do you make the right decisions? God is really good and he just wanted me to see things very clearly, i prayed for a man that i want to spend the rest of my life with, and he answered my prayers, he made me met two persons in my life right now one is my current bf for 1 year now and another test is my childhood sweetheart that manifested himself after 13 years. im just here in a situation where in i have to choose. please enlighten me. hope to hear from you… more power and Godbless. thank you..
Hi, Bo!
Thank you for your ever-inspiring messages. May you continue to touch others’ lives through your ministry. God bless you and the Kerygma family always.
bro. Bo,
it seems i have lost a lot by not joining the kerygma family,graaaabe meron pala d2 ganitong usapan, i would like to share about my relationship with my husband, Y ?
God has gifted me with a protestant husband who had been trained by his protestant father,naturally d ba?alam mo akala ko my marriage will be a perfect one because my husband and me waited for 10 years to get married and it is now our 30th anniversary this dec.2008.i am a catholic by birth and by practice. my husband and i tried all things to always make our differences smaller, maybe having to w8 for the right time for getting married have help us a lot.He is a seaman so he is always away most of our life,but god is so good to create this technology today ,he would always find ways to reach us and spend his vacation with us,he also read your books,i have also brought him with me in one of your seminars in tagaytay and he read my kerygma
while he is on board the ship and he spread the kerygma in the reading ream of the their ship,before i would get angry because he would leave the magazines in the ship later i realized that god is using my husband in spreading his words thru your magazines.In marriage i found out that GOD is willing to be a part of your family if you invite him to be your partner,in rearing the kids,i would always ask him to help me,in dealing with my in laws i always use my love for my husband to extend my love to them and god did not leave me,as of now,i did not have any problem with my children,with my in laws god has given me that wisdom to forgive and forget and love is nit only loving what is good with your husband but most specially all the negative aspect of your partner,love whom he loves and he will love you more, i am happy and i feel succesfull with my life because god has given me children who are god fearing and a husband who draw us to god, and by the way my husband is a protestant by birth and a catholic by practise now.
we also do dating,together with our children and with only the two of us.
thank you so much.
is there ever a possibility that even if you differ in those commonalities required you can still work out?
will there actually be a real-life person out there who really fits the stuff i believe?
hello…
i separated from my husband more than 3 years ago.. mainly because we really didnt have things in common…
obviously we married each other not really knowing things about each other deeper….
….one of the reasons were… he was violent pala… never thought he could be the beast that could be violent emotionally, physically, etc…
we’ve got a daughter, she lives with me..
i guess im still struggling in building my life again…
im sure i like to finally divorce him and move on… coz im really hoping i will find some one who will accept me.. and have common things together… someone who valueas family and fear the lord….
…but, there’s this fear of explaining to my daughter what’s really happening ….
she’s an intelligent gent girl… i know someday she will un derstand… but my fear is now… she growing without a father.. .
uhmm..
hey kuya bo!,
i’m quite young to react over your story (i’m 15).. but i’m aware of course..
not to mention..
i’m on my own shoe to my own future life..YUP! i’m already in love..really!!..we’ve even thought of our marriage already..NO KIDDING!! (even kids..WHAT!!??)..at least we’re aware of what we’re up into!!
and if some people don’t believe in such love i’m experiencing..well..i don’t care..this is mine..
so brother bo!! keep me inspired!! please..
thanks!!
God Bless…………(–,)
Hi Bro Bo!
Its my first to blog here though I always read your article which by the way helped me a lot and my lovedones as well. Youre such a wonderful person and a blessing to everybody and a good example for the people in the world. Wish ko lang our future Philippine President will also be as wonderful as you with God as the Center of all things… Maraming Salamat kay Lord youre always with us.
Hi Bo!
very beautifull true story….. ^^
thx Bro Bo
GOD Bless U
dear bo,
its really part of a woman’s purpose to live and be with the man that God had prepared for her. But the sad part is the waiting part. It’s that moment that Christians tend to compromise since sometimes the waiting gets tough…
it’s my prayer that in waiting God’s strength and discernment will be upon the women of this generation including me.
thank you. you’re a blessing
Hi, bro Bo! I thank our God upon every remembrance of you because you are one of His blessings to all the Christians. You know what? Since I was in grade one, I already read the Kerygma Magazine. My fave portions there were the Jerry Puppy and the BOss. THose two articles were soooo funny yet inspiring as well that I could not resist to read even I was just 7 yrs. old then. It enhanced my courage during my school recitations and built my confidence that I can do all things through Christ. Up to now, I always look forward for another article that will help me understand my present life…NOw that I am 25, and someday will enter married life, it’s good to learn that you have a book that will BEST suit for my age “,) no more Jerry Puppy thing… I am not getting any younger but looking younger lang po…hehehe…Ganyan talaga kapag love mo si God di ba? “,) Bro. Bo, thank you for always sharing to us what you’ve learned with God. I pray that I will be wise in finding Mr. Right with the help of your books. I’m pretty sure, I will. God bless you po…
you’re such a funny guy..and blessed..
you son looks a lot like you..hehe..
anyway, this id my first time to visit soulfood..i’ll visit again for sure.
-von
hi Bo,
im francis from cavite, i have a girlfriend, this april will be our anniversary, then one confusing night, i dont know why but she wants to break up with me, i realy dont know..i havent done anything or said that would cause all of these, the truth i dont expect to hear that from her because i know her as a faithfull, loving and dedicated girlfriend to me and to our relationship..we have some kind of difficulty because she study in manila in other words long distanca ralationship,..what should i do know…i want to talk to her but i wont have a chance…what should o do?, what do you rhink is the problem….
im francis, from cavite..i was very interested at kerygma and soulfood so thats why im here, and specially i could share some part of my life even good or bad with you Bo…thanks…and thanks in advance
hope you’ll send me a replym o realy need it..beacause im very confused now…thanks again
-Francis Atangan
Bro. Bo
I hope that one day i could attend personally your seminars, i am truly inspired in the e-mails that I am receiving from your site…
Jez
Dear Bo,
It’s really refreshing reading your reflections. And this inspires me to go on living.
am married for 30 years already but never found real love. I only stuck to fear and love of God that I could not find the effort to leave my husband. He has been out of job since 2002 and just depends on me. Whenever I finish a project he hunts for another job for me and not for himself. He stays home and nags me if I dont give him pangastos. Nagkapalit na kami ng role in life. He wants to be the homebody and I do the working. I find this unfair. Is this enough reason to leave him? Nakakapagod na magtrabaho for him. We really have opposite likes and dislikes but how could we have survived the 30 years of being together in the same house? I agree the Lord was with us in our everyday quarrels.
Hi Bo!
What a very inspiring article for married life, am so impressed on it. I just hope that every young couple who were able to read this very inspiring article will do the same formula.
I hope that i can receive this free book of yours for me to share also with others on counselling aspect.
More Power to you and may your tribe increase. God bles
You are truly a great inspiration Bo…keep it up!
Hi bro bo,
I have been an addict since I started reading your books and articles, addicted to your writings. They inspired me thru the years and gave me strength when I’m down and under lots of stress.
Keep on writing and I’ll be waiting for the e-books. Thanks and
God bless you always.
Hi Bro. Bo!
That’s inspiring but somehow I still question things. Why with someone, eventhough we shared common values, vision and passion, things didn’t last. It even did not start to go to that level after 9 months in a secret boyfriend-girlfriend relationhip, because my boyfriend’s family upon learning about “us” didn’t like me for their son. And then, he chose to leave me.
What should I do? I am still tied up with this kind of heartbreaking situation. So hard for me to let go and move on. It’s been 3 months already.
Can you help me, please?
wow.. its such a nice story… nakaka inspire sana ako din.
bro bo,
thanks for that story. Indeed, OPPOSITE, ATTRACYS!!!
keep up!
You’re an inspiratoins to those who feel hopeless.
you’re a blessing!!
hi bo,
just wanna ask your email ad..thanks..
Hello Bro Bo, thanks for your wonderful, thoughts, ideas, funny stuffs, and experiences in your book “HOW TO FIND YOUR ONE TRUE LOVE.” I accept it as one of my personal “bibles” in relationship with the opposite sex.
I learned that it requires patience to love the person truly. Right now, I felt restless about my feelings to my friend who is a choir member in our school somewhat 5 years ago. She belong to a large family. She is the 3rd of the seven siblings. When we communicated each other four years ago, she had a boyfriend. When we had a date last December 28, 2007, she told me that she is available already. No one courted and even dated her. So it is my chance to get to know her but the problem is because of our work schedules we could see each other for once in every month or two months. Sometimes we postponed the said activity.
How can I convince to ask her out without having a strings attach? Is there any chances that we could be together despite of our “once in a blue moon” meetings? How could we flourish our relationship to a next phase in this situation?
I hope Bro Bo you could give me a solution to my dilemma.
“Love is a spontaneous movement of value from a lower state of value to a higher state of value.”
- Philosopher Max Scheler
from
Seanix
what if i fell deeply in love with a married man who in turn cries out to God to be with me?we could be selfless and be responsible for our kids, but does that mean depriving ourselves to love the person we truly love? we have common goals and visions and passions , is this where faith has to be truly tested? thanks for the messages sent and God bless…. reply will be well appreciated
Re: janice’s note. janice, i do not want you to get the impression about me having a holier-than-thou attitude, but please.. falling in love with a married man is definitely going against the commandment of God: thou shalt not commit adultery. Thats just it, janice,no compromises with God. If its a sin in His eyes, then,we just have to follow Him.
Pls invoke the Holy Spirit for more wisdom and strength. Thank you. I sense that you are an intelligent woman .
Re- Janice response. Dear Janice, It’s either black or white, it’s either you leave him or not. If you care for his salvation and yours, you would leave him. Look for a Spiritual Director, a Priest who can guide you spiritually. Am sure Jesus will help you get over with it. Besides life is too short ; each moment should be spent preparing our souls for the next life which is everlasting. Have faith in the Lord!
Jesus loves you!…
hi Bo:)
i have a loving boyfriend and i thank GOD to have him.But there is a conflict between me and to his parents…:( but i will not focus on them…I’d rather focus to Love,to serve and to help people around me that”s what the Lord want me to do.
hug!
Good Day! it’s my first time to read your blogs…hehe:0 wonderful!
Thanks po Bo
God Bless po!
Dear Bo,
Thank u for sending me inspirational words. Hope to receive more. I am an avid reader of your many books.. Wish it would be of help to others. More power
hi BO,
im very much thankful iv found ur books..it really helps me to move on..i was very lonely this past few weeks,my boyfriend broke me.hbang kmi pa hindi ko alam n mron n pla cyng iba.npakasakit kc 5yrs din kmi.at ska nung huli kming magkita,’sumthing happend between the two of us “kla k mgiging ok kmi ulit.un pla nung mga panahon n un his already commited with sumone else..
thank u so much hope ur not tired of giving inspirational msg.
hi she…
i was in the same situation, though we were together for nine years. it was really heartbreaking and the pain was really intense…
but knowing that God was with me and that He was the center of my life… everything turned out to be great!
just trust and have faith in HIM. He has a plan for our lives that’s why He let things happen.
You’re beautiful because God created you!
hello she,
like dai, im also in the same situation you are now, i know how lonely and intense the pain is. I know it’s not that easy, at the moment i am in intense pain but i know that soon it will be over, let’s just take one step at a time, just trust and always remember you are NOTalone in that situation, i know words often lose its essence when we are in pain, just smile and rest assured of prayers and His presence.
hello! im not married yet. im still 21 yrs old. my boyfriend broke up with me and he’s telling me his love faded due to our differences. we learned about it when we both enumerated all our likes and dislikes, yet swimming is the only thing that is similar to both of us. we noticed it then that we are totally different in almost all circumstances. my question is: do we still have the chance to be on the right track of adjusting with each other? or since we knew that we really differ a lot then we would just have to surrender each other or just give up and move on?
dai, she and grace,
we are all in the same situation right now. i can relate to your hurts and pains. it is really difficult, but with God’s grace we will be all right. God has plans for us. He will give someone who would complement us and be a our partners in praising and loving Him.God is carrying us right now and helping us to be well again. I will pray for our emotional healing.
“PRAISE THE LORD.HE HEALS THE BROKENHEARTED AND BINDS UP THEIR WOUNDS”- Psalms 147:3
Hi everyone,
is it really important in a relationship that one has to be proud of her/his partner ( bf or husband)? In terms of career, any achievement or how intlligent he is?
I have a bf for a long time now and I dont feel like I am proud of him.I hate to brag but I am an achiever ( in school and in my career ). I explore a lot and interested in so many things..but my bf is not! I have been receiving feedbacks from my relatives about us of not being ‘bagay’ but I just ignore them kasi nga im inlove..but lately, I ahve realized that I am getting older ( 27) and I have to plan about settling down..the problem now is, having our differences, I am not sure if my current bf is ‘ the one’ ..btw,the only ting common in us is food…we ahve broke up several times and its always me who would ask for that cool off thing and its also me who would do the first move so we can be tgether again ( and again )..Im being selfish I guess, bec i know it is a torture on his part. But I really find it hard to let him go..maybe bec he is my first bf and I am used to having him around for so many years.
He has been asking me to marry him but I always divert the topic as I am not yet sure if he is really the one..A failed marriage is my greatest fear..
Hope to get advises from you
btw, though we are exactly opposite, he is nevertheless caring, loves me a lot and has a good heart!! — this confuse me even more!!!
thanks
starlight
re- pop’s note, dear pop- up- hi! there’s no such thing as perfect marriage, neither can you change your husband’s personality, never, you only have to accept him as who he is, as he would have to accept you as who you are . differences brings beauty to married life, if we are all the same, life would be monotonous. that’s why God made us different. so stop worrying, you two complement each other or you will not last that long. stop being a perfectionist and make rooms for slight mistakes, after all, nobody is perfect. take care .God bless you and may you have a happy married life!
starlight
Hi kuya bo,
this is my first time to read a lot of your articles…particularly the stories! it’s really inspired me so much!!! I’m just just and i have a commitment withmy girlfriend…i really want to marry her but i’m not yet ready to settle down (financial matter)…and also we have a certain misunderstanding even just a small things we always debate for it…nut i know to myself that she’s the love of my life…i love her so much! please inspire me always kuya bo….thanks!
=> hi bo, thnks for posting those articles..i was touched by them..it inspired me to read and to write u as well
anyway, i hev a bf and i met him in the Internet.. we are talking for almost 2-3 years na..and i became his gf 1 yr ago…so,my question is..is it possible for the two people to end up together even they met from the Internet? i knw myself if im inlove that’s why, im afraid again not to have a happy ending…please enlighten me! thanks a lot!
hi sir Bo.
my name is et. im only 18 years old. I didnt know you before until I saw your seminar about financial thing on TV last month. I was scanning the channels then. super naging interested po ako sa lahat ng mga sinasabi niyo though its very deep. nadi-dig ko naman po siya and i really love it a lot!
i learned so many things from you, really.
yesterday, I was at this bookstore and i spend my 3 hours in there reading your book “how to be really really really happy”. it was sooooooooo good.
i just want to thank you for all those things that you’ve thought me though your books.
good job sir. good luck.
god bless and more power sir!
keep inspiring a lot of people.
Dearest Bo,
i felt so enlighten when i read all your thoughts…actually, its my first time to concentrate to raed all ur threads but before i wAS visiting only ur site.
anyhow, how i could know if ever i want to seek advise to u?
God bless…
Dear Bo
Im an avid reader of your books. I got inspired and my soul felt very calm everytime I read them. I even brought some of your books here in abroad. But last month I give some of it as a gift to my close friend. I give him my precious collections ’cause I want to share it to him. You know Bo, this friend of mine is also like a lost sheep just like me…a lost soul who wants light to see the right path. Please help me to pray for my close friend with the help of your inspiring books to enlighten all his doubts, angers and hatred.
Thanks a lot for giving some inspiring words that help feed our hungry soul.
God bless you too always,
Dear Mr.Bo,
Hi. You may call me Ginny ( She is the Harry Potter book character I like. I like her because she’s determined, kind, brave,smart, and she has Harry’s heart).
I read your book “You Have the Power to Create Love”. I bought my own copy and finished reading it last Saturday.
I met this guy at work. At first, I don’t like. I thinks he’s maangas, mayabang, and masyadong bilib sa sarili nya.
One day, my close male friend and I had a misunderstanding. I was still a newbie at the office so I don’t have
a lot of close friends yet.Wala akong maka-usap sa office during those days,so I decided to talk to
Mr.Maangas (this guy and I were working together on a project).While working, we started talking about things aside from
our project deadline and the QA tester’s results. Mr. Bo, I’m not sure if you know the feeling, but it surprised me because,
after that conversation, I wanted to talk to him again and again, even if my close friend and I patched things up and started talking to each other
again. Months went by,we became closer, and I fell in love with him. But he mentioned that he’s talking again to his ex-girlfriend (who at that time was still in a relationship with another guy)
whom he hasn’t seen for 10 years. I admit, I was raging with jealousy during those times. Pero I chose to love him, even if alam ko
malaki ang possibility na sobrang masasaktan ako one day. I told him I love him.I showed him that I care about him. Last Christmas I told him how much I
wanted him in my life. We shared some sweet moments together. I fantasized our life together - I,living my lifelong dream as a fashion designer, living the
life in the Europe and married to him with our 7 kids(3 girls, 2 boys, and fraternal twins). He didn’t say he loved him, but I could see that he likes
spending time with me.
Then weeks after his birthday (Feb 27), he started drifting away. Yun pala, his ex-girlfriend broke up with her boyfriend, and he started courting her again.
He admitted to me na kaya sya nag-drift apart is dahil dun, na ayaw nya ako masaktan. I even texted the girl and he told her na he will
marry her, na kahit matagal silang nagkahiwalay eh hindi nya nakalimutan ung guy kasi first love na un.Painful….pero if she’s his
happiness, his chosen one…I will not stand in the way. I even texted the girl a list of the things that the guy loves, para gawin nya ung mga
bagay na yun for him. I could say that the pain is slowly drifting away, pero wala akong pinagsisihan sa mga ginawa ko for him, kasi naging
masaya ako dun.Actually, my happiness is overwhelming,I don’t know why. I’m not even thinking of being angry or cursing him and the girl.
Mas naisip at naramdaman ko ung happiness ko when I was with him, na kahit he didn’t love me back,I am happy kasi he gave me the opportunity
to love and care for him. Naiiyak ako not because of the pain, but because of the happiness I felt with him. He asked me to treat him as someone
I hate para makapag- move on na ako, but I can’t do that. Mas masasaktan ako if I do that.Sabi ko na mahal na mahal ko sya, sabi nya “alam ko yun”.
But my heart is questioning God. I know He knows what is inside my heart. I wished to Him na sana sya ung makatuluyan ko, na he is my own “Harry”. Pero He didn’t grant me my wish (and some other wishes also).I know I chose to be with him kahit alam ko masasaktan ako, still nag-wish at nag-pray ako sa Kanya. I felt disappointed.Even after I read the book, I still felt disappointed.Cheated.Left out.Pained.Mr Bo, I don’t know, pero nagtatampo ako sa Kanya, I don’t want to believe in Him already. I don’t want to believe that He’s fair and just.I wished for Him to give me a good job with great pay so I can help my family
financially and have something for myself and I could start my own business, pero up to now, I haven’t gotten that job. I wished that He will make the guy realize how much I’m willing to sacrifice for him because I love him, but then, nangyari pa din un.The pain of Him rejecting my wish is much more painful than the guy not choosing me.
Mr.Bo, I know someday my heart will heal from the pain that the guy caused me. I’m not sure if it will heal from the pain of rejected wishes.
Sincerely,
Ginny
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