How To Create Your Destiny
One day, Marissa was strolling on the beach.
And that was when she stumbled upon a lovely Genie’s lamp.
With much excitement, she picked it up and rubbed it. True enough, POOF, a giant Genie appeared right in front of her!
The bald-headed fellow bowed low before Marissa and said, “Lady, your wish shall be my command. What do you want me to do for you?”
Startled by the phenomenal site in front of her, she could only think of one thing. She said, “World Peace”.
“Eh?” The Genie scratched his head. “Lady, this isn’t a Beauty Pageant. My goodness, you want me to give you World Peace? That’s impossible. I mean, think of the Middle East conflict that has been there for the past 3000 years. Or the tribal wars in Africa… C’mon Lady, give me a break. Can you think of something easier?”
Marissa began to think hard. Finally, she said, “I’m still single. And I want to meet a really drop-dead gorgeous guy who doesn’t smoke, drink, gamble, or womanize. He should be kind, thoughtful, responsible, and godly. He should also earn a lot of money. Finally, I want him to fall in love with me the moment he sees me.”
For a few moments, the Genie stared at Marissa.
Finally he said, “You know what? Let’s just work on World Peace…”
Friends, Marisa has to fire this Genie.
Let me tell you why…
The Story of Jessica Cox
Jessica Cox is a happy 25-year old Filipina-American woman.
But she was born with a rare birth defect.
She was born without arms.
Doctors cannot explain why. But her father, an American retired music teacher, and her mother, a nurse from Samar, gave her all the love she needed to overcome her disability.
And overcome, she did.
Today, Jessica is a licensed pilot, flying her airplane with her feet.
She also has 2 Black Belts from the American Tae Kwon-Do Federation and the International Tae Kwon-Do Association.
With her feet, she also plays the piano, drives a car, texts her friends on her cell phone, and puts on her contact lenses all by herself.
I read her story and realized anew the power of our dreams.
Almost anything is possible for those who believe.
We need a Genie that believes this.
But you have more than a Genie. You have a God within you who has given you all the resources you need to fulfill the dreams He has planted in your heart.
Focus Not On Your Disability,
Focus On Your Dreams
Jessica could have just moped at home, angry at God that she as born without arms. She could have sat and watched TV the whole day, wasting her life in misery. She could have just cried and cried, “I don’t have arms!”
Instead, she shouted with joy, “I have legs!”
All of us have disabilities.
Perhaps you don’t like how you look. Perhaps you come from a broken family. Perhaps you were born poor. Perhaps you were molested as a child. Perhaps your boyfriend dumped you. Perhaps you don’t have a job right now.
I’ve got good news for you. You can be happy. You can overcome!
Whatever your disability is, the key to overcome it is by not focusing on it.
Don’t focus on what you don’t have, focus on what you have.
Don’t focus on your disabilities, focus on your possibilities!
Don’t Aim For Zero
Dan Baker in his great book, What Happy People Know, gives a mathematical explanation why focusing on our problems don’t work.
Imagine that because of your problem, you’re a negative ten.
In trying to fix your problem, you’re trying to move back to zero.
From my experience, this is slow. Fixing problems is tiring. Perhaps after a few months, you’d be able to raise yourself from a negative ten to a negative eight.
Here’s a better way: Don’t focus on your problem, focus on your dream.
When you do, you leapfrog from a negative ten to a positive ten. You bypass zero! Why? Because dreams excite. Big dreams attract more energy, more attention, and more resources.
We’re Trained To Focus on Problems
I asked my staff to get me a bunch of old newspapers and divide them into two piles. Based on their headlines, divide into Good News and Bad News.
You know what happened, right?
I got a tall pile of Bad News, and teensy weensy pile of Good News.
Media sells Bad News. We’ve been trained to focus on your Bad News.
The other day, I gave a seminar to 200 Store Managers of a clothing company. I told them to stop reading the newspaper (figuratively). Because all they read about is negative: the financial crisis, companies closing down, and people losing their jobs… It’s so depressing.
They’ll be opening their stores with this outlook in life. “Oh boy, no one will come in and buy our clothes…” And when someone does enter their store, they’ll say to themselves, “She’s just going to look. She won’t buy…”
But when you focus on your problems, you begin to have tunnel vision. Like a horse with blinders. You miss out on the fantastic opportunities for expansion and blessing outside your narrow vision.
Here’s a business tip for entrepreneurs: Don’t just solve problems. Focus on your dreams. Solving the problems becomes part of reaching for your dreams—but you did it with passion and excitement.
Why Focusing On Your Dream Is Important
To Your Happiness
The act of choosing is oxygen for your soul.
Choosing feels good!
I’ve met countless of people who can’t choose. They run their lives on fear. Because they fear others, and what other people say, they let other people run their lives. Their bosses. Their families. Their friends.
That is one miserable way to live.
Happy people create their future. It’s not created for them. They deliberately choose what they want to do and where they want to go.
I met a big executive who was so harassed at work, working 16 hours a day. His family was a mess, his health was a mess. I told him to take a month-long leave to pray and reach out to his wife and kids. He said he couldn’t do it. “My boss will kill me!” he says. He was afraid he’d lose his job, lose the lifestyle he was accustomed to having. He was afraid of what other people will say if he downgrades. This big, imposing, intimidating man was really a coward, a man run by many fears.
In my last blog, I wrote that the only antidote to fear is love.
God’s love for you. And your love for God. Love for others. Love for oneself. And love for life itself!
In my next blog, I’ll continue these thoughts on real happiness.
By the way, this is a short version of the talks I give at the Sunday FEAST at Valle Verde Country Club, Pasig. If you live in Metro Manila, join me each Sunday at the FEAST. It’s the happiest place on earth. For more information, call Tel. 7259999 or email support@kerygmafamily.com.
May your dreams come true,
Bo Sanchez
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Bro. Bo,
Thank you for this wonderful message. May you always continue sharing your experience. I’ve learned a lot from you.
GOD Bless us always!!!
The current global economic recession brings a lot of fear to almost everyone (businessman/woman, traders, employees, less fortunate, etc).
But despite of that you still believe that people like us could take the situation differently and keep our focus on our dreams.
Thank you Bro Bo, you are absolutely correct. There are so much problem and yet many good opportunities awaits us. We just have to do what we need to do (best), stand up every time we fail, humbly celebrate every success, and continue trusting and believing God.
Be blessed more!
Cheers!
you may not know it but reading your blogs help me a lot. thank you so much.
hi bro. bo, i always read your blog and i always anticipate your new entries. i don’t always leave a comment. but now, i want to thank you and let you know that you keep my life on track. i also read kerygma magazine and didache even if what we have are old issues. i kept on rereading it to really absorb everything. thank you again bro. bo. you’re making a big difference in my life and i’m sure to a lot of people as well.
P.S.
i started reading your books when i was 14. when i was in high school, i used to read your articles as reflection in our morning praise (just inside the classroom). now i’m 20 years old (already graduated from college) and i’m still reading the stuff that you produce! thank you again! =)
Amen to this blog entry! FOCUS! FOCUS! God bless Bro Bo!
Tnx for your inspiring stories, that bring your readers to fully recovery to give thanks for all the blessings that God give to each & everyone of us.
Thank you so much Bro. Bo
Although I don’t have a Girlfriend as long as I have my family and friends I should be Happy because they care for me and they love me.. I think I should appreciate the things they are done for me.. salamat tlaga Bro. Bo
Bro. Bo,
Hay naku, Bro. Bo. Puro sila thank you sa yo. ako hindi, iha hug kita. haha. kidding!=)
Well, last sunday was the first day that I attended The Feast. Masaya nga po siya talga, at ang galing nyo mag preach. Mas magaling po yata kayo mag preach sa The Feast kesa sa mga seminars nyo eh. hehe. mas alive kumbaga. And I saw how simple you are last Saturday, dun po sa coaching program nyo. Balang araw, magiging magaling din po akong inspirational writer like you, if God permits. Syempre kayo ang inspirasyon ko. hehe. Good luck sa inyong mission, Kuya! God bless!
May God bless us all! Aja!
thanks bro. bo, you inspires me again and again…i really felt down pero you always uplifts me… lately kasi feeling ko im useless kasi wala akong work kaso through your writings nabibigyan mo ako ng confidence… thanks
hi bro.Bo!
know what? am a big fan of yours..hope 2 see you in person,and i’ll give you my power hug.hehehe
thank you and thank you 4 all the inspirations and prayers…
Godbless…
hello Bro. Bo,
It was my first time attending kfeast here in manila. The last time I think that I attended your kerygma feast was in Iloilo last 2005 before I left going to Dubai. I was very excited last sunday to attend the Kfeast in Valle Verde eventhough I don’t know how to get there.With the eagerness to hear Gods word, recharge my spriritual aspect in life and of course to see you once again I was able to reach the place on time.You know what? Upon entering the hall and seeing all the people around me I had this mixed emotions and I just said to my self its nice to be home once again . I felt at peace with an overflowing joy in my heart. I was even teary eyed( sa sobrang happy to feel Gods presence) while singing praises and offering it to the LORD. I just wish meron din kerygma feast sa dubai.Ang galing mo tlga mag preach Bo. Ever since I’ve known you, I look up on you with so much respect and with high regards on how you touch our spiritual aspect in life with your preachings of Gods word..Anyways, Im asking for a bunch of prayers on april 1 as I take my nclex exam. Please do pray for me po na sana makapasa po ako.Thank you po in advance..I’m gonna miss the KFeast celebration and of course your preachings Bro. Bo. Thank you for always enriching our Faith. Your such an angel sent from heaven to spread GODs word to everyone of us.
May God Bless you and your entire family Bro Bo.
I agree. What we RESIST….persist.
Truly inspiring. I agree with you to boycott our news programs because they don’t inspire us to live in a positive way.
Kuya Bo,
Thank you for this wonderful message. You know, it is really true, i am now excited to make actions on my dreams.
Please kuya bro bo, kindly encourage me more on your truly rich club. I feel some hesitations because nowadays many people have been victimized on many “kalokohan” on net. But i really want to join. I just want to be assured of what will happen in me if i’ll joi. I know i becoming a coward in this sense, but please help me.
Thank you very much.
this entry is very, very helpful. my energy, my excitement towards my dream business fluctuates… because of others’ pessimism whenever i share my thoughts about it. lam mo yun, dream ko yun eh, bakit ba kumokontra sila….
this entry of yours is an affirmation that i should hold on to my dream and believe. just believe. sabi mo nga sa ilang talks mo, ‘we should claim it’. right?
thanks, bro. bo.
Bro bo, kindly encourage me and tell me more on your truly rich club and on how I can join the group. i really want to join. I just want to know how I can be part of the group and also if there’s an outreach program where I can give my service.
God Bless you and your family Bo :).
Bo or anyone who knows,
How and where can i download the free E-book “How to know if your dreams are God’s dream” ?
I can’t stop reading all your blogs bro.BO!!!
it helps me a lot mostly in my depressing moments!:(
God loves me and I’m so happy He made you be an instrument for us, specially for me:)
Hmmmm.. It’s definitely a matter of perspective. I think, something like this helps a lot to remind us that despite the obvious (the negative things), we can see it in a different light, a more positive one. Currently, I am studying for my CE Board Exam in May. I’m having a hard time. It’s not exactly my first choice and I’m hating everything now. But Big Thanks Bro. Bo for this one! This helps.
Thank you for this one Bro. Bo! It really lifts my spirits up. Very inspiring. God bless you and your family.
This comes right when I’m trying to make a life-changing decision involving not just myself, but my loved one, my family and a few friends. This was very uplifting. I hope I can keep attracting the positive energy. Thank you so much Bro. Bo. God bless.
Bro. Bo, I don’t have a credit card but I want to join your truly rich club and subscribe. Please tell me other ways to pay for the fee and receive your audio CDs and other offerings.
Best regards,
First time I saw you on TV..and I was amazed by the way you talk..very credible speaker…full of sense…think this is a gift from God.Happy Easter!
The thing about letting others rule your life smacked me square on my face. I mean, wow, I realized that of course you’ll not be able to accomplish even your littlest dream if you let others decide for you and your decisions being swiped down the corner of the room; unnoticed and purposely ignored and unheard.
And you know, I’ve been working on focusing on what I have for some time now and I don’t know why I can’t do it. I always forget. I’d just find myself moping because of… example, “I’m not a good leader” or “I have way too many enemies”. I mean I’m just a 14-year old girl who’s still confused on what to do, what to say, what to think. I didn’t even realize the fact that my groupmates trust me as their leader and I have many friends.
You know what, you’re really great. Because, let’s face it, we already know how to solve problems, how to be happy, or whatever long before, but we’re not doing it when the problems are already there right on our face. Just like we already know how to add numbers but, if we see one big pile of numbers, we won’t even try to solve ‘em. But by the way you explain things, the way you show us how to do it, by your preachings, well you do help a lot of people. And thank you for that. Sorry for the long comment, this is my first time. >_
whenever i feeL so depresed, i just read your articLe and feeL good about myseLf thank you so much….
Hi Bo,
I’m making a quick connection between you and Jessica Cox who you featured last year in one of your talks at the Feast.
Jessica is in the Philippines now. She spoke at the Smart Communications Leadership Summit today.
She said she’d be coming back to the Philippines on Feb 16 and would be interested to give a sharing at the Feast.
I told her I’ll make this connection to you.
You could contact Jessica at:
jessica@rightfooted.com
www.rightfooted.com
Best!
Edwin
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“I don’t believe in circumstance.
The people who get on in the world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want
and if they can’t find them, make them”.
- George Bernard Shaw
———- Forwarded message ———-
From: Edwin ‘ka edong’ Soriano
Date: Fri, Jan 15, 2010 at 5:53 PM
Subject: see you again!
To: jessica@rightfooted.com
hi jessica!
It was great talking to you a while ago after you gave a very
inspiring talk at Smart. Ü
I’ll make sure to connect you to Bo Sanchez (Bosanchez.ph) to arrange
a talk at The Feast (Sunday Catholic mass, worship and preaching) or
any other opportunity they may have.
i’ll keep you posted ü.
fly high, jessica!
Edwin
ka_edong@edwinsoriano.com
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