How Do You Create Happy Relationships?
My little boy wanted a pet dog.
But my wife doesn’t like dogs.
So we gave him a potted plant instead.
I know. We sound cruel, but that’s not true. We even disinfect the torture chambers in our basement regularly with Lysol.
“You need to learn responsibility,” my wife told my son. “If you take care of your potted plant, we’ll know if you can take care of a pet dog.”
The logic was superb. But for some reason, my son wasn’t too happy. My wife pinched me, indicating that it was now my turn to tell my son something. Anything. (I’m very adept in the language of pinchywoo. It’s an ancient dialect where people spoke to each other by pinching.) In pinchywoo language, my wife wanted me to tell my son that he had to accept the fact that he’ll be the only boy in the entire galaxy that’ll have a potted plant for a pet. Isn’t that cool?
I had to think of something, fast. And eureka, my brilliant mind remembered a profound philosophical insight from an ancient source.
I quoted Barney, the purple dinosaur. “Just imagine, just imagine!” I pointed to the plant and said, “Imagine this is a dog. Let’s call him a name. I suggest Ruff.”
My son’s jaw dropped.
“Ruff is very unique,” I went on, “He doesn’t bark. He doesn’t eat. He doesn’t poop. He doesn’t walk. He doesn’t lick your face with saliva…”
“Uh…maybe because it’s not a dog?” my son interrupted my creativity.
“Shhh. Don’t say that,” I whispered, “The plant may hear you…”
“I don’t get it,” my son said.
“The plant has to think it’s a dog too.”
His eyes rolled up to the ceiling.
“Son, you only have to do one thing. You have to water it, everyday.”
“Sure, Dad,” my son intoned with the great excitement and enthusiasm and zest of a…potted plant.
Soon, he forgot about watering his pet plant. He found it boring. Hmm, I wonder why.
And in a few weeks, Ruff the potted plant died.
We didn’t bury him. After all, it wasn’t really a dog.
Water Your Relationships with Love
Do you want to have happy relationships?
Your relationships are just like plants.
You need to water them daily or they die.
For relationships, their water is love.
If you don’t give your relationships enough time, or attention, or respect, or kindness—all of which are expressions of love—they too will die.
Happy relationships don’t just happen. You make them happen.
How do you create happy relationships?
Here is the secret: Deliberately nurture them.
The key word is “deliberate”.
I know of husbands and wives who live under one roof but whose hearts are so far apart, you’d think one lives in Venus and the other in Mars. (Hmm, why does that sound so familiar?) I know of parents and kids who no longer connect at a deep level—because they’re not deliberate in nurturing their relationship.
All the happy people I know in this world are fantastic experts in building happy relationships. No exceptions.
Today, I want to share with you 4 powerful ways of creating happy relationships in your life.
1) Create Patterns of Connection
Spending time with each other must be a pattern—or it won’t happen.
You can’t say, “When I have free time, I’ll play with my kids” or “Whenever my schedule lightens up, I’ll date my spouse”. Believe me, they’ll never happen.
My wife and I set aside Tuesday night for our weekly date night.
Nothing touches that sacred time. Unless Pope Benedict calls me up to ask for my opinion on some Theological issue. Or President Obama requests for a videoconference with me on certain world issues he needs clarity on.
This is what “Create Patterns” means. I don’t accept any speaking engagements or place any of my meetings on Tuesday nights. This isn’t easy. I lead nine non-profit organizations, three of which are international. I also run a few small businesses. For over ten years now, my wife and I have been faithful to our Tuesday nights.
And for my kids? On Monday mornings, I have a yummy breakfast with my eldest son Bene. We go out and grab pancakes and omelets together. We talk about life and how to conquer the world.
For my 4-year old son, we don’t have dates. He doesn’t appreciate them yet. But what he does appreciate is that we go biking together every morning. Correction: He bikes and I run beside him breathless.
Patterns don’t just happen. I make them happen regularly—or they don’t happen at all.
But creating Patterns of Connection isn’t enough. You need to determine the quality of these connections…
2) Be Kind
I know. Boring, right?
Some of you may be asking, “Bo, can you be a little bit more sophisticated? Call kindness something else. Invent a big word.”
Okay, I can play that game.
If you want to be happy, enlarge your psychoneuralsensitivity and affective-interpersonalization skills…”
Nah. Solutions are simple.
Friends, do you want to have happy relationships? Be kind.
Oh, if only husbands become kind to their wives—and vice versa—a lot of marriages will be saved. And if only parents become kind to their kids—and vice versa—a lot of families will become great again.
Yes, I’m talking about old-fashioned kindness!
· To speak with respect.
· To be courteous.
· To show affection. (Hugs.)
· To give affirmation.
· To be gentle.
· To serve in the little things.
· To smile and delight when you see them.
· To encourage.
I’ve seen many people who’re very kind to visitors and friends—speaking to them with great gentleness. They smile at them. They make them comfortable. They defer to them. And yet these very kind and respectful people will turn around and scream at their own family members! All of sudden, they’ll be rude, selfish, and uncommunicative.
If you want to create happy relationships, make a decision to be kind to everyone—your family members included.
How many times do you say, “I love you” to your parents? (Answer? Daily!)
How many times do you hug your kids? (Answer: Many times a day!)
How many times do you praise your spouse? (Answer: 7x a day!)
Show kindness everyday!
The next principle is equally important…
3) Prioritize People over Money
One day, two very proud Egyptian Jewelers were on the street, debating who had the biggest, most beautiful diamonds.
“I’ve got the biggest diamonds!” shouted one man. The other said, “Well, I’ve got the most beautiful diamonds!” Their voices were loud and angry, just like Congressmen in the Philippines.
A third man approached them and smiled, “My name is Ibrahim Matta Zakariya Yunus Al-Yasa Efraim Dawud bin Tariq bin Khalid Al-Fulan.”
“What?” the two Jewelers asked.
“Just call me Ib for short. I’m also a Jeweler. May I tell you a story?” Before they could answer, Ib continued, “One day, I was going to another city to sell my diamonds. And I had to cross a large dessert. But that day, a fierce sandstorm came out of nowhere. It was the biggest and fiercest sandstorms I’ve ever experienced in my entire life. And I lost my way in the desert. After many days wandering, I was dying of starvation…”
“Oh no…” said the Jewelers, “What did you do?” The two men had totally forgotten their argument and were now totally mesmerized by Ib’s story. (That is why I propose that when Congressmen are debating uselessly, they should show Korean and Mexican Telenovelas during their sessions. There will be less fights.)
“I sat on the sands, giving up all hope,” Ib said, “but mindlessly, I went through my bags for the hundredth time. Lo and behold, I saw a hidden pocket I didn’t see before. I opened it and saw a black pouch! Oh, you can imagine how excited I was. Perhaps it was food, I told myself. And so with trembling fingers, I opened it…”
“Was it food?” one Jeweler asked.
“Water perhaps?” the other one said.
“Neither. With great dismay and utter frustration, I saw that the pouch was filled with nothing else but diamonds. It was just diamonds!”
Friends, there are some things more important than money.
As I write this, there are many rich people who are dying on their death beds, surrounded by their millions, but their hearts are hungry for love—and they find none.
Question: Does this mean that you can’t be wealthy?
4) Make Others Successful
You can aspire to become a millionaire.
But there’s something more important than becoming a millionaire: To become a millionaire-maker.
If people are more important than money, you don’t want to be rich alone. You can’t. It’s against your identity and your core values.
So you take others with you in this journey towards true wealth. You take your partners, your employees, your friends, and your family.
You’re not greedy. You give the people you love the opportunity to make their millions too.
You want to share your wealth.
This is the greatest success you can acheive: When you help others become successful.
Go!
May your dreams come true,
Bo Sanchez
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I agree that aside from aspiring to become a millionaire, we should also aspire to be a millionaire-maker. That way, we can help each other be our best selves and reach our goals. Thanks for the nice article, Bo! =)
THIS MADE ME LAUGH SO HARD, I LOOK INSANE IN FRONT OF MY COMPUTER! So, should I doubt this inspiring article could really create happy relationships when it has already had me laughing like crazy? Terrific, Bro. Bo. Thanks for this!
Hi Kuya Bo,
Thank you for inspiring me everyday.
With your inspirational words everyday this brightens my day and being greatful with this wonderful life i have.
May God bless a wonderful man in you.
Hi Bro. Bo,
Thanks for the nice stories. It reminded me again to prioritize my family than my work
God bless!
Aimee
Every article i read really inspire me, i am very very happy… and full of hope each time i read your article.
It brightens up my day!
Thanks for inspiring us and God Bless!
Another inspiring post! Indeed, what truly determines a person’s happiness cant be found on material things (although these are important), but on the quality of relationships one has - with God, family, co-workers, friends, and neighbors. The happiest people I know are at peace with themselves, who don’t harbor grudges and resentment against others, and who are contented. Being at peace with God and your fellow men is the surest path to living a fulfilled and happy life.
i thank God for people like bro Bo, who remind us everyday to LIVE LIFE the way it should be LIVED.
I am inspired to Do More in my career as a Financial Planner - to help people make the right choice and decision on how money can work for them. And to train people to master ” money management”. Praise the Lord!
jess.faller@gmail.com
I am so inspired with all your words of wisdom. May you continue being an inspiration to other people.
Hi Bro Bo,
“All I can say is Wow (pause for a moment)”. I realized all my mistake especially to my wife and to my kids and im very sorry for them. Its true, God is with you! I’ll be back for them.
God bless you and your family!
Great wisdom, Bo. May we all water our pots of love at home. I went to a radio talk show at 99.5 last Friday evening and was still shocked at how people still thirst for love at their own homes, and I’m referring to everyone: father, mother, kids.
And the solution is absurdly simple: Just say it. Just hear it.
This post really reminded me to show great love and kindness to every people. From now on I’ll start creating my pattern…hahaha, Thanks Bro. BO
Hi Bro Bo,
I don’t understand, how does teaching a kid to imagine the plant is a dog going to help him deal with reality?
It’s like teaching your kid to have imaginary friends/pets.
Hi Bro Bo,
I have a son who is constantly asking me to buy him an additional controller for his game console, but I keep on postponing buying it for him. I think I’ll give him a hula hoop instead so he can move his entire body and not just his fingers…which should give him a healthy mind and body and not just muscled fingers…
I’m always looking forward on reading ur articles in the internet…before I just kept ol ur stories within me.. but now I’m starting to share it with my friends, co-workers, and to my husband. You’re really an instrument from God. MOre power to you and God bless always.
nice article, it made me laugh, specially in the 3rd way. i agree on you that congressmen really needs to watch korean or mexican shows. heheheh
I have lived with people who’s really determine to tear you down, some of them wants to box you in a box that they want for you doesn’t matter to them if you really fit in that box where they want you to be in. They really tried all sorts of tricks to inject bad influence on you, oppression, psychological tricks, plotting situations to hurt you or crushed you. I always told my family that I thank God that he made me so grounded on my faith in Him and my values before he had brought me here. But lately, I found myself cursing too, something that I was not accostumed to do after I have been a renewed Catholic. Lately, I found myself saying and telling God that he can take my life, its not worth living my life here where I am at. I have been here since October 2001, let’s just say that the first 2 years wasn’t really that bad but the next 7 years after that was just a constant flow of oppression, isolation, discremination, just wanting to make you feel that you are inferior. I am not saying this because I think I am superior or so much better and holier than my adversaries, but I just know because God told me so that I am not inferior than anybody, nobody is, I am a unique creation of my Lord and Savior. I was fearfully and wonderfully made. My dignity does not lie on my race or nationality, my dignity or my value lies on Who created me. God is my origin. I was careful not to impose my own value system to other people but I think they ought to respect what I value to. Bro. Bo, I have been married to a very, very abusive and selfish man. I have learned to fight back, thank God, because somehow, I could say I was able to survice because I was able to release some of the garbage that he was desperately held bend on dumping on me back to him. Bro Bo, I could tell you details after details of the abuse that he did. Abuse that his church even condoned. I tell you, he is not happy to see me get nourished and revived before when I was still living with him and was going to church with him at his church. he would be literally rude, sarcastic just plain abusive and just really determined to take my joy from me. I think he was and still is so insecured, (I’m not trying to brag here, just plain truth, he is not ahead of me in terms of faith or faith experience, were just unequally yoke) and I think we will forever be unequally yoke because for as long as his motivation is just to top me, or to look like a Christian, then I don’t think he is really headed on the right direction. What I mean is for as long as his motivation is other than wanting to love God back, then I think he is missing the point. And I can see that he is headed the wrong way, that his motivation could be anything but loving God back, because he still compromise on a lot of stuff, his principles are still very ( I guess I should stop here).
Bro Bo I really would like to request you to put me in your upper room’s intercessory prayer, because I really feel I am not cut out to live in the kind of environment I am now. When I was still in the Philippines, inspite of having a lot of problems there too, I used to always say: “Lord thank you for planting me here beside your streams of life giving water, my leaves are always green and my plants always bear fruit”. Now I feel like I am in a dessert, almost dying to get to the water. I am serious, that is how I feel. This is my adversaries doing. I really miss my parish there in the Philippines and the different avenues there that had nourished me. I miss it a lot. Please pray for me. and email me back. Thank you a lot but really Bro Bo, I think sometimes, even if you really want to have loving relationship, (believe me this is my greatest desire to have a loving, Christ centered family) if you are surrounded by people that are maybe really brought up to be less affectionate, or who were told that they should dominate and alienate and isolate other nationalities or just plain others (meaning other than your self, dog eat dog scenario), it would be really impossible to have a loving relationship. I have found out about it that is why I decided to leave my husband. I gave up on him. Pray for me and God bless you all. Thanks a lot.
Helo Kuya Bro. Bo,
Yes, this very true Kuya Bo, that we must nurture our relationship to our love ones. I’m so proud that we in our family are like barkadas, we don’t keep secrets, our mama is like our pinaka-ate, i sometimes call her boy, leng, ..and we really show our respect and love to her by always giving her our sweet kisses and tight hugs…we always do that everyday. Im so lucky to have them as our parents, in times of troubles we’re solid and we always say that “kaya natin yan, anjan naman kaya si Lord” And also i always share them my plans, my crushes, I’m reaaly very open in regars to personal stuff with my mother. That’s why i always thanks God for giving us parents like them, most especially my mother (hehehe..mama’s girl me eh).
Thank you Kuya Bo for this another wonderful reminder. This will serve as my guide to continue and likely to kiss,hug,love more my parents and sisters. I hope that when times comes that HE will let me meet my man, i will also share to him(the man of my life) the love that i’ve nourshed with my family.
God bless us all!!!!!!!
Hi Bro Bo,
Thanks for another inspiring article about happiness.
Hi Cynthia,
I am saddened by your short sharing.
I will pray for your welfare and emotional recovery.
Please be strong and hold on to God.
Thank you so much,Bro. Bo, for the inspiring words from you again. as i read your article, i was able to realize & be thankful the blessings God has given me & my family… for the happy interpersonal relationships i do have.& i do know that all of these comes & be dedicated back to God….
to cynthia,
let me assure you that i will include you in all my prayers.don’t give up, lift all to God all of what you have now… coz in these special moments He is totally with you… God bless you as always.
I am very thankful to God that i am one of those people who have been given a man like you who value relationship and give time and effort. The world is more beautiful, if its full of love. My husband’s kindness, attention, and love color my world. I have never been happier. In turn, i shower him with all my love as well. I pray that all of us will learn to nurture every relationship so that we will have a happier place to live in.
A-MEN!
Hi Bro. Bo!
I always (well, yeah, almost always) read your articles and this is one of the funniest ever. I also wonder why your son got bored with the plant, hahaha… But this is really great! I really appreciate your words of wisdom and wish that I am wise like you.
Keep it up! =)
Dear Bo,
Thanks for the wonderful teachings. I know the fact that all of the secrets of happy relationships, as you mentioned here, were already known to most of us. But the sad fact is, we tend to forget the basic truths because we are very busy complicating our own lives too. Please don’t get tired of sharing the good news..Good luck and God Bless you..
Hi Bro. Bo!
God really sent you to remind and awaken those who are seemingly happy people here on earth. I thought I am doing good in nurturing my kids! After reading this message, my concept of relationship has turned to a new dimension. Thaks alot and I look forward to reading more of God’s inspiring words from you.
Hi Bro. Bo!
Seems you know exactly what I’m up to this week. Right, I’m contemplating about happiness. And that was since you touched on this topic last week.
I know happiness doesn’t happen overnight just as loneliness doesn’t happen overnight.
Thanks for the wonderful insight. It gives me one step higher on the ladder that I’m climbing on the stage of my life now.
More blessings to you!
If you are filled with God’s love, sometimes you’re not even aware that you create love and affection to your family members, friends, and community and to those people around you.
And the love you received from them creates so much happiness. It’s priceless.
That’s how I feel every now and then.
A very inspiring story, thanks Bo
May God Bless you more.
hi brother bo, my friends and i weRe there @ the kerygma feast last sunday… oops, i’d like to say sorry first ‘coz we were pesky about the picture-taking. thanks for being approachable and patient with us. u looked tired, but we were grateful that u let us take pictures of u. nways, i’d like to thank God the most, ‘coz we were able to listen and really blessed with ur talk. u are truly a God’s mssnger. my friends who were first timers, were also very glad. at first they didn’t hve any idea abt the feast… now they were happy that they knew abt it. to God be d Glory! may God bless you with more physical strength as well as your spiritual strength.
very inspiring bro…stay blessed and be a blessing to many…
Thank you bro. Bo for your very inspiring article. You are the answer to my prayer because today I feel so depress and I feel that there is a gap between me and my son. Your article had lifted my low spirit and it gave me an idea on how to improve the relationship between me and my son. God bless you:-)
Hi Bo,
I am one person addicted to topics about relationships, all kinds for that matter but I focus more on family, being married and with kids.
Just to give you a piece of my mind, everything you write about inspires everyone who reads it, some of them feel guilty…why? Simply because they are aware of every word you’re saying. It is easier said than done so…I personally want to thank you for being there to make us realize that “Hey Bo, I am not that bad, I just need a tap on the shoulder from time to time! ” I presume this line is coming from the quilty ones. And now for those who are so lucky to be able to practice what you preach as well as what they preach to their kids would simply say ” Thank God I am on the right track and it makes me feel so good, more inspired to inspire others! ” by others I mean friends and our priority is our inner circle…our immediate family and it is very important to always consider OUR FAMILY FIRST (after HIM…) You know Bo I could go on and on and on but reality bites!!! I have work tomorrow (lucky me!) I have I did not bore you with my refection. Just thought it was worth sharing…I hope. You take care and God be with U and your family ,too.
bo,
things like this are sometimes forgotten beacause this are basics, but the basic things are always the foundation.
thanks bo
ronnel (”‘,)
those were really nice thoughts.. thank you..
i hope mabasa din ng boyfriend ko ‘to
more power…
bo,
u made me realize what i am already aware of.
u know, having knowledge of something but not really applying it in daily life. thanks much.
jan
Hi, bro. Bo! Thanks for this topic. You know what? For the past years in my life, I always wanted to have a happy relationship towards my family, friends, community members and, God…but it will just end up to nothing. It didn’t last the way I wanted it. You know why? Because I was so idealistic and selfish. I only want them to make the first move to show how much they care and love me. But when I accept Jesus Christ as my Lord and Saviour, I realize that it has to be me who would make the first move in showing your kindness,love,care, forgiveness and the like to create a happy relationship with the people around me. I can say now that happiness is really a choice. Thank you, Sir Bo. God bless you always.
I really really really love your stories…all of them!
God bless you always!
I really really really love your stories…all of them!
I wish I can work with you one day…happily inspiring others…
God bless you always!
You’re the man, brother Bo! You’re style is very unique! You always help me in my relationships with other persons. This blog will surely help.
I want to tell you something. I had a argument with my close friend. It was very bitter. Luckily, both of us own a Didache. We confront each other through text. I asked for forgiveness and he is so reluctant to pardon me because I have hurt him so much, that it wounded his heart. I told him to read the main on the april-may-june didache, which is about being a peace-maker. I read it beforehand, and I used it as my guide when I had this argument.
After I texted him to read that article, he didn’t replied. Few hours later he was the one to ask for ‘peace’. I am so glad Didache became the bridge for reconciliation!
Bro Bo,
You are such a gifted person, thank you for your wonderful words, I was very happy to learn things from you.
Keep it up & Goodluck.
Godbless
Hi Bro. Bo,
Wonderful blog and reading. God bless you always.
I am now far from my 21 yr old son and family. I communicte to them regularly and pray a lot for them. I wonder howelse can i nurture this relationship when i am so far. I hope to hear from you.
Howdy Bo,
Thanks for your undying commitment to help others in ALL areas of our lives. Most of us might say that they already knew these things but knowing is just not enough. This article serves as a wake up call for me to always exert effort to reach out to people around me. Most of the time, I’m so caught up with my “little world” that I forget to compassionately “connect” to them esp my loved ones. And as you said… we have to act - & act fast NOW. As of this writing, I’m already busy planning my “chillin’ time” with them! & whoever says that life with Christ is boring should better think again!
Godspeed!
Sheila
hi my family is not very showy when it comes to our emotions but ‘ll try my best to start saying i love you to them everyday..
this is a very nice article.well done
thanks a lot!God bless brother Bo
one more thing, where can i download the free ebook? i’ve been searching for it but i cant seem to find it
thanks again!
Hi Kuya Bo,
Simple and yet very profound. You always have a wonderful way of viewing the world. Thank you for sharing that view with us. It inspires me a lot.
And oh, I’m like Ate Marowe, I’m not fond of dogs either. I would want the potted plant more. Hahahaha
Michelle
Hello Bro. Bo,
Your article gives me a big, big smile..
THANKS for the brilliant idea, surely this can be very helpful in building stronger & lasting relationships to family, relatives & friends.
Amen. Be a blessing to others by duplication. God bless you more Brother Bo.
Another excellent article Bro Bo! Thank God for that message! I will send this to everyone …. a very good read as always … you save our minds from creating the wrong beliefs with your enlightening articles! God bless you and your family Bro Bo! Be happy and helpful always!
Dearest Bro Bo,
Thanks for sharing another great article, just in time.. When I’am about to give up on my relationship w/ my husband….
You are really a life saver..c”,)
A blessing to others indeed…
Hi Bro. Bo.
A powerful message again from you. Thank you for continuing your passion….for conitnuing to inspire other people..
Sis. Cynthia, will pray for you. I hope you can get hold of the talk of Bro. Bo during the KErygma Conference of 2007 - about the Storms in our life…. please check his site. Baka naka online na yun. I am sure his talk can help you….
Hi Bro. Bo,
a very nice article that inspire me so much. i’ve learned so many things and will try my best to apply it.
Keep it up Bo, God bless you always.
Baby
Hello Bro. Bo,
All I can say is that I want to be a father like you someday.
Thanks for such a wonderful article.
bro. bo,
i’ve been a fan of you since i saw your preachings on TV.
Thank you for the never ending reminder on how to love god,
Just went home from my night shift.. Normally, i logged on to your website “preacher in blue jeans” to watch and listen to. That’s my everyday stress reliever.
Your true… i’ve telling all of my friends to show love and say i love you to those who are special to them because we don’t know until when they will be around.
Thank you for reminding us how to create a great relationship..God bless…
Thanks for this phrase:
Don’t tell yourself how big is your problem, Tell your problem how big your God is…
Dear Bo,
Thanks for sharing the word of god to us….May the lord keep you healthy and well coz the world needs people like you who inspire and lighten the weight for his people… more power… thanks again…keep on showing them how great and big GOD is…
Good Morning Bro Bo,
Thank you for all the encouragement, inspirational messages and stories from you. It helped me a lot to survive and still surviving here in Singapore. I was away from my family, and I know no one when I got here. My first week is very hard , since the work is different from my previous one with a very different environment. I miss my family, friends and co-workers. But I don’t have a choice but to stay here. When I started going to church and talking to Him, then I realize my purpose of going here, its for my family. And also reading your articles gets me inspired and gave me strength to face these challenges. Thank you po. God bless and hope others will also be inspired by you.
Hi Kuya Bo!
I really liked you the first time that I listened and or watched you ( that was on TV a few months back). You were a very good speaker, with a great sense of humor with a great sense! (hehe hope you understand that!) What I mean is that you really do make sense in everything that you say, and the additional factor is that you tell it in a funny way!
And just this Holy Week, I again had the chance to watch you on CHannel 5, through your Lenten Presentation: How to Be Really, Really, Really Happy! and then again, I remembered that I really like you.
A few days back that Lenten week, I had visited a bookstore and really had an interest in buying your books. Even just one of them. But unfortunately, my salary isn’t with me yet (how sad T T ) But as always, GOD is Good! Because today is April 15, paytime period and so , after work, I’ll go to the nearest bookstore and grab one of your books!
PS: Thanks for inspiring me…
HI Bro Bo,
Nice, very very nice…
Thnaks for sharing… GOd bless!
Bro. Bo, thanks for the wonderful articles you write about relationships. i really learn a lot from them and trying to practice them because i believe they are effective. thanks again and may God continue to bless you with abundant wisdom and fill you with the holy spirit always to write more that could inspire us always your readers. Peace!
Dear Bro. Al,
Thank you for this wonderful articles. it makes me laugh, even for a while. I’m unhappy right now with my kids attitude. I really don’t know how to let them know why good relationship is important. di ba dapat in order for a relationship to work out, both should make an effort? kung one sided lang, paano? please pray for my kids. i’m disheartened that what I’m advising them goes to deaf ears. please pray for my family, please. dati naman they are good kids, ngayong malalaki na sila, one is going 17 and the other one is going 15, iba na. kung ano yung itinuro sa kanila wala na. disheartened ako.
Lovely article! =)
I had read one story about success, wealth and love. 3 old men represents this Wealth, Success and Love. When they reach a home after their long journey they were ask by a women to enter her home but they refuse because her husband has not yet arrived. So she waited for her husband to tell about the 3 old men. When the husband arrives, He asked his wife to let the 3 old men enter their house but the 3 old man refused again because only one can enter on the house so they must choose which of the 3 they want, Wealth, Success or Love. The husband chooses wealth but the wife chooses success, so their daughter tell them to choose LOVE instead. So they let love LOVE go inside their house, but while going inside Success and Wealth go with him, Because Whenever there is LOVE, there is also Wealth and Success.
I read this story many times. I hope you somehow understand my story.
Me and my girlfriend, for almost 10 years share different kinds of happiness and Love. Until now I am happy and still in love.
Thanks Bo,
Dear BO, I\’ve been in a relationship with a MARRIED MAN, who has two kids, (SEPARATED but not anulled nor divorce) for a year now. It\’s hard BO. I have high expectations for myself and I can\’t tell my parents about the truth in this. He see his kids every weekend together with the ex-wife. The hardest thing is that I WILL NEVER BE PRIORITIZE AND IM NOT EVEN SURE IF HE\’S READY TO HAVE KIDS FROM ME. His kids are aged 5 and 3, btw. If not because of the love and my faith in Him, I would\’ve given up… kahit masaya kami ng BF ko, alam ko MAY MALI. I could care less since anullment is pretty much expensive, BUT I STILL CARE FOR MY FUTURE… I CARE FOR MY FUTURE KIDS. We\’re happy. I want to be with him forever kaya lang may nauna sakin. Your blog had given me strength, I hope I can apply it in my life. Thanks so much BO. And yes, I need advice.
thank you Bro.Bo for this wonderful article
Im SUPERBLESSED 
Wow… i like it not this but all your blogs that I read…
Please continue sending me ur words…God Bless
Amazingly, I was hit right at my very face with these things you mentioned. Bro. Bo, you know my husband and I has a difficulty in keeping up with our relationship and guess what, the simple things you discussed here are a definite help to both of us. I’ll be sharing these thoughts with my husband, and hopefully things will work out right for both of us. Thanks a lot. This article means a lot to me. God Bless.
Sir Bo, i hope my partner someday realize my worth and don’t take me for granted. he always prioritize his work over us. thanks for the inspiring messages.
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