Are You Sexually Pure?
May I disturb you?
Last Sunday, I disturbed the 6000+ people attending the Kerygma Conference.
Because that morning, God disturbed me too.
He woke me up and told me to totally change my talk. Just like that. I had barely a few minutes to prepare, so I didn’t even know everything I was going to say.
On stage, I opened the Bible to Matthew 11:28:“Come to me all of you who are weary and tired and I will give you rest…” That passage is so well known, you even see it in Hallmark cards. But very few read the hard-to-understand verse after that. Verse 29 says, “Take my yoke upon you…”
Which is a rather strange way of giving someone rest!
Just in case you didn’t know, a yoke is the heavy wooden beam that you put on cattle or oxen, so they could pull a plow or pull a wagon. Not very restful, I assure you. What in the world was Jesus talking about?
I told the 6000+ people listening to me that there were two kinds of tired people: Those tired because of their trials and those tired because of their sins. And it was the second group of people I wanted to speak to.
Are you tired because of the yoke of sin?
I believe no one on this planet ever walks without a yoke. No one! There are only two yokes available: You either carry the yoke of God or the yoke of sin. (Anyone who defines “freedom” as freedom away from God is carrying the heaviest yoke or burden of all.)
I then told my audience, “God woke me up this morning to tell me that today, we need to make a commitment—on our knees—to the yoke of purity.”
That day, I just felt a burden in my heart to preach about purity.
I said, “You either carry the yoke of purity or the yoke of impurity. Both are yokes. But one is a million times heavier than the other. And the word ‘million’ is a gross understatement.”
The crowd was silent. More silent than usual. I knew I was hitting a sore spot—a topic no one wanted to talk about.
“Friends, I know the yoke of impurity,” I said, “I was addicted to pornography for decades. Let me tell you—I liken porn to swallowing vomit. It sucked my life. It consumed so much of my time and energy, it almost destroyed my life and dreams. Until God came into my life and He asked me to give it up, in exchange for the beautiful and very light yoke of purity.”
A Word To Boyfriends And Girlfriends
I also talked to singles in relationships. “Stop playing around with this beautiful gift of purity. Don’t open this gift, toss it around, or smudge it. Preserve it and give it to each other on the day of your wedding.”
I asked them to set the bar high. “When my wife and I became boyfriend and girlfriend, we decided not to kiss each other on the lips. It was crazy. And believe me, it was difficult! The struggle was great. But we set the bar very high so that if ever we failed, the slippage won’t be deep. That decision kept our relationship pure. We explored each other’s minds, not each other’s bodies. On our wedding day, we were able to give ourselves the beautiful gift of purity.”
“I know that others put the bar so low,” I said. “As long as they don’t have sex, they think they can do whatever they want. But singles who do this find out sooner or later that they destroy the gift of purity.”
I also spoke to those who already lost their virginity. “Physical virginity is important. But spiritual virginity is more important. Even if you’ve done ‘it’ before, make a decision with your boyfriend or girlfriend to keep your relationship pure from this day forth. And God will give you spiritual virginity. This is the gift that you’ll give each other on your wedding day.”
Renounce Emotional Adultery
I then spoke to husbands and wives.
“Physical adultery is obviously sinful. But how many of you reject Emotional Adultery? When God invented marriage, He designed you to give 100% of your thoughts, your affections, your emotions, your attractions to one person and one person alone. When you do that, your marriage is dynamite. Powerful. Magnificent. Your marriage blooms because you invest all that you have to one person. But when you slice up your thoughts and affections and give one sliver to this other person and another sliver to this other person, you scatter your power. Don’t wonder why your marriage lacks depth and joy and love.”
That day, I led all 6000+ to kneel down.
First, the singles. Second, the couples.
All of us repented of our sins.
All of us received His forgiveness.
All of us gave up the yoke of impurity.
All of us took on the yoke of purity.
All of us made a solemn commitment to live a life of purity.
It was so powerful, so moving, you could see people in tears.
Many were set free that day.
Friends, I invite you to make the same commitment today.
Take the yoke of purity.
Jesus wants to set you free.
May your dreams come true,
Bo Sanchez
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Bo, I am shocked to think I am the first to comment on this one entry.
This entry is challenging to me, and unmarried man, in love and dedicated to one woman. This entry is important, because you are honest about your own challenges
This posting helps me to see what I want from my love what I want from my relationship with God as a Catholic Christian.
Salamat, Bo. I amn grateful you wrote thuis today
Dear Bro. Bo,
Thank you very much. You are really a blessing to me and to all of us.
Alleluya, Alleluya, It’s so nice and wonderful to take the yoke of purity. I am release with all my impuritites.
My heart ,body and soul united with the holy spirit and I was washed by the precious blood of Jesus Christ thru you. Certainly my body is now totally a temple of the Holy Spirit. Almost 3 days now after our Kerygma Conference the burning fire within me a miracle is awaken. I feel so light like a white feather, whitier as a snow that I can say “I am spiritually virgin”.
No more tears of sadness because God makes me smile 24/7, thru you Bro Bo, I can claim that “I am a child of God.” He will never leave me until the end of time. I love you Lord Jesus, my Savior, my Redeemer, my Great partner, my King, my rock and my all. We are super bless. HIS will shall be done unto me. I surrender my life, my career, my family and my love life. Rebuked people who make me sin but forgive them.
So glad to have a Kerygma, LOJ, and the Feast not only a community but a FAMILY for me and my sons.
Maraming maraming salamat po. Mabuhay tayong lahat. Thank you Lord Jesus for all the blessings, all i can offer you is my life, sufferings and pains. Now I know because of Bro. Bo and the K5 preachers “YOU” are just preparing me for a banquet and a feast . Heaven is YOU alone. Jesus Christ the love of my life forever and ever.
Hi Bo!
I was there…with my wife. We were one of those who fell silent when you spoke.
You see, we need to be reminded. When my wife and I were still dating, we were conscious of the temptations that could rock our relationship. While we committed to face everything and just hold on to the Lord, we knew we needed to do something too.
It was why we decided to make common friends.
It was why we decided to join groups and attend seminars together.
It was why we decided to go in business together.
There were other things that we committed ourselves to: weekly dates, monthly dream-building exercises, homeschooling our kids, etc.
Your talk affirmed us because as we committed to do all those things, we felt the weight of the yoke too. But it was a burden that felt great when viewed in the light of what the gospel teaches us; and it was definitely a burden that amounted to almost nothing than the alternative of falling prey to the designs of the world.
I am happy about my wife and in this article I share with the rest of the world my profound joy of having her in my life:
http://www.sidmacatol.com/2008/11/17/a-couples-journey/
She does all these things with joy in her heart; and she serves as my inspiration everytime I go home and wonder if I am equal to my own challenges. She is equal to hers. I can be equal to mine as well, with the grace of God.
On January 2, 2009, my wife and I will be celebrating our 7th wedding anniversary. It will be a simple meal, with our son and daughter; but one filled with gratitude for the grace of being together in love all these years.
I thank everyone who has influenced us very positively. You’re one of these guys, Bo!
Marvin
I was there too, Brother Bo with the most important woman in my life - my mother. I also took that vow and I promised to God I will not break it. Just like you, I intend only to have sex and even kiss my would-be girlfriend (if I’ll ever have one) only on the day of our marriage (if I get married).
You are really an instrument of God Brother Bo for healing me. We have the same addiction and I was healed through your community The Feast with the help of a friend and by the grace of God. The addiction was long and hard and the space here is not enough to write about it. I will write about it in my next blog entry on my Friendster and Multiply blog.
Thank you very much Brother Bo. I am healed and continously healing. God Bless you and your family as well as all the readers.
Glory to God!
Hi brother Bo!
I definitely can relate to this topic very well. I too am a struggler in this area of my life complicated by the fact that I have SSA (same sex attraction).
My struggle with purity is mostly towards myself - impure thoughts, porn, and masturbation. I also struggle with other things of course and that adds to the problem.
At this point, I just want to share these websites which I think is a great resource especially those struggling with porn. Here they are:
1. www.getk9.com
2. www.pornnomore.com
The first website is a FREE downloadable antiporn software and the second is a Catholic website on the topic of pornography.
With your permission brother Bo, I would like to take this opportunity to inform your readers that Prolife Philippines will be conducting a Pro-Life Forum on Pornography. Visit their website at www.prolife.org.ph for more details.
You know brother Bo, this culture of sexual impurity is so widespread on the internet, even on forums which others use to hook up with those who are willing to do “it” with them.
I am personally thinking of launching an online campaign to combat porn targeting particularly bloggers. I am thinking to convince them to promote the antiporn filter I posted above in their websites as my own way of contributing to the solution of this growing menace.
I hope you preach more on this topic especially to your young audiences. God bless.
Hi Bro. Bo,
i was there @ the conference. it was a blessing being there. the talks were very powerful & piercing to my heart. it opens up myself to what i thought could be okay…thank you for making me realize i am a miracle. it also affirms to what i have started doing the past years.. me & my friends are looking forward to KConference2009. We hope we’ll the schedule of it ahead of time so we can save money for cause we’re from Cagayan de Oro City.
keep it up!
Hi Brother Bo! I was in the conference with my best friend and we were actually talking about your topic that day which was totally different from that in the program. Nevertheless, through that change, you allowed God to speak more of His message to everybody in the conference. We were all silent, digesting every word and prayer.
Your talk became a reminder to me to totally get rid of sexual habits and to commit myself to spiritual virginity.
Thank you very much and congrats to the success of the KConference! Really looking forward to KCon 2009!
God bless!
I would have loved to have been there. Nevertheless, I sense that the Lord is talking to me through your entry.
May God grant me the grace to commit more and more to purity.
Thank you Bo for the reminder.
Brother Bo..
for almost three years i’ve been deep in sin of impurity.
i’ve done “it” once with my boyfriend..and since then been preoccupying my thoughts, energy and time with sexual fantasies.. it was terrible that everytime i made the decision to stop, i’d dwell deeper into it instead.. it was devastating! i felt shame!! it was my deep dark secret…
until that talk you gave on Nov 30 Sunday at the Conference…as knelt downi felt as if God spoke to me directly..out of the 6000+ people in the Arena…
i was SPIRITUALLY healed and made pure and a VIRGIN once again…
it was what i’ve been searchig for these past three years of darkness and sin..
i would regret for the rest of my life losing my virginity to my boyfriend..but God would not let me carry this burden so long…through you, Bro Bo, i am now healed, forgiven, and awaken…
a Miracle just hapened to me that day..i am a new person now..filled with God’s grace of mercy and love… May i keep my spiritual virginity intact until the day God unites me with the right man i will live the rest of life with…
see you 2009 Conference..until then, please do include me in your prayers…
Thank you Brother Bo!
More Power To You!!
Thank you Bro Bo for your frankness on this subject and the timeliness of this message…and for so many people to have made that commitment to purity is truly a beautiful thing.
I highly recommend also writings by Christopher West on John Paul the Great’s Theology of the body for further enlightenment on God’s design for human sexuality and purity.
God bless!
I recommend the book of Elisabeth Elliot, Passion and Purity. Thanks Bo for this nice article
this is one great sharing!
i was on my way to start on my usual process to think about what to write about for my blogs, when i happened again to land into your site, from among searches i’ve been doing.
it’s a been great reminder for me, as i still get myself so much attracted and enjoy porn online, while i go about doing my blogs and other jobs/gigs online……they’re sort-of-stimulus to keep my mind working….yet reading your sharing has been some sort of God’s simple yet firm way (among other things) of reminding me to keep away from getting myself distracted from the work He’s got for me (according to his purposes & will for me)….of course, this is really far from easy…..this “yoke of purity” which virtue i’ve been struggling to work most days of my life now, given the background and experiences I’ve got (having been promiscuous during my 20s up to my late 30s—I even wrote an e-book on it, just to document what I got through!)…but indeed, God has His own wonderful ways! I can only do so much, & He does the rest!
God bless!
Jerome
Thank you Bo!
You bit the bullet there…
I entered into all my relationships with unpure thoughts and actions. Until I went through seemingly a Baptism of Fire during an ELIM meeting. And then I ended that 2nd relationship, wanting to start afresh… even though I was deeply in love with him. That day I confessed my sins to an Opus Dei priest, he told me to go back and go after the man I loved, but now with pure intentions!
And I did! We have been married 6 years, and continue to be best friends. GOD is alive in all of us. All we need is to BELIEVE.
To God be the glory. I was deeply touched. I know Bro Bo was led by the Holy Spirit. You spoke spontaneoulsy, coming from the heart.. I am so blessed and I believed that through the power of the Holy Spirit, many hearts were renewed, minds were transformed… i love you with the love of the Lord..
How about the LOJ initiating a conference or assembly of all singles or married couples in the country and have one of the topics about “Keeping Holy” please Bro Bo… your talk was just the beginning… ang daming di nakaattend sa Kerigma Conference… am telling you… many are still there waiting to be reached out…. they need the light of God. bitin ang once a year na gaya ng kerigma conference….
I agree with you bo. That night after Fr. Bill discussed about i’ve also thought of telling my boyfriend not to do “IT” again till we get married and God helped me explained to my boyfriend through you and there we were crying while making COMMITMENT to God and asked the grace of Spritual Virginity. Truly We’ve found the Kerygma conference and enriching and we hope that we could hold on to our commitment. Mabuhay ka BO!
Bro Bo,
Thank you for the inspirational messages that you give us. I attended the Y! Explode: The Bible Adventure last November 29 where you gave a talk. I was the one who approached you and asked for your autograph on your book, Your Past does not Define your Future. I admire you Brother Bo not just because you are a good preacher but because you are not ashamed to admit your faults. You are really true to yourself and you serve as an inspiration to others.
Thank you for your messages Bro Bo and let us all Be Free from the yoke of impurity.
hi bo!
it is really good to read others’ comments re: sexual purity… i read an article when i was in high school entitled “help, im growing up” and it says there that the pleasure we get form “making love” is God’s bonus for married couples. SInce it is a bonus while making “love” a. k. a. a child, it should not be practiced outside marriage. only married couples have the privilege to enjoy this bonus from God. It is never too late for those who have done it before. I wish we all have the strength to avoid committing PMS. in God’s grace….=)
Hi Bo,
I am a big fan of your books. I am just bothered by your statement, “I was addicted to pornography for decades.” You also said that you were a preacher since you were still 13 years old. Does that mean you have been preaching us things for decades you yourself cannot follow?
Please excuse my scrutiny. Kindly enlighten. Thanks
Bryan
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yesterday when i read your post i was put on depth reflection on how i spend my life, and so, as to remind me often i opted to save it in my friendster blog.
i was also in the battle of sexual chastity for years. there were moments of frailties and defeats and for years i saw myself crying and crying again begging Gesu to help me preserve my chastity, for Him and for my future husband if in case i’ll get married. its so hard to find a man with the same spirit and intentions and i rather wait till my prayers are answered than to rush out things and to fall into this valley of sins and separated from Gesu.
keep on inspiring people to holiness Bo.
i’ve been reading your reflections either in books or magazine and now in the web for more than a decade.
God Bless your apostolate Bo.
cy
I’m wondering too Bro. Bo why that talk you decide to give..I thought its about the awakening of miracles within us, but i guess God told you to discuss this because lots of people today including me have neglected Purity. I accidetally have read your book will waiting for someone to meet in the mall ,the book your past does not define your future. For so long I thought i’m the only one who have sexual fantacies, imagining..yes Bro. Bo. i was abused too..i was addicted to porn and after that imagine them…I felt so dirty, but i keep on thingking and imagining..I’m so tired of feeling dirty…i’m tried to fight it but its not that easy..even im in the church it flashes in my mind and it distracted me…Thank You for that talk, lots of people have been awaken that time…I can say I’ve been Purified again..
Before i end this have to share this little accident of mine..
The day i went to the first day of conference, I’m so prepared woke up early and wear the nicest blouse and the nag iisang, most expensive pants i own…then along edsa maybe because of excitement i stumble and fall…nadapa po ako! hehehe,yeah i thought there were water there… sa lakas ng impact na punit ang pinaka mahal kung pantalon na nabili, my first reaction “oh no my pants ang mahal pa naman nito..huhuhuh… so shameful, i want to faint… lots of people saw me, one guy even ask ” okey ka lang miss? ” then i stood up and said ” yes Im OK! with my ripped pants and bruise in my knee i continue to walk…im thinking of going back home and change but i don’t wanna be late in the big event like this..i just folded my pants to so it doesn’t look like its been ripped off…i look like i came from a flash flood…my outfit didnt match, but it didnt stop me..it made me realized that choosing this path of life, choosing Jesus Christ path is not easy we have challenges to face and we have trials to champion to.. YEs..i made it there in the conference and im alone, but i didnt feel alone cause lots of peole hug me they didnt let me feel im alone… I feel superblessed.. You Rock Bro Bo..its not enough..
You really ROCKZ!
P.S
While having the communion, your son Bene even notice my outfit..hahaha…he look at ME ..yeah he even noticed it didnt match at all…hahha..
Just out of sheer curiosity: Why are unmarried couples tempted to have sex anyway? I’ve never been in a relationship before so I can only guess the reasons.
I’m pretty sure it’s more than just having “too much idle time” on their hands. Is it because they want to explore each other’s bodies? Is it because they want to have fun and experience sexual pleasure? Is it because they want to show their love for one another?
Ultimately it is God’s grace that will save us from the evil of Lust… But it sure would help to get a basic understanding the “why” or the reasons for this happening.
Thanks for the talk Bo. Nagulat nga po ako at yun at napaka seryoso ng talk nyo. My boyfriend and I are guilty. We kissed and touched before, on our first year. Pero nawala na yung passion na naramdamana namin noon. Actually, I was also a molested child before, and I have had several sexual fantasies kapag nakahiga ako. especially when I became a teen. But techinically speaking, I’m still a virgin. Takot po ako masaktan sa “first time.” And I am so thankful to God that He gave me a wonderful boyfriend. He pledged that we will do it once we get married. He’s very responsible sa edad nyang 22. we are both 22, may stable job at responsibilities sa family. Kaya wala po sa amin yun desire na gawin ang “bagay na yun.” We don’t feel like we need to do it. I just have one question though. Is it really bad to kiss each other on the lips? Dun po ako na bother. I believe po kasi na normal lang sa gf-bf yung pagkiss sa lips or face, basta hanggang doon lang. In all honesty, I don’t feel guilty whenever we kiss, because we feel the love we have for each other. Iba naman po kasi yung lust sa love. Just like a hug. It’s one way of showing your affection to your partner. When you kiss then you feel like you want to do something beyond that, that’s another thing. Yun po ang delikado, di ba? Yun lang po, iniisip ko kasi na kung masama mag kiss ang bf-gf, then almost all of young people are sinful. We already decided to get married at the age of 27, and it’s five years from now. At the Kerygma, we prayed to God that He grant us purity in our heart, but we also asked HIm to allow us to kiss and hug once in a while, without necessarily feeling guilty about it. Sana nga po lahat maging responsable sa ating mga desisyon sa buhay. God is in our midst, the grace of God is beyond our understanding. Thanks for all the inpirational talks. Blessing po kayo talaga ni God sa amin. Keep it up, Bro. Bo!
Anne
I love you Lord..and i love myself even more now as i knelt down and accepted the commitment on the yoke of PURITY. A day after the conference, challenges were there ready to attack again..and i thank God for setting me free from the bondage of sin and as i was cleansed and healed by God through the commitment i’ve made –it helped me to stand firm and be a forgiving person. Nothing is really too hard when you walk with God, nothing is too difficult when you always ackowledge God’s presence in every midst of challenges..Nothing can be soooo joyful in experiencing God’s love. We just have to cooperate, be obedient child of God… Yes, i love you Lord! Alleluia!!! Amen!!
P.S:
You are soo good in white outfit, hope u could wear it again in one of the regular feast…hehehe!!!
hi bo, praise and thanks to God Who continue to use you mightily for His greater glory and the good of souls! i wasn’t in that conference, but judging by these comments and feedbacks, it is very clear that once again you have become a blessing to so many people. may His grace keep you humble, steadfast and strong.
i’m sure that as a good catholic christian leader, you also remind our faithful that it is part of our teaching and tradition that a mortal sin can only be forgiven through the sacrament of confession. inspired and powerful talks like yours do lead our flock to this wonderful sacrament.
patiently and lovingly hear confessions - especially during this season of preparation for the Lord’s Birthday - is one of our yokes as priests (yes, by the way, i’m a catholic priest) but it’s also one of our greatest consolations to see even just a single soul repent and return to the Father and realize that His love for us is bigger than our biggest sin!
Dear Bro Bo,
I’m really glad I’ve made the decision to attend the Kerygma Conference. It was my 1st time and I really felt blessed and loved by the Lord. All of you are great and are really living saints. Please continue on touching lives and souls back to the Lord.
Take care and more power to you and your community.
P.S.
You look nice & cute in your white outfit.
Dear Bro Bo,
Hope you could give that kind of talk for us here working abroad (SG). Our only consolation to reach out to our friends and family back home is thru the internet (YM & EMAIL). But i cried when i read your article today, because i realized that GOD still loves me. There are a lot of sins in the internett, websites, forums. I really cannot imagine that i can do it thru net. I promised myself to stop but the more that I can’t stop. But i’ve been praying to GOD to help me overcome it. I cannot find a priest where I can confess. Its so heavy. . . my sins is stressing me down. Thanks for this article as it lifted heavy burdens on me. GOD BLESS YOU.
Hello Mr. Bo. I wish I was there when you give that speech about purity. I guess, I really need that. But I’m thankful because I received this post through email. It really caught my attention.
I want to thank you because you always remind me to do what is right not only what feels good.
About this topic (purity), like I said I’m sure I really need to be reminded.
I am single. Founder of NBSB (No Boyfriend Since Birth) (^_^) I guess. Hahaha. I thought it was enough. To remain pure, I should not be involved in an intimate relationship. Because somehow, i know myself. The desires I still keep in my heart are so powerful that I think not being in a relationship will help me through this. But I was wrong.
I was, and am still struggling with it. I’m not pure emotionally and spiritually, though I’m still a virgin.
I can’t keep myself from having unhealthy fantasies. Daydreaming about my own sex life someday. I felt ashamed of it. I always dream to honor my future husband by remaining pure from inside out but I guess, I’m failing to do so.
I’ve read some books, it helped me a little. But I think I needed something more.
Again, thank you for this article. Somehow it helped me. But I’m wondering if you can help me even more.
Thank you!
God bless you Mr. Bo and your family. The world are in desperate need of someone like you to remind us what is right and pleasing to our heavenly Father.
hi bro bo,
God is really good, i have been very blessed with this topic. It has been my burden of being impure since I was 13years old. It all started when I was a victim of incest by my father…Since then, I was addicted to sex and all kinds of impurity including same sex relationship…
I thank God for whispering upon you this topic….I was there so blessed by the fire of the Holy Spirit…I felt that very moment when you instructed us to kneel down and a married woman put her hands over my head….i feel very cold, i really felt that God was really there for me and He really made that talk for me…I know I am whole again…..forgiven…..and a new person….
Please pray for me bro bo that I will continue to live in the fire of the Holy Spirit…..I am very sick also - physically and I believe that I was healed physically, emotionally and most of all spiritually….
God bless you all…You…all the k5 preachers….the staff…father bill….bro bob….God is soooooooooooooooo goooooooooooooood!!!
ang galing talaga ni GOD!
hey JC,,,, salamat sa paalala. kulit ka talagang kaibigan!
salamat po sa message na ito.
ako ren commited na! PROMISE! GodBLess!!!
Hello! Bro. Bo
Your article is very encouraging. And as a single person I myself struggle to be pure in mind and spirit. Many Catholics may believe that long as we don’t do the sexual act it is okay. But having sexual thoughts that are cause by reading sexual books and materials and porns in the internet hinders us from receiving God’s grace. I want God to use me for His greater glory and to be able to do this I know I have to free my mind and only fill it of things that are pure. I know I can do it because you did bro. Bo and I see how God has been using you for His greater glory. Thanks again and may you continue to enlighten people’s mind to the way of purity. God bless you!
Hi, Br. Bo … may God bless you always. God really uses you to touch many people. I was following KyConfrence by internet. Thanks. God is really so Good!
hi everyone— father is right ’bout the sacrament of confession. it is the only channel in which God dispense his loving grace and forgiveness to purify our souls, thereby giving peace, love and joy to our hearts. God takes a dwelling place in our hearts esp. in the sacrament of holy communion. if we only make a regular confession, if not every week, at least once a month, we’ll find out we become stronger against all temptations. who can stand the power / armor of God’s grace? so why tarry? God is waiting for us @ this loving sacrament of reconciliation especially this wonderful Christmas season. let’s ” prepare the way of the Lord ” by approaching this holy sacrament. being pure spiritually, we can be ready to open the door of our hearts for our God to dwell in the sacrament of holy communion.
we thank you father for reminding us ‘ bout this beautiful sacrament. it reminds me of a song, ” Seek the Lord while He may be found, call to Him while He is still near…” we pray for more vocations to priesthood.
Have a holy Christmas everyone!
God bless us all.
thanks once more bro. bo.
Thank you for this wonderful reminder Bro. Bo.
I am only 17 years old and yet I already done “it”.
At first I refused to do it because I have been sexually abused by my own father and I thought that I have nothing else to lose. I was wrong. And I found out after it was already done. I was devastated. Since then, I’ve been having more trouble with my sexuality than ever before. (I probably had the same problem as you did.)
I got lost Bro. Bo. I made more mistakes and I did more sins.
But now, God has set me free from all those. I now commit my self to the Lord and right at this very moment, I make a vow to stay pure and save my self for until my marriage.
Thank you. May you continue being a blessing to many especially to people like me.
Hi Bo,
Me and my wife have been in the conference via your live streaming on the internet. In the private of our room, we prayed, kneeled, and cried with you and took on the yoke of purity.
Being in 6 years of married life with no gift of child yet, the temptation to err is always there. It was as if your talk on purity is made tailored fit for us, and I was hit really hard. And thanks be to God that I was hit that hard, we went to confession the following day after almost half a year of dry spiritual life.
May the good Lord continue to bless your ministry. I am now an online member of your trulyrich club - supergold, while my wife is in possesion of all your published books and really treasuring your works.
We hope to meet you someday in person for some conversations.
Best Regards,
hi brother bo,
thank you for always inspiring us with the word of God.
i have always wanted to attend you preachings, and really wanted to meet you in person, someday..
you know, i can relate so much with this topic. it’s been quite a time that i was hooked with these fantasies, etc. and it came to the point that i asked myself, “am i ok, and why i am doing this?”
honestly, i am so uncomfortable especially with this topic.
i can no longer give that gift to the man (if there is…)that will bring me to the altar. but i no longer think about it kasi baka hindi nya ako matanggap dahil sa nangyari sakin.
brother bo, i wanted to be renewed. i am craving to go back to Him. i wanted to repent, confess my sins, and and to experience that spiritial virginity. badly needed help….
Bro Bo;
I really love to read your teachings. Like others , I really want to go back on god’s hand. Im amazed upon reading this. I know its not too late to repent all my sins.
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Dear Bro. Bo,
I do not know how to start.
All I know is that this article speaks for me.
I must admit; I am struggling- every inch of my spirit, soul, mind, heart & being- in the totality of myself- because of sexual impurities of all sorts and kinds.
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Anything you can imagine!
I am not happy about it.
And I will never be!
I need help. I need love. I need GOD above everything else.
Please include me in your prayers! I really need them. Because right now the only thing I could do is go to confession frequently..Even inside church vicinity, lustful thoughts pop up even when I don’t want them. It’s a DEADLY DISEASE! And the struggle is not easy.
I have read your book”YOUR PAST DOES NOT DEFINE YOUR FUTURE”. It states there that sexually abused people either become a: 1) sex addict or 2) sex phobic. For me Bro. Bo, I got BOTH.
BUT I AM HOPEFUL- that God would lead me out of this dark tunnel of sin- through HIS GRACE.
His Amazing Grace…
hi bro. bo.
Hi Brother Bo, I was there with my husband in the conference for the first time. You know why? Just for curiosity sake, we paid 1000 pesos only to find out we ran out of 500-peso tickets. So, we were on the bleacher, quite disappointed. Not knowing what to expect. It turned out to be a totally cleansing and healing experience for us as a couple especially. Because we’ve just been recovering from an affair and a child - that shook our marriage this year. Even if we decided to stay together bec of the love that still remains and for our family, we believe a lot of damage has been done and it is really hard to move on. We’re still hurting a lot, and we are left with each other to support to.
We were in tears especially on your topic the yoke of sin and/or trial and Father Halbing’s preach. We know deep in our hearts, we made the right decision to continue being a family. We seek God to restore peace in our family, despite the burden and consequences of what happened. May the Lord continue to repair both of us and increase our fatih - that no matter how strong the storm is right now, the STORM WILL BE OVER as said by Father Bill Halbing. And we believe that. I look forward to meeting you soon in the Feast. The conference is the best Christmas gift we can offer to ourselves - the gift of forgiveness, repentance, peace, love re-discovered and restoration of our marriage. After the conference, we knew we came out in one piece. Reply ka naman sa akin so I will be doubly blessed. Thanks very much…
Hi bro. bo, i was there in the conference with my girl friend and that topic really shock my being sayang hindi namin na sama boyfriend namin there both wala sa pinas..i knelled down and confess all my wrong doings. it was really great to absurd the pure love of GOD to us. you really touch my life, and from then on i promise to my self to be pure until the day of my wedding. im in a relationship for 8 years and im just 22 years old. i was only 14 when i get in a relationship, but i made the pact to myself that day when i commit to him that he is the only one, the first and the last..through GOD\’s grace we are still together through upz and downz..Sayang hindi ko sya na sama sa conference. but i told him all about what ive learned..i always go the the FEAST every sunday…thanks bro. bo, you really inspire our life…more power.. GODBLESS YOU ALWAYS, gee
Hi Bro. Bo;
I hope not only 6000+ people can read this one.
Doing \”it\” became so common now a days for BF/GF and even for those who only seek the so called experience and satisfy what most men called now as \”Mens Need\”
I\’ve had 3 BF, all of them demands this thing. And it\’s the common denominator of my failed relationships, \’cause Im not into it. It\’s so frustrating that I can\’t make them understand that a relationship can be intimate without it. My 3rd BF\’s (we broken up just 2 mos. ago) words still echoes in my head, saying he replaces me with someone who patches up my sexual limitation, He loves me but it just wont work. OUCH! It hurts so bad. That day I went to emmaculate, lit a candle and said sorry to HIM for I once again failed to led someone.
I became so confused and even bought a book (Theology of the Body by Pope John Paul II & Free Love True Love) to enlighten me again , to asure me and back-up my principle that sex is sarcred and should not be treated as commodity (tsk, tsk factual - it\’s like a basic needs now). I even blame myself thinking that all my past relationships failed because I\’m too old school when it comes to sexuality. But those books, this article and comments from people whi chooses the right thing just made my principle firm - not to engage on doing it until marriage - hmm I wonder when would that be :(.
More power and looking forward to reading more articles from you. . . FYI I also have several of your books. . .
A very powerful talk Brother Bo. I am truly inspired. I realized a lot and I know it’s not yet late to change. To take the yoke of purity and let the Lord’s love fill me.
Thank you for your inspiring words.
Bo your such a blessing to everyone especially to our young one’s. May you inspire more youth to take the yoke of purity…. Thank you so much!
I just need to air out my situation as it is very recent.
Just last week, I broke up with my boyfriend. Nov. 30, 2008, dapat sana mamamanhikan na sila. We planned to get married after he comes back from his next contract (as seaman).
But before that happened, he confessed to me that he got his other girlfriend pregnant.
Ako pa rin daw mas mahal niya kaya ako ang pakakasalan niya. I asked him to choose between the two of us since he planned to go to Cebu to visit the girl because of her condition. Either me or the girl. If he decides to go to Cebu that week, then he is better off with her.
He did not go to Cebu because his parents advised him not to. So I assumed he chose me. After sometime, he decided to break up with me because as he said “we cannot understand each other”.
I thought then that he must also love that girl to fully let her go. Or that he chose not to commit in marriage because he is not ready to commit to one person yet, emotionally, physically, etc.
This is where we differ. Because even with my past mistake with a previous bf, I vowed to commit to one person in marriage. But it seems my ex has another idea. He desperately wants to get married. (We are both in our mid-thirties.). And yet, he cannot let go of his various affairs.
I still loved him despite of his infidelity even while we are already in the planning stage of our marriage. I even went so low as to beg him to break up with me not abruptly, but gradually. The day after he broke up with me, I gave myself to him hoping that he would change his mind. We had done it twice before. I allowed it before because I thought we were getting married anyway. The last time we did it, I felt disgusted because I can imagine him doing it also with his other gf while we are committed to each other.
I feel so unclean and even now, I am begging the Lord to forgive me once again. I also had PMS with my other previous bf who I also thought would end up as my husband. I thought I had overcome the sin of the flesh after I vowed for purity the first time. This second time, I grieved the Lord all over again. I am very much remorseful and I don’t know if God can ever forgive me again. I believe He will, but not without the consequence of sin.
Now, I feel unworthy of marriage, and the true love of the man God planned for me all along. Probably to lessen my guilt, I will no longer desire marriage because I am unworthy anyway.
I don’t know, I am confused right now. I missed my ex. It’s been two days that I stopped calling him. I prayed for the grace each day not to call him because I still want him to be able to realize that he wants me back. Maybe not. I would just have to start moving on.
It’s painful. And the greatest lesson here is to remain pure while single. But it’s not easy you know. god forgive me.
i posted this article in my multiply so that many people will be reminded. but if it’s illegal to repost it although i acknowledge the site. pls tell me. thanks
Hello Bro. Bo.
I am so grateful that you shared to us your teachings during the KERYGMA conference in Manila. Yesterday was supposed to be the schedule of the KERYGMA feast here in my hometown, ILOILO, but when I passed by the venue, (CAP auditorium) I was surprised to see there was no streamer hanging there for the said feast. When I arrived at the office I asked everybody who might know about the monthly KERYGMA feast, but I did not get any info. You see, its been awhile that I have not attended and Bro. Bo we will be very glad if you can personally conduct it next month (1st wed. of January 2009.)
You have blessed us in so many ways and we are very happy that God sent you to guide us and inspire us.
THANK YOU.
Honey
Thank you for this article, although still single & not involved in a romantic relationship, I’m not excused from this sin of impurity indulging myself many times in lustful thoughts and actions. Reading this affirms my conviction to be freed from this sin. I know that with God’s grace and your prayers, I can overcome this weakness. More power and God bless you all.
Just a follow-up thought to my earlier post…
Unless you have God in your life, all the philosophy in the world won’t save you from your raging hormones!
That probably answers (more or less) my own question.
Dear Bro. Bo,
Thank you Bo!
You’ve become GOD’s instrument not only for me but also to others who become hopeless in fighting the dark sins of lust.
Indeed there is always a way - towards GOD’s love, forgiveness and embrace. And beautiful people like you Bo who knows what it’s like and those who really care & understand. You are an inspiration!
As of now, I always pray & turn to HIM for strenght (for it is indeed difficult), courage, & forgiveness and HE will never reject me as i have experienced in the past & still encountering with other people because of my sinfulness. For being a victim of molestation is very hard for it leaves me with a …yes Bo as you’ve said it- a shame-based personality. I keep on hiding. But now since I am not alone & there are people who understand, I become stronger and more forgiving of my fellow people who easily judge me.
I keep on praising & thanking the LORD for HIS ways! Thank you JESUS for leading & guiding me towards healing and light!
Again, thank you Bo & GOD bless to you & your family! Thank you for the book “Your Past Does Not Define Your Future”. It’s a great help!
Bro Bo!
thank you so much for this very inspiring and life-changing letter.. God is really great in you Bo…
anyways, can i post a portion of this to my own site just to share it with my friends? thanks!
Thank you po ng marami Bro Bo!
Sobra po ako nainspire sa posting nyo na to. I’m 26 years old po still single. I’m still preserving myself for the right person at the right time. Minsan may mga pressures around me then they would ask me why am I still single and yet at this age I’m almost at the peak of my career. Kasi po alam ko na ang ibibigay ni God sa akin ay ang rerespeto sa akin bilang babae at sabay kami haharap sa altar with purity in our heart.
I’m now here in Australia, minsan nga po nakakaculture shock kasi para ganon lang sa kanila kadali makipagrelasyon. Pero am still proud of being me, kasi I know, God knows how I preserve myself.
Bro keep on sending me more articles! Kahit nandito ko sa Australia, I’m always waiting for your emails and new articles that inspire me so much.
thanks heaps Bo!
Hi,
I was inspired and admire you when i watched and heared you last Nov.4 at Morong chruch,my sister invited me here your preaching,so inspiring ang mga words mo.The Lord use you as his servant.God bless you for that gift of knowledge.Thank you very much for that day i met you.I shared here in Brussels your preaching about Him.Good luck and continued your good works.
bro. bo, i don’t know if you really read the comments here but i’d like to thank you cos u kno what? this article was God’s way of speaking to me. i mean, i have been burdened this past few weeks because i’m so tired of sinning and i really don’t want to engage in such impurity but the situation is too complicated that i am forced to give in. i know exactly what to do now but i’m so afraid to lose the person that i love the most.
will God help me when there seems to be no way out? will God save my relationship with the person i love the most?
The message conveyed in this article is very important. Thank you, Bo, for reminding us again of this almost forgotten virtue of purity. Thank you very much. May God bless you more. =))
hello there, the message was very substantial because today it is the least concern of youth. i hope my friends can read your blog so that they could be enlighten not to engage in such activities. actually i have difficult time pointing this fact to them. they tend to ignore me… and as a friend i don’t want to be judgmental with their acts… i hope you can send me a reply on how to deal with my friends…
What can I say? It was timely and truly liberating…Thank you brother Bo - Thank you Jesus!
Thank you..I’ve been struggling alone …praying…and GOD ANSWERS!! I Thank God for once again using you, Bro Bo to touch my life….Not even a vast ocean can hinder you! I missed attending the FEAST…it was my source of strength…when I left the Philippines, I tried to hold on to your teachings…I still have the copy of the leaflets you give out every sunday..but living alone, not much access to the internet, no friends, busy work schedule..I fell prey to temptation and I felt like I regressed BIG TIME….I made a committment to myself about a month ago to stop all these impurities…but I still fail!! Holy Spirit, help me! I can’t do it alone. I was so shocked to read this article because its so uncanningly Timely…I wish I was there during your conference, Bo….but may your prayers reach across the seas..please pray for me.
Pax et Bonum!
I really drawn great inspiration by just reading this topic about Chastity–the most difficult virtue, nowadays, I think.
I am just very thankful to God that there are still people like u who are inspiring others to love this precious virtue, the pearl of great price!
Let us always pray and work hand in hand to spread this good news to everyone especially to the young people who are in need of good Christian education about this thing.
I would always be glad to pray for your ministry. God bless you and Mama Mary smiles at you for this!
One with you Kuya Bo,
NICK, franciscan friar-TOR
I was there too… my boyfriend and I were in the ocean of people present last weekend.. It wasn’t just an event that happened but an experience where lives were changed instantly…the talk about the yoke made each person present silent and I know hearts are being burned…as if we all wanted to get out but with God’s grace, people were healed instead from the bondage of sin…and it gave hope… it was an awkward topic but Bro Bo, you made it sound like it was so easy to talk about…and making all of us kneel down showed how we all wanted to get healed in whatever sickness, physical or emotional…thank you for always thinking of all of us…thank you for allowing God to use you in many ways….thank you for blessing us with your gifts…
God bless you more…
Thank you for the moving article. I am “between floors” lately, after giving almost everything I have to a person who has different priorities than mine. In the end, we ended up breaking each other’s heart, mind, body and spirit —t’was devastating for me, to say the least. I have not totally gotten over my heartache, but I have resolved earlier on to move on and recover what needs to be rebuilt. I am amazed that up until now, I still haven’t gotten past square one, step one, first base. God and His angels are speaking to me through you and I know that I should listen, I should start reclaiming my purity and take the yoke He has long been offering me.I am looking it over, trying to see the beauty of the gift He is unconditionally offering me —it is unbelievable wonderful, as it is with all of his graces which He constantly showers upon me.God loves us, Bo —that I fully realize now.I need to embrace the life He wants me to lead because He wants me to be with Him always. Thank you for always.
bro. bo, in my previous comment i asked if God will help me. and YES He did! the first one was this article, then the next one was that i was able to tell my boyfriend that we should stop and we did! and he didn’t threaten me that he would break up with me anymore! GOD IS SO GOOD!
everyone! please read PSALM 34!
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Hello Bro Bo!.. gudmorning… I just grabbed this opportunity to give my big thanks for all of you, all those preacher who gave a talk last kergyma conference2008.. And I am one them who attended that big event of miracle!.. Truly, it was an amazing, wonderful, very inspiring, very incouraging and unforgotten event of my life… And as well as, it touched my heart and soul so much.. After the Kergyma conference evrything did changed.. I, myself, can’t explain it to others but all I can say..God’s miracle is already w/ me.. I am full of joy, peace in my heart and everything was so light to carry… I always used to share it to others, to my friends, officemates, my co-community in SFC and to my family.. To the point when I got home last sunday nyt, I am really excited to tell them (my family) what miracle that happened to me that weekend,.. I felt that I am so blessed! I am renewed for everything in my life… From my sin, for not being a good servant and as daughter of God… No regrets for being there! I cried a lot,,Even I am in a crowd that moment, I felt that Jesus Christ is talking to me in my front as I felt His warm embrace ..Thinking that it was only me and God was there..That was the worship part of Jon Escoto and your last talk to us the purity of yoke… I cried a lot Bo, it really touched my heart, there’s pain that moment because I know before I attended the conference I choose to take the impurity for so long… Bro bo, thank you so much for that wonderful event.. God really works on me.. in every single moment of my life.. and with faith miracles will happen on us, as an overflowing love and blessing from Him… Praised God! You’re really a God’s blessing and instrument for all of us to awaken our sleepy spiritual life and to have a personal relationship w/ God…, together with your co-preachers, the whole member of kergyma family and light of JEsus community, all of you are God’s gift for all of us…Including Fr.Bill, his wonderful talk and touching homily…I really have fan too, listening the talk of Fr.Bill.. Fr. Bob Canton that uplifts more my spiritual life..By Faith everything is possible to happen!… Nothing to say for having a life with God… Thanku so much again Bro Bo and I know God will always bless you abundantly!… Halleluah!
Hello Bro. Bo,
This has moved me. I shared it with my boyfriend.
Thanks for all the inspiring words.
hi bo!
i was there in the conference and like other, i felt silence when you told us that spiritual purity…
I had an affair with a married man yet after that talk, it enlighten me so I decided to cut the relationship that we have. its so hard for me right now…I’m struggling hard, cry almost every night yet I’m hoping that ill be fine soon…
i want to coomit myself in spiritual purity..i need a support right now.
please help me…
thanks
Hello Bro Bo,
Thank you very much for sharing this article with us. Sex is rather a very sensitive issue to tackle but kudos to you.
I would like to suggest too that we have take a deeper look unto this sensitive issue. Sexual energy is a natural thing, it is ingrained into our being. Our sexual drives comes from God too. I believe too that we have to educate our brothers and sisters that sex is not bad, it just has to be placed in its proper context.
Whatever sexually impurity our brothers and sisters committed in their past, there is hope.
After committing to sexual purity, what is the next proper action to do? Other people might be confused. Why do they keep going back to their impure thought and actions?
Let me share with you a chapter from Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich. Chapter 11 tackles that sexual energy can be tapped to make you creative, imaginative, and rich.
To quote, “A river may be dammed, and its water controlled for a time, but eventually, it will force an outlet. The same is true of the emotion of sex. It may be submerged and controlled for a time, but its very nature causes it to be ever seeking means of expression. If it is not transmuted into some creative effort it will find a less worthy outlet.”
Here’s the link to the chapter of the book: http://www.sacred-texts.com/nth/tgr/tgr16.htm
I agree with you that BFs and GFs should explore their minds and not their bodies before going unto marriage. Couples should be encouraged to channel their energies to creative ones like participating into different church, socio-civic related activities, business, and other things that will make them and their relationship fruitful. Married couples should do the same to keep the flame of their relationship.
Eventually, we hope that enlightenment will reign and that we will be able to distinguish the differences between sex, romance, love and their combination.
Thanks so much!
God Bless and More Power!
Bro Bo,
Thanks for the wonderful messages. While evrybody keeps thanking you, I think you also need our prayers and I’ll be one of them. We’ll keep praying for you Bro Bo. May you be in the best of health always. May you be blessed so that you may continue to be a blessing to all of us!
God bless
Bro Ed
I am not physically pure. I gave my body for a man who has no intention of marrying me, hoping thatby doing so, he will come back to me. How can i be so stupid.. sometimes i hate myself for having done so, i disappoint God above all.
This virtue is so far fetch in the western world that if you exercise virginity and purity they even think you are somewhat crazy. To prove my point, just watch the movies. As I analyse their lives they have very dysfunctional families and indeed carry very heavy yokes. The sad thing is that they don’t even know about it and think “it is just a normal life”.
God in Genesis says, ” Go to the world and multiply. ” Thus, married couples become partakers of God’s plan for procreation. Hence, sex in marriage as a gift from God becomes beautiful, most of all sacred. In the Sacrament of Matrimony, man and woman becomes one, ” Man and woman leaves their father and mother, and the two shall become one flesh.” Such a powerful Sacrament, just like the Holy Orders to the Religious. How can a gift as sacred and beautiful becomes ugly? It becomes distorted and desecrated when man and woman disrespect God’s plan in the way He intends it to be. It’s like opening or stealing a birthday gift that’s not intended for you. Sex is the ultimate expression of love between husband and wife ; though it is not everything in marriage, it enhances married couple’s relationship. I’ve read somewhere in the Bible ( am poor in remembering chapter and verses ) , it says, if you can’t commit to chastity , better be married than stay in sin. ( hope i got that right ). Yes, we become chaste too when we’re faithful to our spouses, to our marriage vows, loving each other, ” In sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, until death do us part. ”
Be happy everyone !
Let’s ” prepare the way of the Lord ” this Advent season.
Thanks Bro. Bo for this precious space.
God bless you and your family.
[…] The second day of Kerygma Conference 2008 was another turning-point. I came on the second day of Kerygma Conference 2008 with the most important woman in my life - my mother. Bo Sanchez suddenly changed his talk and instead disturbed the people (including myself) who attended the conference. You can read his blog entry about it by clicking “Are You Sexually Pure?” […]
Hey Bro Bo,
I wasn’t able to listen to this talk on the last day of K-con that’s why I’m waiting your video updates on PIBJ. But I think you already pointed this out on your book How to Find Your One True Love and it was liberating to know that we can be pure inspite of temptations if we set our hearts and minds to it ’til that special day. I am very much thankful for being admonished, taught and reminded with such very chastise things as this world is getting not so good. But I believe we ought to share this to those who much needed it. Thank you Bro Bo, we receive so much from God through you and we will give it to others too….. God bless you more….
It is such an eye-opening article for all those who are in a boyfriend girlfriend relationship! I am very fortunate that God has always been there and i am proud to say that my boyfriend and i has never gotten in to that stage. It is very true, if your partner loves you he would always be willing to wait and what can i say we are getting married next year.
Dear Bro. Bo,
I was one of those much-affected by your call to renounce “emotional adultery”. I cried so much during the 2nd day of the conference because I really felt that God was using you to speak to me, and the irresponsible actions I have been committing. You see, Bro. Bo, I am married (with 2 sons, aged 19 and 13) but I have been e-mailing my “first love” (who is happily married), enjoying this new hobby, daydreaming, and weaving impossible scenarios with me and my ex-boyfriend in the lead roles. I somehow knew that I had to attend this conference because God had a message for me, and true enough, I was hit right smack on my face.
I really felt guilty and ashamed of what I have done, and I did kneel down to take up my yoke of purity then. I just hope and pray that God will give me enough strength to sustain this commitment that I have vowed to take.
I thank the Lord for you. Thank you for the inspiration you give.
May God bless you Bro. Bo…
Bro. Bo,
I really don’t know when to start but let me admit that I have fallen in the same temptation, I am technically a virgin though, at 32. Exploring is a sin I know but I still want to keep my “technical virginity ” until I am married….for the right man. But honestly, I really don’t know until when I can keep it because now, I think I lost the belief that there are still good men worth keeping it for or should I say, I am not really sure if I’ll get married because it seems that I keep meeting the wrong guys. You see, I grew up doing service for the church and was even active in community for singles that is why I really wanted to do it for man I’ll marry. I believe in true love waits…but that belief is starting to fade. Call me jaded but I’m getting tired and frustrated of hoping that the man I’ll meet is the one. Please enlighten me.
i can relate to the article, ive had sex with the wrong guys who ended up and leaving me. im in the vicious cycle of chasing guys to feel loved and cared for when all along they’re just using me. i met a wonderful guy the past 2 months but sadly he broke up with him because he came from a traditional chinese family and his mom wants him to marry someone from their community. a couple of days after that i found out that i failed my board exam. i was at my lowest point… while going through my past blogs, i came upon an entry with me getting way drunk after drinking with a guy I just met abroad and then obligingly having sex with him at the back of his car. not more than a month after, another guy left me in the middle of night in a town i dont know because I refused to have sex with him. I called my mom and told her how hurt I was feeling and she cried with me telling me that she hurts way more because I’m her baby. I finally realized that all along I was so hung up on these guys that I never gave importance to this one guy who loves me all along and who will never use me or leave me, it’s Jesus.
I’m so grateful for my mom and our open relationship. this article too made me realize that i can still start a new life. it won’t be easy but I know God will guide me the way.
God really knows what i need at this point in my life.
i’m also a person struggling to be the “best” Christian. Best, because, ‘di ba, we must give only the best to the One who is the Best among us all?
pero many, many, many times i fail to become the best that i can be, the best that Jesus dreams for me to become. because like many others, i’m heavily burdened with this yoke of sin. the yoke of impurity.
and it’s really taking me down; with my sins, i feel that i’m worthless, and worse, i lose respect on myself.
this is a deep, dark shadow about me that no one knows, except me and God in whom i can never hide anything.
thanks for this wonderful article. It’s very powerful. For people like me who are struggling to walk the straight path, to transform ourselves, to purify our thoughts, our hearts and our soul… this article gave us a great reason why we must choose the road to purity. For Jesus is more than willing to carry the yoke with us. He is always offering Himself to me, so that He could accompany me towards the path of purity. “We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us,” as St. Paul reminds us. I must not stop trying, i must keep holding on to Jesus who would give me the grace that i need to become truly pure and pleasing in the eyes of the Father.
thank you so much for enlightening me and all of us with this article. God bless you all the more!
Dear Bo,
It has been so long before i could find the right time for me to look for you in the internet, i was an avid reader of kerygma magz, it was introduced to me by a special friend of mine during our college days one and a half decade ago, since then i tried to catch up your monthly magazine release, i even dreamed of being one of those who are attending your Kerygma Feast and much more to sponsor a feast here in Laguna but the problem is, can i afford to have one?
i was so inspired with how you dealt with impurity because as of this very moment, very timely that i was able to read this article, i’m in deep trouble with purity. It gave me inspiration and hope from there i could find the strength.
Thank you so much and more power to Kerygma Staff specially to your editor-in-chief, the new mommy, rissa singson-kawpeng. Your magz really a blessing.
hallo .. tito boo .. i am so happy about this .. i am single .. but tito .. like you before i am also sinful .. and i dont know how to be pure :[ even if i want too .. but i just dont know where to start .. and what will be Gods message for me because i always fall .. its so hard to change and forget the evil ways .. but i really wanna do it ;(
dear Br. Bo,
avoiding porn is not the easiest thing to do for me. I’ve tried to stay “clean” for the past 5 months. but it’s very hard. and somehow it gets worst. Now I’m craving for other women beside my wife.
I feel like a moth drawn into the light of fire. I know it will burn me, but somehow I’m stil attracted to it.
I hope you will pray for my situation.
GBU !
hi bo
i shared this topic to my boyfriend. we’ve been doing sexual activities even though i know for myself it is a sin. sometimes, i fool myself that it’s okay as long as we’re doing it for love not for lust.
i tried to convince my boyfriend but he refused to.
he said, it’s already part of our relationship.
what shall i do?
hi bo! thanks so much for this article of yours. it really helped me. i just lost my virginity after 21 yrs of taking good care of it. and what\’s worse is that i later found out that my bf was cheating on me. it was really a big blow to me and to my family. today, though, my parents have given me their forgiveness. and maybe God too..but until now, i can\’t forgive myself. your article somehow inspired me that even if i had lost it, i can still be pure. and it even made awe in wonder that God would still give me his yoke of purity if i repent from my sin and commit that i would never do it again.
bo,i really need counseling right now. is there any way that you could help me?please. thanks and more power!
Dear Bro Bo,
I hope you are doing fine and everything’s going well for you and your family.
I emailed you today because I am now in a situation which I think you (and most probably your wife) can give me some enlightenment. It took me a while to write because I feel embarrassed. But now I can’t take it anymore.
My situation is, my husband is also a fan of pornography What do I have to do to make him stop? We have talked about it, fight over it. But still no resolution. He always has justifications to everything he does. And he can’t seem to get to listen to my side of the situation, how I feel and what my thoughts are about pornography. It is always then about how he feels and his needs and the importance of pornography to his sex life.
He used to have CDs and magazines. I got rid of it all, with his agreement, of course. But now, he has the internet. And I cannot anymore get rid of it.
Bo, please help me. This issue has made me very stressful ever since we got married. This year would be our fifth wedding anniversary. There are so many times when I want to get out of the marriage. But then I
don’t want to lose him, I love him very much. So for almost 5 years now, nagtitiis ako. Wala na yatang buwan na hindi ako umiiyak. And it is just because of this pornography issue. He wants me to accept him for what he is. He wants me to change my point of view. But I know also
that this is a sin from God. If I tolerate his sins, I might also be committing a sin. He said I am making it an issue when it should not be.
I am really very confused as to what to do. I know that I cannot change him. Only God can. So, Bo, I am asking for your advice on the situation. I am afraid I might go crazy or have a heart attack from thinking of these things.
Thank you very much. God bless you and your family always.
Dear bo,
Reading your article gave me a spark of hope to change my life and my relationship with my boyfriend. It also inspired me to commit myself to spiritual purity for Ive been struggling to live a pure life for the past 4 years. It’s really har but I am always hopeful that God will help me with my struggle. your article is an affirmation that indeed I have hope and I can change my life.
Im really bothered right now because of what me and my boyfriend is doing. I also think that eversince we started doing intimate acts together our reason to love each other changed and our relationship totally changed. I guess that is the consequence of sin…emotionally and spiritually its very draining.
please continue praying for me so that I’ll be able to get out of sin and free myself from this yoke in my life.
God bless! Thank you for inspiring us!
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Dear Bro. Bo,
kamusta po?
thank you for all the articles that you’ve sharing to me and to millions of your subscribers. you are really a blessing to us. It really helps me specially when no one seems to answer my questions in life.
I pray you 3 H in life happiness, good health and holiness! more power your ministry.
thanks for the article Brother Bo!
I have been going through a very rough battle in my life right now. I am only 13 and I have been watching porn. To me, I just wanted to relieve myself from stress. But soon, it became an addiction just like you. I don’t know how I became of it but I think its God’s ‘test of faith’ he is giving me. Sadly, I am not doing so well in this ‘test’ I always try to quit but whenever I veer my mind away from it, the devil comes back and tempts me to watching it again. I have been battleing for years already and whenever I try to keep myself ‘pure’ the thoughts come back and I come back from my old habits. I know God is disapointed in me for what I am doing, but please Lord, give me another chance. I know I have always been breaking these promises but please give me another chance. I know I can’t fight this alone, so please, pray for me for I have sinned. So please Brother Bo, you had the same experience as me, so please help me out. I want to change my life and be ‘pure’ again. So pray for me.
Dear Bro. Bo,
This artcile really made me weep! I realize that I am living in a real impure life, and your article influences me to finally decide to change for good.
Its kinda funny. Yesterday my friend, Anne, told me about your site. She also told me that she watched you in a show aired during Holy Week. I asked myself where am I during that time and why I wasnt able to watch that show. And answer is: I am doing something else. Since then, Anne becames one of your avid supporter, she even brought a book that you wrote (How to be really really really happy?), and even planning to buy the other books. She let me read the book first, and the contents of your book is awesome. Short yet fantastic. Simple yet capturing the real story of everyday lives.
I thank God for this incidence, for my friend Anne and for you Bro Bo. Because without Anne, I could never happen to know who you are, and without you, I could never happen to read your articles, and without your articles, I could never happen to evaluate my life.
From this day, Bro. Bo, I will change. And thank you for your existence, for giving inspiration to each and everyone of us. Thank you for being a God’s instrument to us.
God Bless always, Bro. Bo.
MJ
Dear Bro. Bo,
Thank you for this article, it helped me to analyze myself, my life and to change it the way i lived to it.
After reading your articles theres a lot of realization comes to my mind that unitl now i see myself living my life fulls of impurity…. because of you, of my frends who shared to me your aticles, you influenced me so much and make a promise that i’ll change my life…
Thru your articles i see myself that i lived in impurity not in purity. I know i cannot do the changes i wanted to be by my own so helped me by your prayers.
I just want to thank Jesus Christ for giving you to us being HIS instrument to share a lot of things to realize and to enlighten our lives thru your articles…
You inspired a lot of people and even me.. Thank you so much Bro. Bo for your existence and we really really appreciate it so much…
God Bless always Bro. Bo and continue to be His instrument to inspire a lot of people… Thank you so much!
Raquel
Thank you for this article. I am asking to pray for me and my partner too to be spiritually pure for God.
Hi Bro. Bo:
I will write about you in my blog very soon because you are now my earthly model in following the Lord. Your admission to sin has impressed me. I have always wished that the biographies about saints will contain the times when they sinned even after deciding to follow the Lord. So far, what I read are sanitized versions as though they were instantly transformed after their conversion. Maybe they were. But if the hagiographers simply omitted those times when we reverted to sin, then they’ve done us a disservice. You on the other hand have confessed publicly your sin, your repentance and your forgiveness. So, within this week I shall write about you at http://www.divine-ripples.blogspot.com/ and that will get cross posted at http://www.catholic-dads.blogspot.com/ as well. I have been listening and watching your posts in your other sites. Praise God for His work in you. Thank you for being open to God.
Ric
Hi Brother Bo…
I really want to attend your FEAST and hear the word of God. I’m so touched with this article even though I didn’t attend the said conference. I had this second thought after reading it because I used to carry this “yoke of impurity” in my life. I’m really ashamed of myself by doing those kind of stuff which I think married people could only do it. Before I was thinking of my sexual satisfaction and desires but now I realize that you were right. I hope I could have this spiritual virginity and set aside those impurities. I really want to change Brother Bo and I hope you could help me. Thank you so much for putting this kind of site because through this you touches many lives as well as mine..
who would not be deeply moved by this message? thanks again, bo.
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